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i need to moan -sorry

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divastrop · 19/12/2006 12:51

i am very happy that im having another baby,and i am lucky that everything is going well sofar.however,as i am 28 weeks tomorrow i am feeling sorry for myself as i walk around the shops and see all the slinky party clothes that i cant wear,and as i live in the town centre,in the evenings i see groups of people dressed up and going out for xmas meals etc.no matter what my dp says,i just cant see myself as sexy,im just a pregnant mummy atm not a desireable woman.
sorry,i know theres nothing i can do i just needed a moment to wallow in self pity so i can go back to looking forward to my new baby again

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Quootiepie · 19/12/2006 12:54

You're a woman at her sexiest! Theres nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman in my eyes... its so natural, so lovely... Enjoy every moment of it. You have a lovely baby sleeping in your belly, and your body is doing exactly what its designed to be doing... you're gorgeous xxx

tiredemma · 19/12/2006 12:55

diva- I feel like this and im not pregnant, just fat.

steffy1 · 19/12/2006 13:05

you may not feel desirable-however just remember how FAB you are-youre growing a baby!!

and as for slinky party clothes-wear them next year and enjoy being able to wear maternity clothes-its such a short time to get to do that. you have rest of life to wear xmas dresses!

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divastrop · 19/12/2006 16:26

maybe i feel worse because last year i'd only just had dd2 at christmas so was still too fat to wear anything nice.i dont like maternity clothes,i got rid of all of them as soon as i got home from the hospital after having dd2,thinking i wouldnt need them again.i havent bought any this time,luckily all the tops around at the moment are quite long so i dont need maternity clothes yet.
no,i think im going to feel like this till i have the baby.

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Rosydingdongmerrily · 19/12/2006 21:26

Hey Diva at least you care that you are not sexy. I'm so far gone down the frumpy bumpy road I have lost the will to look attractive! I can't even be bothered to brush my hair...have to force myself. I just want to be comfortable like a total old woman! Just give me a nice long cardigan and some slippers and let me have a little nap, its all I want
Anyway, never mind After christmas it'll fly by! And you are YOUNG you'll be a yummy mummy before you know it! And I might regain some enthusiasm to look good too you never know
Roll on March! That's what I say!

kittyschristmascrackers · 19/12/2006 21:58

Diva I have NEVER felt sexy when preg. I think it has to do with dp, he doesn't find preg women sexually attractive at all. It bothered me more when I was expecting the first 4. I still mind alot but i am more resigned to it and no amount of feeling bereft is going to change things.

Boobooroastingonanopenfire · 19/12/2006 22:23

Me too diva. (In fact I've just been whinging about it on another thread .

I was Christmas shopping today, and had to avoid the women's clothing departments as they were making me so miserable.

I'm telling myself it's hormones, but it's also because thin-ness is seen to be so desirable, and all the pictures of pregnant women in mags are (predictably) of giraffes with cushions shoved up their tops, and shiny brown skin.

I vowed never to buy 'Junior: Pregnancy and Baby' again after reading an incredibly assinine article about why it was so wonderful to be pregnant, that just went on about beautiful maternity clothes (that cost a bloody fortune) and feeling sexy.

Threw the magazine across the room after reading it.

Anyway, point of the rant is... you're not alone.

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divastrop · 20/12/2006 11:45

kitty-i remember visiting some 'adult' websites when i was alone and pregnant...just to remind myself that some men find pregnant women very sexually attractive

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kittyschristmascrackers · 20/12/2006 11:55

Good for you what are they called ?

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divastrop · 20/12/2006 20:08

i cant remember all of them .i was very shocked that those sort of sites were in existence,i honestly hadn't realised some men had a 'pregnant' fetish
i think i stumbled accross one when looking up something innocent like 'pregnant and single'and it linked to others ...

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itsazoohere · 20/12/2006 20:44

Would it be awful to admit to a sneak at similar sites? Just to see if there was anything physically possible (without being a contortionist) that I'd been overlooking.

itsazoohere · 20/12/2006 20:45

Blush Blush

marymillington · 20/12/2006 20:53

i love my pregnant body. the roundness of my belly offsets my at all times substantial bum, my hair and skin are fab, and i like my maternity clothes (because they are not really maternity clothes). however, i am 37 and my clubbing days are way behind me, so that is something positive to say about great age.

i'd have to say too that there is nothing less attractive than wallowing.

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divastrop · 20/12/2006 20:56

i think smugness and snobbery are substantially less attractive than wallowing....

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LadyTophamHatt · 20/12/2006 21:01

Aha ...you see, you need to time PG better.
fall PG in april/may and by the time xmas arrives you won't want to go out/dress up/shop for clothes because everything and everyone annoys you.

Honestly, at 37 weeks the last thing I want to do is get dressed up to go out.

go out ???

FGS...that means I'd have to leave the house....in the evening

Uuugghh...I'd rather stick pins in my eyes!

marymillington · 20/12/2006 21:03

oh ffs sake, what did you find snobbish about that?

and i'm hardly smug, just trying to be positive.

and if you want to wallow around being miserable that's your call, but i bet if you changed your attitude you'd feel happier about your appearance.

paddyclamp · 20/12/2006 21:06

You wallow all you want - i hated being pregnant, in fact i'd rather go through the births again than the pregnancies!!!!

itsazoohere · 20/12/2006 21:07

I've found that when trying to deal with hormonal mood swings, there is no 'mind over matter'. If I feel like poo, there's nothing
I can do to change that.

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divastrop · 20/12/2006 21:11

yes-its really easy to just change your attitude when youre suffering from AND isnt it??i should just pull myself together,eh?!

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divastrop · 20/12/2006 21:12

i really enjoyed giving birth to my last two

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kittyschristmascrackers · 20/12/2006 21:26

I haven't felt like going out really all through my pregs. It's very boring watching other people get pissed, although it's quite funny too . I don't worry about stuff so much now, it'll pass, things always do. That's the one thing that getting oolder has taught me. Nothing stays the same, just try and chill until the bad stuff goes, because it will.

marymillington · 20/12/2006 21:30

i had no idea you were suffering from AND, diva, and i hope you're getting the support that you need. of course its not easy to feel positive in that situation.

i don't go in for the a pregnant woman is the most beautiful thing in the world earth mother thing myself. and i bet you look great really, even if you can;t see it yourself at the moment.

Rosydingdongmerrily · 21/12/2006 08:31

Hey I love a bit of a moan! And Lady Topham everytime I come across your posts you are moaning and giving off in such a funny way! Makes me laugh so much the tears are rolling down my legs....

Diva my depression is still fresh in my mind and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Its so awful, but subtle and I hope your treatment can chase it for you!

bumperlicious · 21/12/2006 09:19

Divastrop, how do you know if you are suffering from AND and not just general pregnancy malaise! I'm so miserable about this pregnancy but it's hard to know if it's just coz I feel so nauseous and dog tired, and fat and unattractive! Sorry to hijack your thread!

Rosydingdongmerrily · 21/12/2006 09:41

I was depressed at the start of this pregnancy. I felt awful but this is my fourth pregnancy and I always feel awful first trimester but there is a big difference between being fed up or sad and actually depressed but its hard to explain.

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