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Why am I getting these comments for 3rd pregnancy/baby?

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QueenMolotov · 16/03/2016 20:28

I've recently started to tell friends and people we know that we're expecting another baby. We have 2 dds aged 7y and almost 4y and the baby is due in September.

Already I've been hit with a few 'was the baby planned?' questions, as well as 'do you want a boy?' and 'I'd try and get the baby out in August; it's difficult being the eldest in the class'. (Yes, baby was planned/Not trying for a boy/baby is just due in September and the dates have not been planned that way).

Obviously, I've had lots of congratulations, too, and I'm sure these kinds of questions/comments are common. But I wasn't particularly prepared for them! It's also stuff I'd never dream of asking.

Anyone got similar experiences?

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0hCrepe · 23/03/2016 08:46

I think every person I've told has asked if it was planned! Because my dc are 9 and 11 and I'm 40 We can't possibly want another can we?
I've also had a lot of you must be mad and the September thing being good timing for school (I agree with this; I'd rather an old for the year child!)
I think most people at my age are enjoying their growing 'me time' as their kids get to secondary age- not me though!

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CarrieLouise25 · 23/03/2016 11:33

Ah, but you're only supposed to have one boy and one girl, with a close age gap.

If you have one child - when's the next one due?
If you have a boy and are pregnant with no 2 - bet you're hoping for girl!
If you already have a boy and a girl and you're pregnant with no 3 - was it planned?
If you have an age gap of any sort - was it planned?

I know people are saying on here they don't mean it, but I would NEVER ask someone if they had had sex without birth control and had an accident - how bloody rude!!!!!

We've just had no 3. Yes, we were asked if he was planned. I feel like telling them all about our TTC time, as it's such a personal question, it deserves a personal answer

I think people should not get away with saying whatever they want under the guise of 'they don't mean it like that' which excuses their bloody rude behaviour. It's rude, end of.

There are tonnes of nice things to say when someone announces a pregnancy!!

Congratulations OP - we are loving our 3rd addition - hope everything goes well for you all - I expect your DD's are very excited!! What lovely ages to enjoy new baby and help you with him/her too x