Colleague has lost her baby at 18 weeks....

[Myfairone]

I feel so devastated for her. I really do not know what to say. She was due back into work yesterday but we got a message saying that she was off sick for the week. THere are 4 of us that work really closely and it seemed so strange that none of us had heard from her.

She texted me this morning to tell me that she lost the baby yesterday and I don't know what to say.

I have so many emotions going round in my head right now and I really want to just sit and cry (but I am in work and only 4 of us knew she was pregnant) I am 11+2 and I feel so bad for her and its sent me into a real panic. For some stupid reason I thought that once you got to 12 weeks everything was okay.

I have no idea what to say to her except I'm sorry....
Any ideas anyone?
Sorry for the jumbled post, I just feel so emotional and stressed out.

hope all well Fairone. One extra thought - I was bereaved recently and someone gave me hyacinth bulbs in a lovely basket, and they lasted much longer than cut flowers and filled the house with amazing fragrance. It really gave me a lot of pleasure. Just a thought, take care of yourself.

Myfairone, don't feel you are being selfish - you are not! You are reacting to the news from your own point of view. It would be selfish if you called up your friend and expressed your concerns over your pregnancy to her - and of course there is no way you ever do that!! Your actions towards your friend have been both generous and thoughtful - even just coming on here for advice shows how much you care. Don't beat yourself up about it - you are doing the right things

Thank you Miaou for the kind words. Too many pregnancy hormones and emotions going on with me to be able to cope rationally.

My friend texted me today to tell me that she appreciates my kind thoughts and is not ready to return to work (not that we thought she would be) so is taking another week off.

My heart goes out to her, it really does.

Thanks again everyone for your help.
Big hugs to all.