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Same month siblings

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Bou1416 · 01/11/2015 06:52

I have just found out I am pregnant with my second child, it's very early days! Our DS was born July 2014 and our timings have worked out almost exactly the same and our next is due a week or so after DS birthday 2016.

We like the idea of a 2 year age gap (2years+ was the plan). In theory they will be closer (potentially), and they will be closer in school etc. However my one hesitation about it all is that they will share a birth month. But does this even matter??

I don't want anything to take away from DS birthday and same for the new baby. Shall have to keep legs crossed to avoid the same birthday!! we also face the whole July baby- later in the school year situation again.

I almost feel it's not sinking in that I'm pregnant and that this little miracle has even happened because I'm worrying about the month, which is crazy. Then I feel guilty! I'm so lucky it's happened- you can't hold off on these things for the perfect month can you?

Any one have this experience of same month siblings?

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BondJayneBond · 01/11/2015 08:26

Me, my siblings, and my parents all have birthdays within a 5 week period.

It makes for an expensive month, but otherwise it was great growing up. Lots of birthday parties and birthday treats to share. In a way I think it seemed fairer because we all got our turn at a birthday around the same time.

FannyFanakapan · 01/11/2015 08:26

my kids are 14th and 15th of December, and 19th November - but was due on 1st December.

I blame the Easter bunny...

mysteryfairy · 01/11/2015 08:28

My three all have very close birthdays, unfortunately also close to Xmas. It actually worked out well when they were smaller to have a birthday season as no one felt left out for long, though I also have the youngest last scenario. Everyone used to get a tiny present on their siblings birthdays when DD (6 years younger) was too little to understand/wait.

I've a biggish gap between DS2 and DD and had given up hoping for a third child. Had a couple of medical professionals tell me when I was pregnant that eventually conceiving at the same time of year as previously is quite common.

Eminybob · 01/11/2015 08:29

My friend has a baby due in December, about 2 weeks before her DD will turn 3. She is having her DDs birthday party next week so she can have a special day before things go mad when the baby is born. Not sure if she is going to do that every year though. She admits it wasn't the best planning, especially with it being so close to Christmas.

GreenSand · 01/11/2015 08:33

I had 2 under 2 for 3 days.
DS1 second Birthday was a bit of a wipe out, but since then we have done shared Birthday party, and done cake on their actual birthdays as well.

They don't have a problem with it, and it means there is no way we have to do "heres a present for your siblings Birthday" nonsense I've seen mentioned on mn. When they get a bit older, we will prob do one party the weekend before, and one the weekend after.

So, no problems, but do think about your oldest second Birthday. And consider doing it very early or very late, or very small.

Congrats.

DaylightSnobbery · 01/11/2015 08:49

I was due to be born on my sisters birthday, but was a few days late. Dc were born 2 years and 5 days apart, 3 other family members birthdays are in the same month.
It's hectic, but in a fun way
We do parties/celebrations one weekend and one the next too.
Only thing we noticed was some people bought presents cards around on the same trip (understandable especially as one birthday is always a week day). Usually near or on the first birthday. Just meant that birthday one child got more visitors. Dc never commented so don't think it was noticed. Teens now anyway.

Dogsmom · 01/11/2015 09:08

Dd2 was due on dd1's 2nd birthday and I really didn't want it to happen, luckily she arrived 9 days before and is only 8 months old so I can't say whether being close will be a problem.

I do understand your worries though as I was the same and even now I'm worried what dd1 will think when dd2 has her first birthday with presents etc and she has none, she'll be almost 3 so I doubt she'll understand the whole birthday thing, I'm toying with the idea of not celebrating dd1's birthday at all including wrapping presents as she won't know a thing about it then next year when the eldest will be 4.

Chattymummyhere · 01/11/2015 19:01

Mines the 13th my brother the 14th.

It really really annoyed him as most family came to visit on my birthday and then left his gifts/cards and didn't bother to come visit on his birthday. He was thrilled when I moved out that even as an older teen he would finally get his birthday as his own rather than feeling shared. We have a 3 year age gap.

bluewisteria · 01/11/2015 19:18

Me, both sister in laws, both DD's, one grandpa, my DH all have birthdays between mid dec to mid feb, and I'm pregnant with DC 3, due Feb!! So there will be 8 close family birthdays within 8 weeks of each other... PLUS Christmas and New Year!!
My DD's are dec and jan but only 18 days between each. They were a 2 year gap too!

