Who did you tell before 12 week scan?

[Iloveterriers]

Hey. I'm a long time lurking and this is my first post.
DH and I are just starting ttc but I was wondering what to do if/when we get a bfp in regards to telling people.
I know it is sensible to wait until you have had your 12 week scan but due to the nature of my job I would need to tell work ASAP. I know they would be discreet but I would feel weird telling work colleagues but not close family and friends.
What have you done in regards to telling people?
Thanks

[MyBreadIsEggy]

I found out I'm expecting #2 yesterday! By my calculations, I should be about 7 weeks in. we already have a 10mo DD. DH and I will be keeping it to ourselves until the 12 week scan, purely because my parents tend to think I'm still their "child" who has to live my life in accordance with their ideals, and will have lots of negative things to say about us having two children so close together, as will my sister I really don't want to hear it, so I just won't tell them until I have to. Might even keep quiet until I start showing a bit and have to tell them before they notice

[lljkk]

everyone. I told anyone & everyone.

[andadietcoke]

I had a scan at EPU at 7 weeks but only told my parents, sister and bil at 9 weeks because we were going wedding dress shopping (bil was fiancé then) and I was vomiting constantly. Told everyone else after private scan at 11 weeks - I was pregnant with twins and showing by then - knew work needed to know because of the amount of appts needed.

[sundayraspberry]

I had to tell work straight away due to nature of the job so all my immediate colleagues (about 12 people) knew at 5 weeks. I waited until 9 weeks to tell my parents and sister only to discover I'd had a mmc at 12 week scan. Second time around I would have waited to tell family until after the 12 wk scan however I was 10 weeks at Xmas and couldn't have a drink so told them early.

It didn't bother me that my work colleagues knew before family as I knew no one would spill the beans on social media etc, plus we are all healthcare professionals and are aware of confidentiality issues. In fact they were a brilliant support when I miscarried.

[Seekingmiracles]

I've told a couple of close friends so far and will tell my mum on Wednesday (I'm 6weeks). I've had a 4 miscarriages and quite frankly now don't believe in all the jinx crap. And I've needed support with each loss. So now I'm fairly open. If something is going to go wrong it will and the support is much needed.
Everyone is different though, tell who you feel comfortable in telling. Good luck

[Forester1]

With friends and family it's obviously what you feel comfortable with but if you want to tell people as a rule of thumb i d go with who you would also be comfortable saying that you've had a MC / would want support from. That's on the assumption they are not blabbermouths! With work I think it's normally on a need to know basis.

[kiki22]

I didn't announce but I never kept it a secret either time it just kind of went through the grapevine til everypneknew, I was very sick and tired I needed people to understand why, I didn't want to pretend I was fine. Also I had a mc before DS again it wasnt a secret and ppl nowing let me have space and consideration to greive without ppl wondering why I was being weird.

I've had 4 ppl tell me I'm not supposed to tell anyone before 12 weeks like it's a rule I'm breaking, the last one to told me if i miscarry its not fair to put that on other ppl as it makes them feel awkward she was told to fuck off I'll tell who I want. I'm not a private person I really should have been a kardashian keeping things to myself feels weird to me.

[findingmyfeet12]

I've told my parents and siblings and I'm only 4 weeks.

I'd planned to keep it quiet until 12 weeks but I couldn't keep the secret. It will be the first child in my family since my brother who is 21.

We've agreed not to tell dh's family yet as they simply cannot keep a secret. In fact it was dh who decided not to tell them yet.