any 35 plus moms to be out there??

[jenjingles]

Hi all just thought i'd ask if any one has had any negative comments off people when told you were pregnant los of my colleagues have said oh dear was it a terrible mistake and aren't you worried about your age, the most upsetting one was off a so called friend who said it wouldn't do my 10yr old son and 8yrold daughter any good!! aaaaagggghhh has ay one else experienced this?

tell them to mind their own bleeeedin business

i'm 36 and pg but don't feel that unusual tbh. ds is only 20mo so there won't be big gap, so i'm unlikely to attract comments for that reason...

i wouldn't mind but the children are over the moon! i think i just needed a moan!!

I'm 36 and no. 3 is on the way, due end of April. School mums have commiserated, thinking there's been some hideous accident, but I have no problems in putting them straight.
If Madonna can start having children at 41 then we are mere spring chickens!

yup - am 38 will be 38 1/2 when no3 is born...but was 33 when I had my first and was called a geriatric mother then so figure - no hassles.

As to the rude comments.... ignore as you put it so called friend.

Am 39, but have no other kids, so thus no comments like that.

Feel like a relative late starter, but that's nobody's business but mine.

Tell your "friend" to fuff off!

I'm 42 and expecting number 3. When this one is born there will be just less than 2 years between 2 and 3. I was 38 when I had number 1.

I was called a gereatric mum with my first but this time round no one is batting an eyelid.

that's 39 and 20weeks pg!

I'm 37 and I'm 27 weeks pg atm. Baby is due just after my birthday (cross your fingers it's not ON my birthday!) so I'll be 38. We've been trying for 9 years (I have endometriosis so it's been a struggle), so most people have been really good so far.

The only negative comments we've had were from my in-laws who, despite knowing how long we've been trying, went on and on about "what old parents you're going to be!" and "oooh, you'll be sooo old by the time it's in college!". It really upset me at the time as it's my fault it's taken so long. I'm reassured though by the fact that my Dr, MW and sonographer have all been thrilled for me and haven't batted an eyelid over my age, and the fact that 3 of my friends are all "older" mothers (my best friend has 3 kids ages 9, 6 and 4 and she's just turned 45).

As to it not doing your 10 years old and 8 year old any good, My DH has 2 brothers, one is 13 months older than him, but the youngest is 10 years younger, and he's incredibly close to both of them. The two oldest loved having a much younger brother to play with, and as they got old enough they got to be the ones to take him great places, like his first trip up to London and his first music gig, so the age gap can have great advantages.

I'm 35 and pg with my fourth - not had any negative comments, but then I never made it a secret that we wanted another one so it didn't come as a surprise! When I got pg with no.3 we hadn't told people we were trying and consequently got a few rude comments - but I figured that was their problem.

Re the age gap - ds is 17m, and dd1 and dd2 are 9 and 8. They love having a baby brother - they are old enough (and independent enough) to have their own lives away from him, but young enough to enjoy getting down and playing with him. Congratulations

I'm 42 and pregnant with no.2, no.1 was born when I was 39. So quite a late starter! Never had any negative comments, only my mum keeps saying things like "you must take care, you're not as young as you were". I wouldn't have planned to leave it this late, but I didn't get married until 2002 and started TTC a year later. Fortunately I fell pregnant 1 month after starting TTC!

I'm 42 and pregnant with no.2, no.1 was born when I was 39. So quite a late starter! Never had any negative comments, only my mum keeps saying things like "you must take care, you're not as young as you were". I wouldn't have planned to leave it this late, but I didn't get married until 2002 and started TTC a year later. Fortunately I fell pregnant 1 month after starting TTC!

WOW!! thankyou all so much for the great feedback, so i guess knickers to em all eh and good luck and congratulations to you all!!

Had mine at 38 & 41, nobody ever said anything about my age, including at the hospital.

I got sooooo sick of people asking if it was planned that I started replying "to the minute!". I was 37 and dds were 12,10 and 8. Ignore 'em all I say. Hope you all enjoy it as much as we are!

From Tuesday I'll be in this category! I'm 33 weeks pg with dd2, no-one has said anything negative re my age, maybe I just look really young

Apparently they used to class you as an 'elderly' mother if you were over 30 but it changed a while ago. I was 31 when we conceived dd1 and the mw had to check whether she could call me elderly or not but decided against it.

i am 35 and just got pregnant my first. due date will after my 36 birthday. All of my friends are so supportive and happy for me. At least they are too over the moon to ask me how old i am! Age - dont care.

im 36 and have a 3month old,my close friends were thrilled,i had a few comments from others about how"brave" i was,but thats all.I also have to other DDs of 9 and 11yrs and they just adore the new baby and are really helpful.I can safely say i was emotionally ready for motherhood this time and enjoyed my pg and loving the baby stage this time(much less anxious).
I work as a holistic therapist and so many of my pg clients are in there mid to late 30s its not an unusual thing,so just enjoy your pg and new baby and ignore all negative comments

I am 35 and 24+6 with my first. I will be 36 by the time it is born. I expected to be treated differently but havent at all. Midwife said that women of my age are no longer considered older mothers and there is no reason to be concerned.
Havent had any negative comments from friends or family either except that my mother gave a big sigh of relief when she heard, she was 38 when she had me and had hoped I wouldnt leave it as late as she did.

Am 36 and expecting 1st child in June. Doctor actually told me I'm not old when I raised the issue. Sister had her 1st at 36, friend had her first at 41, so lots of good +ve examples around me.

Not one single person has said anything about age. Everyone - work colleagues, friends, family all just very happy and excited for me. I say you are as old as you feel. I was still doing marathons and rock climbing until 9 weeks (didn't know I was pregnant) so can't be that past it!

I think attitude to mothers' age might vary a bit with location. I work in a 'posh' school in Oxford and most of the parents here I'd say are older than average. This also seems to be true in some parts of London. I'll be 36 when my LO appears in early March and i don't think anyone has referred to my age except me! My MW looked suprised when I mentioned it and said "You're not old!".

I was 35 when pg for the first time. The Obstetrician doing the 12 week scan said I was considered elderly and in his day (he was verging on retirement) he would have "run a mile from anyone your age giving birth". He wasn't known for his diplomacy!
Am now expecting number 2 and will be 37. Am still as fit as I was in my early 20's so it's not a problem.
Some people just shouldn't open their mouths

ummm I had a few I was 37 and had a 10, 12, 14 and 15 year old

I put it down to jealousy my dp (now dh) is 9 years younger than me