too much, too young? how rude...

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I'm basically writing this post to vent some frustration. I'm 22 and I married my partner of 4 years 9 weeks ago. I work with alot of older women some of whom have children my age. They're all lovely however all seemed to have the opinion that I am too young to get married and one even said she would be gutted to see her daughter settle so young and how do I know he is the one when I haven't lived. I have lived. I am so in love and I know my own mind. I have always been very mature. I have always worked as has DH (he is 25). Now we've found out were pregnant and I had to tell work for risk assessments. It's a honeymoon baby and we couldn't be happier. However I am now having more criticism at work saying it's babies having babies. I think they're all bonkers I genuinely couldn't be happier things feel like they're falling into place.

Like I said this was just a posy to vent my frustration but comments and opinions (on both sides) are welcome

Ridiculous, I'm 23 in a very happy stable relationship and just because your 22 does not mean you haven't lived in the first place. My partner/fiancé and I are also expecting our first child. 💕 Age has nothing to do with it anyway, you could be much older and still not be mature enough to have a baby. As others have said, maybe they're passing on their own regrets. Enjoy your life and congratulations!

It's nothing to do with maturity or the seriousness of your relationship it's about experiences both individual and as a couple before the responsibility of parenthood.

You'll always get people making negative comments. I met my partner at 16. We started seeing each other when I was 17, he was 23. I feel pregnant straight away. Unfortunately had a stillborn.

I went on to have a healthy little girl at 18, we married when I was 19. I'm now 21 and due another Little one early February. Still with my Husband and we're extremely happy!

Don't let them get you down, people do things differently

If the same people are making multiple critical comments in the workplace tbh that doesn't sound terribly professional and possibly bullying.

Agree with previous posters though - women can't do right for doing wrong and particularly when it comes to pregnancy. A young married couple who both work having a wanted child? That sounds pretty sorted to me. Plenty of people (of all ages) bring children into the world in far less ideal circumstances and still manage. I'd ignore them OP.

DP and I got together fairly young and committed to each other quite quickly (moved in, bought a place etc.). We were told we were too young, ought to play the field etc. Admittedly we don't have kids, but we're still together, still happy and have seen plenty of the commenters married & divorced.

I think some people just can be a bit rude when faced with a pregnant woman. I don't know whether it's a case of not thinking before they speak but I'd rather they didn't comment on my pregnancy if they are going to be rude.
At work today an older man came in, nodded at my bump and said oh have you got a bit of a dilemma going on there then? I was completely taken aback, not sure quite what he meant by it. I'm 29 and my baby was planned so what would the dilemma be?

Ignore them!

I met DH at 18 and married at 22, however we only started ttc this year, and I'm 35!!!

I'm pretty sure that we'll get a lot of when we tell our families, mostly due to my age and the fact that we've been married for so long without kids...