discomfort in early pregnancy

[stressedwifeandmum]

can anyone help? im 6/5 weeks pregnant, i have three kids, and have also had 1 miscarraige and 1 ectopic. when i found out this time, we had just been told we had to be out of our house by january, and a week later, last week, my grandad died and fil taken to hospital the same day. havent had time to take notice of my self much, but have realised ive had no morning sickness, really uncomfortable feeling in stomache and groin and a pretty bad back ache. i feel very tired and not with it as so to speak. been a very stressful time, burried my grandad yesterday and not sure if its just stress. if anyone can advise me i would apreiciate it.

maybe because you have been so stressed and not quite with it you havent noticed your symptoms quite so much? i know as mums we always put ourselves last and you have obviously been through a rough time, and still having 3 dc's to look after.

i know its easy to say but maybe do something for yoursself? even just a nice warm bath with candles and some peace?

as for the stomach feeling and back ache-maybe a sign to slow down? or you could ring nhs direct or does your local sure start centre have a drop-in midwife clinic, just to reassure you?

good luck and keep your chin up

thanks steffi1, the thing is were still not sure what to do, things arent that strong between me and dh, my ds2 has adhd, mydd1 is turning into a TEENAGER! and dd3 is just a nightmare. been to hosp once already and chickened out whilst having scan, i think it was when she mentioned heartbeat that done it. i think im sure that i want to keep it its just convincing dh

if you want to keep baby then thats what you should do, in my opinion.youre obviously great at having children if you have 3 already.

maybe things appear rough with dh because of the hard time youve had lately. sometimes its hard to keep focus on a relationship with so much happening outside your four walls.and then amongst the rubbish things happening, appears a new baby-alot to get your head around even at the best of times for everybody, i think!

go back to hospital if you want to-they are there to help you and should support you.

have a good think about what you want to do-and make sure its the right thing.

maybe some couply time or even relationship counselling may sortthings out? there are some good posts on the relationship section of this site talking about marriage counselling.

good luck