I am absolutely duistraught

[distraught]

I have just done a test and its positive. My husband is away and I am just beside myself. I cant stop shaking

I have drank heavily all over christmas. I cant believe this

Errr. sorry for hijack but since when were you pg Flossam???

madmarchhare, I dont know whether we wanted any more children or not. Both our other two are at school now, so this is a bit of a shock for me. Heaven knows what it is like for dh as I havent even spoken to him...apart from the text which is still being ignored. Poor bloke is most probably propped up a bar smoking and drinking and mainly crying.

I have calmed down quite a bit now. I still feel guilty about the drinking but pucca, you are right. I suppose I am not the only person this is happeneing to as flossam as pointed out (congratulations)

I think I am about 2 weeks late, so its early days anyway

But thanks everyone. This really calmed me down earlier

distraught - i was in your position about 5 yrs ago. I too cried buckets for a few days - really really didn't want any more babies. But my DH was very supportive and coped with it all better than I did. Sometime it's just a matter of adjusting your view. I never thought I'd have 3 kids but I do and they're lovely.

Since last friday VVV! BFP when af was three days late. Trying not to get overly excited though.

Hows things? What does DH say?

The day before I found oput about DS2 (the NT one, don't panic!) I was on a coach returning from an after carnival bash puking into my hastily removed tights wondering how only three or four drinks had gotten me into that state (mind you, six drinks and I am in a coma). It didn't cause any problems, perfect pregnancy and delivery, bright healthy young lad .

When Dh gets home, give him a hug, and ahve a good cry together before anything else. just because something is unplanned doesn't mean its the end of the world, it does mean you have talking to do.

Good luck and

Bump, any news?

Sorry I didnt update sooner!

dh is fine, he seems almost chuffed. Its me who is all over the place. Today I have cried about 200 times. I had to ring the Dr which didnt help and I am still half in denial and half thinking I have cursed the pregnancy and will lose it anyway

I have just rang my mum to tell her as I told my boss this morning. I have no idea why I told my boss, she said I looked ill and was concerned about me and I burst into tears she is luckily a good friend and was really good. But as I had told my boss, I thought I ought to tell my mum. But my Mum sounded like she was crying and I have yet again burst into tears.

I am just all over the place

Also I feel really guilty because have read so many threads of people trying and then losing their babies and I feel awful that I didnt plan one and I am now upset about it. I am worrying the baby will know I am upset aswell and I will lose it. I know this doesnt make any sense, it seems ridiculous

i am glad your dh reacted well. That's one less thing to worry about. It is bound to take some time to come to terms with given the shock so you have nothing to feel guilty about and your baby will be none the wiser about all this. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Distraught, at the start of may last year I was in exactly the same position as you.

I found out I was PG with a very very much unplanned 4th baby. I thought Dh would freak, think I'd tricked him, go mad.....etc etc etc but he did and like yours he actually seemed quite chuffed.

I've worried and fretted thoughout the whole PG. About everything. I've even worried that worrying too much with harm the baby.... It has driven me insane at times.

YOu'll probably know that I'm now overdue because I've whinged and moaned all over MN so this is the latest thing I'm fretting about.

I just wanted you to know I know excatly how you feel.