Am I stupid to try again?

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Hi all,

In the last two years I've had two abortions due to Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I feel terrible about it, it's haunted me for a long time and I appreciate a lot of people won't agree with it but please I'm not looking to be judged.

I have one DD and during the pregnancy I was hospitalised 4 times in the first 12 weeks.

The last abortion I had was very recent....both my partner and I really wanted the baby but we have no family where we live and no support. I visited the doctor twice and was hospitalised twice and I was only 6 weeks, it all got too much for me and I felt I couldn't go on.

We really want to try again but I need more support. I was thinking of seeing a different doctor and talking it through with them before we start trying.....but is it worth doing? im upset to hear that if you are considering abortion because nothing is helping then doctors should at least explore the route of steroids....these have never been offered to me.

Sorry if this is all abit of a rambling mess....I'm heartbroken about the last abortion but want to know if there's hope for me in the future.

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It must have been awful for you to have to choose a termination. I definitely think speaking to a doctor before you get pregnant is a good idea, so you can formulate a plan of care. Although presumably you would have been on a cocktail of anti-emetics previous times round too. I'm not sure where steroids come in though, is there anything to suggest they'd help with HG?

You're not stupid at all, but it must be so heartbreaking, I think you have to be so careful and aware of your mental health in this. Definitely try a new GP and talk it all through with them before making any decisions.

Been there - it is a mental hell. I finally found the Pregnancy Sickness Support Website (sorry can't link on my phone) If you email them they can do lots to help ie find appropriate counselling regarding the terminations and the trauma of HG, THEN they also offer a care protocol for if you want to try again, as well as contact for HG supportive doctors and consultants in your local area. They have lots of ideas on how to plan for a subsequent HG pregnancy.

I am now 13 weeks pregnant with my second child - 3rd HG pregnancy. There is no way I (we!) could have done this without support from PSS. Please contact them - and feel free to PM me if you need a bit more hand holding, I have walked in your shoes.

Thanks everyone!

Yeah I've tried pretty much all the anti-emetics out there and none of them really helped. Only time it helped was when I was in hospitals having fluids and anti sickness through a drip.

Thanks Iokahsamastah! It's on that website that I saw information regarding the use of steroids to treat severe sickness and nausea but didn't realise they can give personal support, I'll definitely email them. Do you think they'd give me a call?

They emailed me back within a day, with lots of information - I honestly don't think I could have done this again without their input.

I also wasn't aware of the steroids option. There is a big gaping hole in support for women who consider termination for HG unfortunately. In my opinion ALL medication routes plus counselling (when the sufferer is most well ie hydrated) should be offered before any decisions are made.

Hope you find some resolution.