I had my NT test today at 13 weeks exactly. My baby is developing well, is the right size, has a nice strong quick heartbeat and was wriggling around. My Trisomy 21 risk came back as 1:1800, which the doctor tells me is very low risk. He was really pleased with all the results and told me everything looks good and healthy. I saw loads of different angles in 3D and 2D up on a big TV on the wall, and even got a little wave (well, as much as a 13 W old foetus can wave..!)
I just wanted to share. My baby's father is my ex and he's really, really unhappy about this pregnancy, he can't see anything but the negative, he says his life is ruined, I've taken his future away from him, etc. I'm trying to be excited but he brings that down every chance he gets. So, I sat alone in the waiting room, surrounded by happy looking couples, and I cried. I cried when I saw the baby in 3D up on the screen and there was no-one to be excited about it with. And I cried when I came out and the only person I had to tell was my mum, because my ex doesn't want to know and he's 'forbidden' me from telling any friends that I'm pregnant before he has told his parents and his OW, so I can't talk to anyone else about this.
So...I thought I'd tell you lovely lot, and maybe you can be excited about it for me and help me feel happy about it rather than just miserable and totally alone.
C'mon MN-ers - show me what you're made of :)
Get updates on how your baby develops, your body changes, and what you can expect during each week of your pregnancy by signing up to the Mumsnet Pregnancy Newsletters.
Pregnancy
Can I please just share?
Thelittleredhead · 25/04/2016 12:44
Congratulations OP. It's so hard seeing other couples when you're single and pregnant. I went with my mum to the 12 week scan and couldn't help noticing everyone else's partners in the waiting room. I'm now 26 weeks (haven't heard from father since I was about 6 weeks) - it has got easier. At earlier appointments etc I'd burst into tears when asked about the father, now I barely flinch when I say he's not involved. Congratulations on your healthy scan 
Congratulations 
Here's to a happy, healthy pregnancy. Stuff what your ex thinks.
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Just wanted to add another congratulations.
Most importantly your baby is doing well. You have the love & support I'm sure of your mom. You'll be fine. Be single & happy with your beautiful babba.
He doesn't deserve the role of father to your child. To say those hurtful things means he's pathetically immature and basically a very very unkind person.
Tell anyone you bloody well want to. Don't let him call the shots.
Keep us posted. I wish you a healthy and happy remaining pregnancy. Stay strong & positive. You've got this OP
Wow, congrats! Those result sound perfect! Baby is going to be a happy little bunny, and I'm sure that you are going to be a great mum! 
Shame about your Ex. I suppose that he has his reasons for feeling the way he does, but its fairly simple really: he can either choose to be a part of his child's life, or choose not to be. His life isn't over because of it, merely modified slightly and if he decides that he doesn't want any part of the baby, then that's his loss.
OP, not sure when you're due but you should definitely check out the antenatal club threads on Mumsnet - if you're due November (I'm 10w and due 27th!) the current one is here - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2616497-November-16-thread-3?msgid=60759087#60759087. It's so great to be part of a group of women at the same stage, going through the same things and offering support to one another.
Other than that, I echo everyone else - congratulations to you, enjoy your pregnancy and try not to hold on to things your ex says. You and your little one are all that matter now!
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Congratulations on your lovely baby
Although there will be hard times, you will love this baby more than you can think possible. It will all be worth it. Tell the people you need to tell, you need support, and to celebrate the baby. Maybe buy a few little pieces - newborn outfits etc. Consider how much contact you need to have with your ex. Maybe try to avoid arguments and emotional conversations. Sounds like everything has been said now. He doesn't sound like a prize or someone who could support you and your precious baby.
Might be worth talking to a midwife and seeing if there is any counselling for pregnant women near you. Just to help you make sense of what is happening and strengthen yourself emotionally.
Wow, so many lovely ladies on this forum!
I'm feeling much sunnier these past few days (helped, I think, by the arrival of the sun just in time for the weekend after a long, bleak winter!). There's some great advice here, I definitely think looking into counselling is a good idea, and maybe trying to find an ante-natal group or two. I'm in Germany and don't have that many friends here so it'd be a really good way to meet people I reckon.
Ex has also been better the past few days. He's still mostly just trying to ignore that this is happening but is being much, much nicer to me. And forget himself a little bit yesterday and looked pleased for a second when I told him how long the baby is (off the charts for how many weeks I am) and that "knowing my luck I'm going to give birth to a ridiculously tall boy like his father". He looked genuinely excited, just for a moment. It's progress.
But, I am preparing to do this by myself. And it's so, so nice to know that there is so much support out there. We can do this!
and 
for you all :)
It sounds like your ex is coming round to the idea of being a dad, hopefully he will offer you positive support throughout your pregnancy. If not, you have us
Definitely seek out an antenatal group, it's an excellent way to make friends.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.