did anyone else decide they didn't want another baby as soon as they'd had their first?

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My baby is just over 2 weeks and i really think i don't ever want another one. I didnt enjoy being pregnant, giving birth was horrible ( i didn't expect it to be nice but i really wouldn't choose to go through it again!) And now im exhausted.
Did anyone think the same as me then change their minds? Part of me feels guilty that dd will probably be an only child but all i can think about is that i don't want another baby

Hell yes!!!!

I quite enjoyed ds as a small baby and the coffees and mum meets etc.

But I'm not going to do it again. I'd feel bad for ds who I love playing with as an active 2yo and also for the new baby who wouldn't get the swimming classes and endless attention and snuggles. One is right for us (I didn't have a good sibling experience).

Yes, almost everyone who gives birth, I should think . You only start thinking about having another one once the memory of pregnancy and birth have had time to fade.

I worried a lot about how I felt about this. I suggest putting your feelings on hold for a year. Things feel very different then.

Thank you everyone for your replies!looks like alot of people do change their minds. I know I've got plenty of time to see how i/we feel and should probably stop putting any pressure on myself , i think tiredness/ hormones just keep telling me i cant do it

I was adamant that I wasn't having anymore after my first. It wasn't until he started school that I changed my mind. Ds2 was born when ds1 was eight. It's great :-)

I don't want anymore (32+3 with my one and only). I have various health problems and we decided long before I got pregnant that we would only have one. I've had a horrific pregnancy and I don't like being pregnant. We have said if we ever want another we would consider adopting. However my mil constantly tells me I'm selfish for only wanting one. It's got to the point where if I hear once more about it I will ban her from coming near me or baby. Do any help when my dad is an only child. She needs to mind her own business!

Yep. Swore blind that I would never ever consider being pregnant again. Now am thinking about it

Yes - felt this and continued to feel this for most if not all the first year. Really hard work with a poor sleeper, some PND looking back but now 27 weeks with number 2!! Feelings do change over time, esp when you realise the horrid bits are short lived even though you cannot see it at the time. Don't rule number 2 out yet, give yourself some time and you might feel differently months/a year down the line.

I always planned to have just one dc and I felt the same way after I'd had dd. I was sterilised when she was 2, she is now 14 and I've never come close to changing my mind. I don't feel any guilt about dd being an only child as it suits us all and she's very happy.

DS has just turned 12. DH and I really did not intend to have just one child but we never felt the pull to have a second.
As pp said we plus pal fit into our wee car for days out.
I love being a mum but one was right for us.

Yes, me. DS is 8 weeks old. I had HELLP and we were both very poorly. So next time round I'd be high risk, I'd also be at least 37. I'm just thinking I don't want to push my luck. There's a good chance I'd get HELLP again and it wouldn't be fair on DS to risk being so ill again.

I felt like this. Pregnancy was fine, no problems there. Labour and birth could've been better. DS had reflux and colic. He was and still is very high needs (in fact I am at the end of my tether with him already today, he doesn't want to nap and would like to winge instead) I was all set for no more children but I am now 16 weeks pregnant, totally unplanned. I found it really tough to get my head around that I was having another one and the 12/13 month age gap between them. I still have days now where I question my sanity.

I have always wanted more than one. However in the first few weeks after dd was born I definitely said a few times to dh that one was fine and we didn't need to have more! And the birth wasn't too bad, bit traumatic right at the end but nothing compared to some people's experiences. I enjoyed being pregnant after week 17 but had terrible nausea constantly until then.

Anyway, it did take me longer than I thought to feel broody again. I thought I'd have very close age gaps but I didn't start ttc until dd was 18 months old (I know this is still quite a small gap but in my head I thought I'd be ready sooner). We are expecting number 2 in September so dd will be 2.6.

The sickness has made me say to dh that two is our number and remind me of the sickness if I ever want no 3!

I think it takes time to feel ready and most people don't feel ready after 2 weeks so don't think about it too hard just yet.

I swore by all things I hold dear that I would never, ever have another. I hated the newborn stage, I had pnd, I was crippled by anxiety and the sleep deprivation was horrendous. I stayed like that for over a year. DS is 2 and I'm 26 weeks pregnant. For us it was a case of 'right, it's now or never' and our DS is amazing. We just need to survive and endure another newborn!

I always wanted two children. I had a pretty easy pregnancy and I found labour/childbirth to be fine too. I'm still on a high when I talk about childbirth and DS is 14 months! Even when he was 3 months old I still thought about having another, despite finding the newborn days extremely hard.

Now though I am certain that I don't want another. In a way, I guess I'm a bit sad that I won't know what our next child - be it boy or girl - will look like or be like but I have found parenting SO hard and as much as I love DS, I don't think I can do the baby days again.

I'm an only child and I loved it, I know only having one is the right decision for us. I'm struggling with how my post-pregnancy body looks and also, we'd have to move to a bigger house and wouldn't be able to afford to keep up a reasonable lifestyle with 2 - all incredibly selfish reasons I know and I'm sure I'll have times when I will struggle with this decision, but for now I am content with our little family.

Not after the first, but after the third it was a definate 'never again' and I ment that! Even went on the waiting list to be sterilised when he was 3. Then got carried away ahem and fell pregnant with number 4. I was so adamant I very very almost booked in for an abortion but changed my mind at the last minute. Completely disconnected through the whole pregnancy and the birth was incredibly intense and resulted in me having a mild panic attack in labour. Would I do it again? Definitely! He's 5 weeks old and I'm broody as anything. Crazy how it works.

I want another 2yearsold+ child. I'm not really that keen on having a pregnancy/new born but apparently they are part of the process. If I could birth my own toddler (OUCH) I would. We are ttc number two now, but if I'm honest I really would skip ahead a couple of years if I could. Pregnancy sucks, lack of sleep sucks. Kids rock.