I feel truly despondent about the way this pregnancy is affecting me [sad]

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I just can't snap out of it and feel so ashamaed at the things which are going through my head (lots of incredibly negative feelings about the baby ).

I feel fat and ungainly - this is my third and I have never felt this way before. I feel overtaken and unable to cope.

I have to return to work in 10 days time for the remaining 18 weeks of my pregnancy to work for a man who tried to get rid of me because I was pregnant (I had to threaten to sue the company before I got the job reinstated). We need the money

Has anybody else felt this way i.e. getting out bed in the morning is a struggle?

Sorry for the rambling, just needed to get this off my chest.

Aw, poor you, you sound so miserable

It sounds to me as though you may have antenatal depression, which is far more common than many people realise. Does you GP or midwife know that you feel this way? I really think you should let him/her know and talk about what they can do to help. It might be that having someone to talk things through with would help, but you may also need antidepressants. The thinking now is that postnatal depression is often antenatal depression that has not been recognised and treated and carries on after the birth.

There are a number of antidepressants than can be prescribed during pregnancy, particularly after the first trimester, so I would really encourage you to see someone. If your GP doesn't know how to treat you many hospitals have specialists in depression in pregnancy and motherhood.

I felt very depressed in my first three pregnancies and this carried over into postnatal depression in the first two. With the third I had a great psychiatrist who prescribed antidepressants which really helped and I recovered before the birth and was able to enjoy the last few weeks. I also didn't go on to get postnatal depression that time either. Please let someone know you feel this way.

felt like this with my second and it was utterly miserable. i couldn't walk, move, sleep, breathe. i felt invaded and as if i were being attacked from within. i told dp i hated the baby on more than one occasion and i honestly thought i couldn't possibly love him after such a hideous pregnancy.

i had a fantastic birth and adored my little man since the second he was born, he's the most fabulous little creature, so happy and smiley and eager to please and hardly complains at all.

i've no advice about the job i'm afraid, i packed mine in because of an evil boss but then we weren't any worse off without it as dp was unemployed so his dole was being cut because of me working. is there any way you could get another job? temping or something?

Hi
I'm feeling pretty similar too, except that I'm lucky that my boss is brilliant and my work are fastidious about rights etc. I sobbed for 15 minutes in bed last night with my DH asking 'what's wrong' and I just couldn't explain why. If it is any help there is an antenatal depression thread on the antenatal clubs page \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2290&threadid=121845&stamp=070106204102 \here}. No wonder you are feeling so terrible, to go through all the stress with your job as well as everything that comes with being pregnant and having 2 other children. Don't underestimate what you are struggling with. I hope you feel better soon. Just don't be plagued by guilt about how you are feeling on top of everything else.

Oh sweetie, poor you.
I cant really relate to a lot of the feelings you have, however they sound perfectly normal. A lot of women feel this way throughout their pregnancies and as DaisyMoo said, speak to your midwife/gp about it as soon as you can cause it may be that your suffering from antenatal depression. Don't feel bad though because your feeling this way (easier said than done im sure) because your not the first and you wont be the last. Pregnancy isn't a walk in the park, and it can be terribly hard for a lot of women. I love my little bean to bits, but sometimes i think - will you just hurry up and get out of me, i want my body back!!! I've just turned 20 weeks today and the thought of another 20 really gets me down some days. And i think my sickness is starting to return as well which really irritates me. It doesn't help with other peoples comments either, they're always talking about how happy you must be and how its all speeding by so quickly, and all you can do is stare at them and put on a big false smile, cause if they knew what you were really thinking they'd think your an awful person! But your not, your a human being going through some very radical changes, but it will pass. Just think of your other two children and how much you love them, and you'll have a third, brand new baby soon to love and make lots of lovely new memories with.
Us poor women really did get the s**t end of the deals in life didn't we!
And as for the jerk at work, he's not worth your time and if he gives you anymore hassle then sue away. He cannot make you feel this way, it's illegal. Tell him to go drop a drill down his pants when you leave work!
Feel better soon sweetie x

I agree with DaisyMoo - I would go and see your GP. I have a history of hormone related depression and was on 20mg Fluoxetine a day before we started trying. I decided to come off them when we tried for a baby, even though the dr advised me they were safe to use during pregnancy. I fell pregnant in the first month and felt very depressed for the first 12 weeks which I think was a combination of no tablets and a couple of bleeding scares (I had a miscarriage in 2005 so was anxious anyway) but felt much better after the first trimester.

The dr and MW have monitored me throughout and there has never been any question me not being able to restart my antidepressants again during the pg should I need them. Luckily I haven't, the next hurdle will be when the LO is born to ensure I don't get PND.

Do speak to your GP, there is NO POINT suffering needlessly.