It's twins....first baby would be 18 months- help!!!!

[Chattycat78]

Hi guys,

Just that really. Had an early scan- am only 5 or so weeks. There are two sacs and two yolk sacs. Of course at this point I have no idea if either are viable, so it's too early to really be thinking about it. However, that's not stopping me from panicking! Ds is 10 months and would be 18 months by then. I have no idea how we would cope!!!!!!! I know I'm jumping the gun and I don't know what the next scan will show, but i can't get it off my mind!
Any reassuring thoughts or anyone else been in a similar position?

Not quite, but there's a 15 months gap between my two.

The positives are at under 2 they are happy to stay local to home and easily entertained and still nap.
So you can hopefully get all three in a similar routine ( mine both napped at same time after first few weeks at lunch until virtually eldest went to school)

Your eldest is old enough to use a buggy board and just move them into pram when tired and baby out into sling. Remember you aren't going to go on long day trips alone anyway the first few months so eldest will be nearer 2 that 18 months anyway when you might want to have them all out all day. Before that Do morning trips out, back for lunch and all nap, then home or out after so you all have a decent rest at home.

Get husband to take eldest out early morning before work for a quick 30 mins walk around the streets/ park. Means a) they are already dressed for day before dh leaves, b) they have burnt off any morning excess energy so you can stay home for the morning easier if want

Oh And mine are now both school age, and have always been best friends as don't remember life without each other. So it's perfect after school/ weekends/ on holiday as they are happy to play with each other rather than moaning they are bored and need play dates ( shudder)

Thank you for responding. I suppose it's hard enough with 2 with a small gap- let alone 3! . Your suggestions make sense though.

My daughter's young friends have just had twins a month prematurely. They have an 11 month old, a 2 year old and a 5 year old - so five under six and three under one. It's not fazing them in the slightest. They have a great support network and are fantastic parents. A routine is vital though. You'll cope because you have to, even if it is just muddling through at first. Time goes fast and soon you'll look back and wonder what you were worried about.

I've not got twins (multiples board might be worth a look?) but I do have a 14 month old and a 14 day old!
Early days but each day gets easier. I'd advise trying to keep the older child's routine as much as possible. They get into more of a state if things aren't right whereas the newborn just wants milk most times.
My older one has been rather clingy, I think because of the longish hospital stay and being looked after by others but doesn't seem bothered by the baby and tries to help. So lots of stories, cuddles if you can - and get help if you can as post birth recovery is tough with a toddler.
Good luck!

I have just had twins (6 weeks old) and have a 2.5yo. It's fantastic! Being pregnant with twins and having a toddler is awfully hard work though... Much harder than having the babies here.

DS is brilliant with the babies. They're also close enough that the sleepless nights haven't bothered us because he was always a bad sleeper so we've been used to getting up.

Congratulations.

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with twins and my DC is turning 2 next week. Although I don't know what it will be like with all 3 of them, I've reached the point in twin pregnancy that I'm convinced having 3 under 3 is going to be easier that being heavily pregnant with twins and a toddler. And my pregnancy had been pretty straightforward.

Good luck! I'm sure you will be fine!