MIL bump rubbing and calling me a vehicle

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So yesterday we went to visit my DH's extended family. We normally have Christmas Day just us too so call around for gift exchange etc. my DH is an only child and in his 40s so I understand his parents are super excited about having a grandchild. Also my mum is dead and my family are all in Ireland so it can be hard. So my MIL has taken to rubbing my bump now which is quite big I'm 34 weeks. I didn't mind that much before as she is excited but yesterday she rubbed the bump before even saying hello to me at the door. She then would rub it when ever I was just sitting there feeling it myself to the point where I actually said oh don't rub because my skin feels stingy. She then showed everyone our scans pic (they have already seen them) and also made everyone smell my new perfume. It was just a bit silly. Anyways my issue is my husband was saying goodbye to her I was in the car and she said something like take Care of the vehicle. He was like what? She said the vehicle for the precious cargo. Thankfully my husband said she's not a vehicle she's my wife and she just laughed it off but I feel a bit insulted now. They are coming round today how do I handle it if she starts rubbing the bump again which I'm not in the mood for?

Spock I thought about a book which one did you go for? I could tell her it came late from Amazon

OH calls me a cargo ship. It annoyed me at first but now I'm fine.
Just tell your MIL to leave you be, I do it to people when they are prodding about

It was this: www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/0091948142/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1451236862&sr=1-1&pi=SL75&keywords=new+gran

You can read excerpts online and there's quite a bit about knowing when not to interfere and how to approach suggesting tips etc.

She does sound very over excited! I can see why DH is worried about how she might be around the baby. The most important thing though is that you & DH are both on the same page with this and can work together to remind her who baby's DPs are and what is & isn't OK (if necessary, hopefully it won't be).

That's a pretty good starting point TBH, there are often threads on here with a similar problem apart from the MNers DH can see no wrong in his mother's behaviour/approach. At least you don't have that.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I think in our case my husband is even more sensitive I am to MIL. He wants to say something now where as I feel we should wait until something happens and then react accordingly. We really need to get the message across that their role does not include parenting. she has a friend who's recently had her first grandchild and has recounted stories about breastfeeding "she was over feeding the baby- and her husband a doctor" , bathing "X asked me how often I bathed DS as her DIL only bathes the baby every few days, of course I bathed DS every day" and the most recent one was about nappy free time-
His parents don't allow it but the wonderful granny does. I just reacted and said God it's all very judgemental Of this woman's parenting. She didn't really get it and said her friend just dotes on her DGS but I said I would hate you to talk about me like this I really Hope you won't. My husband was going mad because they told him he was doing it all wrong holding a teddy bear joking... I just hope it doesn't kick off when baby comes because my DH is very conscious of their interfering. Will check this book out and if anyone has any quick one liners would love to hear them!

Vehicle? I keep seeing the creepy ladies from Rosemary's Baby in my head...