I'm a mum of 2 boys and....

[dontaskdonttell]

I'm a mum of 2 boys. They are wonderful in every single way and I feel honoured to be their mum.

I'm 16 weeks pregnant with dc3, we're very excited and I'm so looking forward to baby arriving in May. We've decided not to find out the sex of the baby, we'd like a "surprise"'at the birth.

But I am sick to death of the comments we're getting. People assume we're having a third baby because we want a girl this time. People aren't even saying congratulations, just immediately say "hoping for a girl this time?". I'd love a little girl, I'd love another boy. I genuinely don't have a preference and it's not something I can control anyway.

Why do people do this? It's not appropriate!! My baby is wanted, loved and we don't give 2 shits what sex it is!!

Has anyone else had this? How do you respond?? Whatever happened to just saying "what wonderful news congratulations"???

Actually my maths is wrong, I've got another 25 weeks, more likely 23/4.
And yes, you're right, I've probably got a life time if it's another boy! And I say, bring it on!!

It's lovely to see a thread that's not involving people with gender issues. I already had a girl and a boy when we decided to try again. Lots of people made comments like 'you must be mad' and 'why? you already hit the jackpot with one of each!! As it turned out we lost our third child, a beautiful chubby baby boy at full term. I was lucky enough to conceive again and our fourth child was born healthy, a little girl to ease the pain in our broken hearts. Last year we discovered we were expecting again, a fifth child...but sadly I had an MMC at 12.5 weeks. We were unsure whether we would try again but decided to give it another shot. And I am now 18 weeks pregnant with our next baby.

A baby is such a wonderful gift if anyone asks what I would like, I'm often tempted to snap at them and say 'just a live healthy baby' or 'a heartbeat' will do just fine..........

Good luck with your babies ladies and don't forget to 'Count the kicks' it really can happen to anyone x

I forgot to add I think even a small pet would tip me over the edge....our house is chaotic most of the time but also full of laughter.

Lots of people say stupid things... When I was expecting DC2, I had someone say "I hope for your sake it's not another boy!" I said I'd love another boy like DS, or a girl too... Dc2 was a girl, as it happened, and having the set didn't stop us going for our third, as I have always wanted three, not matter what the mix is... Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and ignore the idiots!

Sympathy from me! When I was pregnant with my third, I kept getting ooh are you trying for a girl? Then when number three came along and was a girl I would cringe when people would say in front of my two boys " you must be pleased you've finally got a girl!" My poor boys standing there listening to this tripe, I felt so awful for them. They probably didn't notice but it's quite an insensitive thing to say! Good luck op!

Babyh200 I am so sorry for your losses, that unimaginable pain. Congratulations on your current pregnancy, i wish you all the luck and health in the world!! But your story just highlights why a happy healthy baby is all that matters at the end of the 9 months.

Don't get me wrong, I'd love a little girl, but I won't be devastated if it doesn't happen. I'd be blessed with 3 lovely boys!!

I think I'll be responding with "as long as it's healthy, we don't mind what baby is"'if I had the guts I'd go further still but not sure I do!!