I'm a 20 year old girl who has very recently found out she is in early pregnancy. I've been with my partner for 2 years however this is second time round and previously we were together from 16 years old until 18 years old before deciding we were too young to settle down and still had life to live. Never the less it wasn't fun having life to live without each other and came running back to one and other. We are a solid strong couple who are crazy for one and other and our families both are convinced we can't go to the shops without one & other.
Work wise, I work full time for a bank & I was on route for a promotion at work and I believe my job would be safe to return too if I took maternity leave. My partners job isn't so stable but since finding out he has been sending CVs out left right and centre. We both still live at home but where going to be moving out by the end of the year anyway, only now it's all happening sooner. We are looking to rent as have no money in savings as it stands however I have shares and in 3 more years will cash them out as money for a deposit on buying a house. We both have expensive sporty cars and are tied to them through finance agreements so will have to follow them through but we have discussed swapping them both in for a bigger family car when the time comes. We make a decent enough wage together (£38k a year) so feel this shouldn't be holding us back but it is, money is a real real issue.
Long story short I have two choices in front of me and we have been deliberating for days. I need more help & advice. My parents & his parents know and they weren't exactly thrilled, nor where they angry, just dissappointed and externally worried for us and the turn our life's have taken so young. I've never seen my dad cry until now. They don't believe we know how hard this is going to be and how our life's are virtually over and we won't be able to travel or spend a load of money on a car or even anything we want because our money will all be on a baby. I feel like we do know, I know there will be much more tears to come, I know there will be sleepless night & I am aware how stressful and hard each day is going to be but as a girl with younger siblings I've always had a maternal instinct and I know I will make a great mum and my partner will be a great dad (with some guidance). I'm not exactly worried about the aftermath because we have always dreamed of being parents but agreed 26 was a perfect age, not 21. My age is daunting, and the things I will need to give up are scary and very real but I know, I'm not naive. If money wasn't as issue this would be a happy time for me.
I've rambled enough but are there any young mums out there who can advice or even woman who have taken the abortion route and wish to advise, anything would be greatly appreciated at this time. Please.