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It's all a bit different second time around isn't it?

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KitKat1985 · 28/03/2016 13:51

Found out recently we're expecting DC#2 (we already have a DD aged 18 months). So far it's all a bit different. We're excited, but it's an excitement filled with memories of labour pains, sleep deprivation, colic and bleeding nipples; rather than daydreams of newborn snuggles and cute outfits. Pregnancy is already harder going with a toddler to run around after all day (when I'm not working) so no lovely midday naps or lay-ins, and she still feels like waking most nights (seemingly just for the hell of it) just to add to the exhaustion. Am already panicking about how I will actually cope with a newborn and a toddler. Even family seem less excited this time around. We've only told close family so far, and FIL reverted the conversation back to electrical switches within a minute of us telling them they were going to be grandparents again yesterday. It's just not quite the same as first time around is it? Confused Grin

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TheABC · 28/03/2016 23:01

Another pregnant mum with a toddler. Family are just as excited (first grand daughter) but it's more relaxing as I already have the kit and I know what to expect. Even the prospect of labour has made me shrug - after an EMCS last time, there is not much of the unknown left to be scared about. I just hope I don't go overdue with this one - only 33 weeks and really struggling with tiredness. I don't know how bad I will be by 42 weeks!

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AnnaT45 · 29/03/2016 06:49

Thirty nine sending you a hug. DD had reflux and CPMA and it was horrendous. She only slept for 20 mins at a time for the first couple of months. Hang in there I promise it gets better. If reflux isn't improving go to GP and change her meds

LittleLionMansMummy · 29/03/2016 09:07

I have to say that although I've said this pregnancy feels a lot different emotionally, I do feel positive about childbirth and having faith in my ability to parent a baby by trusting my instincts. It also helps that as ds will almost be 6 when the baby arrives, he's much more independent and yearns to have time with others so I'm hoping I won't feel as guilty about having my time taken away from him. I also plan to involve him in the baby's care right from the start and use his help. He's actually a very gentle and sensitive little boy around small children (and animals) so I'll be more trusting than I would with a toddler/ preschooler around.

thatsn0tmyname · 29/03/2016 09:09

Yep. It's harder to indulge yourself second time around. You don't even get a decent maternity leave (unless you have kindly babysitters nearby). Congrats.

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ThirtyNineWeeks · 29/03/2016 18:54

Thank you for your kind support. I'm so sorry for hijacking what should have been a celebratory thread. I'm embarrassed to have crashed in moaning Blush

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dats · 29/03/2016 21:34

Oh thirtynineweeks, don't feel bad! It's turned into a 'number two' thread(!) and I am LOVING it! So sorry to hear you're having a shit (pardon the second poo pun) time at the moment - really hope things pick up soon, still early days. And those early days are HARD! Please keep posting! CakeFlowers

KitKat1985 · 30/03/2016 09:16

Hi. Sorry didn't realise there were so many new posts. Thirtynineweeks I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time with the reflux. Is your GP / HV being supportive?. Please feel free to keep posting. xx

Sgoinneal thank you for that link. xx

Good to hear that a few of you are saying that second babies are easier. I did struggle with DD, so I'm crossing my fingers. She did have fucking awful colic though. I remember one particular night when she screamed from 5pm - 3am with only a 20 minute nap inbetween. But she used to cry for HOURS in the early days someimes no matter what I did.

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ThirtyNineWeeks · 30/03/2016 12:28

Ah, thank you, lovelies. Listen, notwithstanding a baby that is 'high needs' or otherwise born poorly, second babies are much more enjoyable; there isn't that terrifying feeling that you've brought an unknowable alien into your home.

Best wishes to all you expectant mums. Healthy, happy babies all round Thanks

hawaiibaby · 30/03/2016 12:36

Yy to this! Had my baby two weeks ago thankfully as pregnancy was sooo much harder with a toddler. I loved it the first time! This describes it well Grin

www.baby.co.uk/mum_stories/pregnancy-with-1st-baby-vs-pregnancy-with-a-toddler/

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