Had nasty 3rd degree tear in my first pregnancy and was told by two doctors who examined me afterwards that they would stongly advise a c section next time.
Had second consultant appointment yesterday and saw a different registar from last time.
Registar last time was lovely and said fine to have a c section this time and he would book a date in at yesterdays appointment to put my mind at rest as I was getting stressy. He put this in writing in a letter.
Registar yesterday was horrible and she said I was making a fuss over nothing and there was no reson whatsoever that I should not have a vaginal birth. When I showed her the letter agreeing to a c section she got all huffy and said a c section should not have been agreed and the consultant could well refuse me on the day.
Insisted on seeing the consultant there and then who has agreed to honour a c section and booked a date but I was shocked that she told me that most consultants would have refused. The hospital I go to is a teaching hospital and is normally very forward thinking.
I still have a few more consultants appointments to go before the birth and I am dreading going as I just think I am going to have a huge battle at every appointment.
I know there is only a small risk of another bad tear (about 10%) and a smaller risk of having to use a colostomy bag for the rest of my life (2%) but I can't understand why, if there is any risk, however small, the decision can't be left to the mother.
Sorry, just wanted to let off steam.