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Feel sick! Just had a BFP and have a newborn at home. ;(

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stupidstupidgirl · 04/12/2006 14:52

Nearly 3 weeks ago DH and I had sex for the first time since DD was born (she's 9wks) It wasn't really planned, sort of dozy middle of the night thing. I thought the next day that we hadn't been careful but didn't worry too much as I hadn't had a period and was BF.

Anyway, yesterday I got that 'feeling' and I've done a test this morning and there it was. My head is spinning and I feel sick. We had decided that 2 was our lot and although DH will be supportive I'm not sure how I feel.

Has this happened to anyone else? Please can someone help me see straight and give me a little perspective.

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colditz · 04/12/2006 14:54

Oh boy. How do you feel about hving another child? either way you need to go to your GP.

happybiggirl · 04/12/2006 14:56

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beansprout · 04/12/2006 14:58

You've obviously had a shock. Take some time, have a think and talk to dh. Don't beat yourself up though, it's done now. Be kind to yourself!

Wisp · 04/12/2006 15:08

I've been there and done it too.
It was a huge shock and took me several weeks to accept I was going to have a 3rd child and a year age gap between the youngest.
He is 18 months now, and so glad it happened!
Thinking of you

WeFrizyouamerrychristmas · 04/12/2006 15:15

You'll be ok hon, but its one hell of a shock eh {{{{Hugs}}}} a friend has two under 18mths and has managed fine, they're now two happy little boys aged 4/3 who play together fine

twelvedaysofchristmas · 04/12/2006 15:17

Feel sorry for you. What a shock! A colleague at work did this, but once she was over the inital terror, it worked out quite well. Having kids with a really small age gap can be lovely for them and for you - particularly if you raise them to "look after each other". When they're 3 & 4, there'll be less minding in them as they'll play together.

Hard to think that far ahead now, but it truly isn't the end of the world.

Hope you feel ok with it soon. x

beckybrastraps · 04/12/2006 15:20

My sister and brother are very close in age for this reason (my mum was also rather shocked by it). And very close in other ways too. They had great fun together when they were children. And my mum managed just fine .

PinkTinsel · 04/12/2006 15:22

{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

just take a few deepbreathes and get your head around it. you'll cope because you have to and after the first couple of years it'll be great!

snowydelight · 04/12/2006 15:38

It must be a real shock, but CONGRATULATIONS. You will cope, and unlike me you will (probably ) never be left wondering where on earth to go for a day out with a 13, 8 and 3 year old that will keep them all happy!

LunarSeasonsGreetings · 04/12/2006 19:22

So would they be in the same school year, albeith at different ends of the age range?

NAB3 · 04/12/2006 19:23

Oh, you are soooooooooo lucky.

me23bottlesofsherry · 04/12/2006 19:27

do you want to have another baby? you do have choices. I just noticied everyone saying congratualtions etc.. but you havent made it clear if what you are leaning towards, havce you spoken to dh yet? how are you feeling now?

frenziednester · 04/12/2006 19:47

My 3rd was a surprise too (am still pregnant with it) and it took me about 18 weeks to get my had around the idea, so no, you are not at all alone. Give yourself some time and try to ease into the idea if you can.

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stupidstupidgirl · 04/12/2006 20:27

Thank you everyone for your support. I'm sorry I didn't come back on sooner but I went for a long walk then asked DH to come home early.
He's stunned but totally supportive although I'm just still in shock.
I haven't really thought about it in terms of having another child as I'm finding it hard to get past the having another pregnancy bit.
Sorry about the name change. I'm a married woman in my late 30s who's embarrassed to admit I'm pregnant. How sad.

Lunar, I hadn't even thought about them both being in the same school year.

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stupidstupidgirl · 04/12/2006 20:27

Lunar, I hadn't even thought about them both being in the same school year.

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oopsididitagain · 04/12/2006 22:27

hey honey - i know exaclty what your feeling, my LO is 8 weeks old this friday and I got a BFP last week, never thought it would happen as am BF and hadnt had a period, infact, I'd only just stopped bleeding... if you want to chat, Im dealing with things better already...

GoodKingWestCountryLass · 04/12/2006 22:50

Blimey, what a shock! But I do hope you can get your head round it. My friend went for her 6 week check to be told she was 4 weeks pregnant and she now has 5 kids (4 planned) but her little one is a delight

bramblina · 04/12/2006 23:03

My friend had her 2nd dd yesterday morning- her dd1 is not 1 till boxing day! 1st christmas for them both. It will be great, once the initial shock is over, think of all the fun ahead, not things you dread. You'll be amazed at how you manage.

eclipse · 05/12/2006 09:48

I'm not an expert in this area but I seem to remember from reading hpt leaflets that it's possible to get a bfp up to 8 weeks after giving birth and the test is showing hormones from your previous pregnancy. I'm sure others will know more about this than me. It might be worth checking but if that's not the case, many congratulations.

LemonTart · 05/12/2006 09:53

eclipse, i did wonder that too. Not trying to stamp on your excitement or plans, but as it is so close to last pregnancy, I would get it confirmed by a GP first before you plan too much. They should be able to monitor your HCG levels and check they are going up not residue from previous pregnancy. If it is a BFP, congratulations, Exciting times ahead

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stupidstupidgirl · 05/12/2006 14:24

Oops, so glad to feel I'm not alone although sorry you're in the same position.
Thanks for all the positive posts over this. It helps to know that others have been there and coped.

Eclipse and LT, that's worth noting but DD is 9wks and these feeling have only ever meant one thing IME. That coupled with the BFP and I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. I will see my GP though when I manage to get over my shame.

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oopsididitagain · 05/12/2006 17:47

my GP couldnt stffle his mocking lughter... right before he took blood - he asked if I was sure I wanted to keep it - i think they all expect me to have a termination.

didnt tell MIL - just tried to sound her out about what she thought, "my friend at antenatel etc" she jsut laughed and said that "my friend" should go to the nearest clinic ASAP and get herself "sorted". she also said that "my friend" should get her tubes tied while she was there... nice

so I wont be telling her in a hurry. LOL

good luck any way

keep us posted x x x

paulaplumpbottom · 05/12/2006 19:45

Your MIL sounds lovely.

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stupidstupidgirl · 05/12/2006 20:42

Yes, I'm worried about telling inlaws and parents. I feel like a 16yr old having to confess to being up the duff!

MIL will look at me in disgust as I'm pretty sure when we told her we were stopping at two she assumed we'd have no more sex!

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mrspf · 06/12/2006 20:37

There is only 12 months between me and my sister and it was really good to have a sibling so close in age. My mum also didn't expect to get pg whilst bf and was too ashamed to tell her mum or boss.

But I don't think you should feel stupid as these things happen, and you just need time to get used to the idea.

Good luck. x x x

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