As your son is only two I would do an early party/event and then a special cake on his birthday. He's so young I wouldn't worry about a big party, just get it in before DC2 arrives if you can.

In a year or two you can have joint parties which are brilliant!

Enjoy that time of year, and be happy it is evenly spread from Christmas!

Congrats on your baby too!

Scarydinosaurs · 01/11/2015 19:24

We only have a few days between the two and I love it! Makes it so nice for organising events around their birthdays and clothes sizes and maternity clothes.

Also, the same two year gap :)

TillITookAnArrowToTheKnee · 01/11/2015 19:24

Just don't do what my 'D'M did - DTs were born a week after my 10th birthday (they were early and were due end of October) and I was told I would no longer be getting a present or party or even a fucking card because they 'couldn't afford it' yes you fucking well could, instead of spending 400 quid on DTs

As long as you don't do that, which I'm 100000% sure you won't, it'll be fine

We have 1 July baby, 1 December, 1 January and next one is due February - looks like winter will be busy for me!

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 02/11/2015 07:13

I have two sons with a May birthday 13th & the 19th. They are 7 years apart. I just celebrate their days separately.

I'm currently very early days with dc4 which is due the day before Dhs birthday next July

jamtartandcustard · 02/11/2015 14:39

Dc1 is 10th Jan, dc3 is 17th Jan. Dc2 is in Feb and bump is due Dec. Along with Xmas, it's a very expensive time but it also gets all the expense over and done with instead of being dragged out throughout the year. I love their birthdays, something nice to look forward to and celebrate post Xmas and during the cold and depressing winter months. Though I do joke I'm like a panda and only fertile once a year!
As for sharing birthdays - well dc1 is a girl and coming up at 12, and dc3 a boy who will be 4 next birthday so they have to be separate occasions although I have joked to dc1 she will have to share a celebration when they are adults x

SnozzberryPie · 03/11/2015 12:46

Another bad planner here

Dc 2 is due in December, a couple of weeks before dd's birthday and three weeks before Christmas. We decided we wanted a three year age gap, started trying and it happened straight away as it did with dd, will I never learn?. December is set to be a very expensive month in our family...

MrsPear · 03/11/2015 12:54

Mine are both October two weeks apart. To make it special for each child they wake to a birthday banner and balloons emphasising age that stay up for a week with birthday cards. Then a week off and then repeat for the next. Plus they each have their own cake and candles. So all is fair
The only negatives are that October is expensive and I feel fat as I am never restrained around cake.

PotteringAlong · 03/11/2015 12:58

My DH and BiL both share a birthday! My DH is the oldest and he is a bit wary about birthdays as, despite the best efforts of my PiL, it inevitably became all about BiL as they got older (DH is 5 years older so grew out of parties etc). But they always had seperate parties and 2 cakes!

PotteringAlong · 03/11/2015 12:59

I think if it's a different day you're fine; the sharing a day thing is more problematic.

BiffleRoo · 04/11/2015 16:56

DS was born June 2014 and baby is due June 2016. My nieces are (5 years) and a week apart. My DH and DD2 are 3 days apart and DH and his sister are also 3 days apart (she is same day as DD2). I quite like the idea of my babies having joint parties as they get older

PotteringAlong · 04/11/2015 17:48

You might biffle but play it by ear - it's the only thing I've ever heard DH express disappointment at that his birthday was shared.

BelleMairead2 · 05/11/2015 07:46

My brother 1st Feb
My sister 6th Feb
Twin sisters 9th Feb
Me- September.
I was always jealous I wasn't in Feb with them! Same month birthdays make it a great time of year x

3timesascrazy · 05/11/2015 10:47

(Completely outing myself..)

dd1 and dd1 share the same birthday, exactly one year apart..not sure how I managed that one

dc3 due 1 month before their birthday, I could of very well had 3 on the same day if I had fallen a month later!

fizzysweetie · 05/11/2015 10:56

I'm pregnant with my second and while they fall in different months, there are only 11 days between their due dates, so will be very close. And my birthday is in between the two!

enderwoman · 05/11/2015 11:00

My 2 are 2 years and 4 days apart.

No problems here. Dc2 is always excited about her birthday on dc1's birthday.

waitingforsomething · 05/11/2015 12:13

Me and my brother and sister all have a birthday in December. It's a chaotic month but didn't seem to be an issue growing up!

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