Me again with yet another dilemma!
Before we begin, a bit of background...
My best mate since Uni, let's call her Emma, is trying to get pg. We've been friends for 9 years and even though we live about 100 miles apart we see each other every two months, email several times every day and are very close, talk about everything etc. I had a m/c a year ago October (just gone) and she's been a complete tower of strength for me, she suffered a m/c in May this year and I have supported her in return. My m/c was my second baby, hers was her first. Since my m/c we haven't been ttc, since hers she has. Me and dh decided to wait until dd was in school etc, Emma and her DH just want a baby as soon as possible.
Since the end of June it is all we've talked about, charting every month in the run up to ovulation, discussing her problems (dh with low sex drive, too stressed to shg etc) and gone through all the highs and lows together, particularly the lows of her getting her period every month. She's regularly in tears about it when I see her and on the phone. She reacted very badly to a close colleague of hers getting pg (as did I after a colleague of mine got pg after my m/c), she admits the jealously and anger that it's not her who is pg has changed and in some ways damaged their relationship because she is finding it difficult to be happy for her colleague when she's so desperate to have her own baby, even though she desperately tries her best to be happy about it and support her friend. She's also annoyed that everyone else seems to be pg and not her, and everyone seems to have got pg after trying for a month or two, or even after only one shg.
Dh and I took a chance last month and after one time, we are pg. very much like with both our other pregnancies. Emma is having her period this week and we have very similar menstrual cycles so moan about periods etc at the same time. I was due on Sat, she was due today. She's asked if my period has turned up yet and I've made out I'm not sure because I didn't record last months properly and probably aren't due until Saturday coming.
I feel awful for lying, but I just don't know how to tell her. I want to tell her and I'm sure some part of her will be ecstatic for me, but I also know there will be a massive part of her that will be absolutely gutted it's not her and she'll resent me for it. We weren't actively trying and it happened right away. I am so torn about this as she's coming over on Saturday for the day - do I continue the lie until after Christmas or do I just 'fess up and potentially ruin her Christmas? By telling her, I'm also taking away her person to confide in about her jealousy and rage about other people.
I know it's unavoidable in the long run, but do I lie now to spare her feelings over CHristmas, or wait and potentially hurt her more after Christmas when she realises I've been purposefully lying to her?
Help !