Pregnant but feel rejected by own sibling.

[Katarzyna79]

Hello

I recently discovered I was pregnant, I had an inkling but I was putting off getting tested. Anyway the point is it was not planned. I already have 4 children who are very young. It is not the ideal situation as I am a carer also for 2 people. But I did take contraception and I don't believe in abortions so I am determined to be positive about this.

I told my sister as I thought she'd be unhappy if she found out too late, I knew she wouldn't be thrilled, but she went silent, then went on at me being stupid, irresponsible, making my life hard etc. I agree about a harder life, but stupid and irresponsible no, I was using contraception its not 100%. short of sterilisation what was I supposed to do?

Ive not really spoken to her since, ive not told my friends yet since they have their own problems. One has gone through a traumatic birth and the other has issues in her family and needs my support so I didn't want to be selfish and lean on her. This is the first pregnancy where I have felt no one is happy with the news of a baby, my husband is pleased but we are just so busy having moved house and jobs. I feel like not only is this baby unwanted but me too.

I am still being positive because I think children are a blessing even though they are a pain to raise.

Anyone else felt like this before, I'm disappointed by what my sister said ive never seen this side of her.

I'm happy for you

Children are a blessing. You can't change how other people feel. If she's not going to be supportive of you, then I would just take a step back until shr has some more constructive input.

Honestly, I don't know why people spout such negative opinions over things that have nothing to do with them.

I expect she'll come around. It can be hard to conceal initial reactions and it sounds like she is genuinely concerned for you and how you'll cope. I was unimpressed when my sister announced her third pregnancy because although wanting to ttc #3 ourselves we decided we should buy a bigger house, clear some debts etc... first, trying to be sensible about it. She was in an unstable relationship, two small dcs already, tiny council flat, financially very insecure. It was hard to be happy about it. Then I went with her to her scan and saw her twins in there, it was difficult not to be happy! Like you say, children are a blessing.

Is there a personal reason why she's being like this? Is she struggling ttc or jealous at all? Ultimately it's your life and you'll make it work

Congratulations!!!