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45 and (might be) pregnant - first time

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NewParent2015 · 14/10/2015 15:50

New joiner, new everything!

I'm 45, been with my OH for just over a year and... I think that I might be pregnant.

Unlike many others on here, we haven't been ttc, if I am pregnant it will be a complete and utter surprise.

Why do I think I am? Well, I'm on the mini-pill (Cerelle), I take it as I should, but then I started being terribly, terribly tired, never felt anything like it - I usually need so little sleep!), feeling nauseous, very low back pain/ache, low tummy ache-feeling like I'm going to have my period, but nothing happening, twinges around my hips... A few weeks ago, I had a bit of a brown discharge, followed by some very light pink marks on the toilet paper when I wiped, and then nothing at all since then. I just thought it was an unusual bleed. But I have been on Cerelle long enough to know how my body reacts to it (I think).

I just feel... different. It's so hard to explain. I don't have any children, never tried to conceive, so I have no idea what being pregnant is like. My OH has two teenage boys - they are fab.

I'm going for blood tests tonight. I had what I think might have been a very faint positive on a First Response test, but again, I have no idea what to look for, specifically.

I'll be honest, I am petrified. Not about my OH's reaction, but what to do if I am pregnant. This wouldn't be an unwanted baby or unloved, but it would definitely be unplanned. I feel so silly, having (maybe) an unplanned first pregnancy at 45...

I'm not asking for anyone on here to tell me if I am or not, just needed to write it down.

How long do blood tests take to come back, do you know? And OMG, what on earth do I do next...?!!!

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Number3cometome · 14/10/2015 15:57

To be honest, I would probably do another First Response in the meantime, and post it up her, ya know, for analysis

Joking aside, how do you feel about this? Are you secretly happy?

I was on Cerelle for many years and most of the symptoms can be mistaken for pregnancy, they are very similar, but I would certainly get checked out.

If you are pregnant, your doctor will run through the necessary steps and checks with you.

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NewParent2015 · 14/10/2015 16:35

Hi Number3cometome - oh yes, I can just see me trying to focus my phone camera on another pregnancy test at 6am tomorrow...! lol!

How do I feel? I go from secretly happy to wondering what the hell we will do. It's not like it would put us in dire straits or anything and we have a fantastic relationship, but it just hasn't been thought about or discussed at all. TBH, I rather thought I wasn't all that fertile - had problem periods all along and so on. So, I'm on a bit of seesaw at the moment!

I know that Cerelle can produce these side effects, however I've never had them before, or nothing remotely like them. If it is Cerelle causing them, then I'm tempted to come off it. I feel rubbish!

Thank you for replying :)

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redannie118 · 14/10/2015 16:37

This reply has been withdrawn

The OP has privacy concerns, and so we've agreed to take this down now.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 14/10/2015 16:49

You could buy a clear blue digital test - saves the debate on whether it is a line or isn't and faster than a blood test. Good luck!

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NewParent2015 · 14/10/2015 17:17

Hi redannie118 - thank you for your reply. Gosh - pregnant or perimenopause - what a strange set of bedfellows (if you'll pardon the pun!).

I feel a bit odd, since I know so many women who are desperate for a baby and to be honest, I've never been in this position! If I am pregnant, it seems so unfair...

Hey ho, I guess I'll find out in a few days....

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flyrobynfly43 · 14/10/2015 17:20

Go to Boots and do another test, a clear blue digital test.
Why hang around waiting for blood tests when you could find out within the hour?

flyrobynfly43 · 14/10/2015 17:21

Get another test , should read.

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NewParent2015 · 14/10/2015 17:21

Hi NeedMoreSleepOrSugar - that's a thought! However, I've decided to not make myself any more crazy than I already am about the whole thing and just have the blood tests tonight and not buy another home pregnancy test. I guess the results will take a couple of days, but I will keep away from the chemists - HONEST!!

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flyrobynfly43 · 14/10/2015 17:23

But a test from the chemist will give you an instant result!

Why torture yourself for the next few days? Especially when there's no need - in this day and age of over the counter, almost 100% accurate pregnanacy tests that are around!

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NewParent2015 · 14/10/2015 17:23

Hi flyrobynfly43

I've got an appointment tonight so... I thought the digital ones were less sensitive anyway?

See, I know nothing, so I'm just going to put myself in the hands of the professionals!

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flyrobynfly43 · 14/10/2015 18:14

Good luck (whichever way it goes)

Come back and tell us what happened!

Champagneformyrealfriends · 14/10/2015 20:54

I go from happy to wondering what the hell we're going to do on a daily basis. My baby was unplanned, I found out 3 weeks before our wedding! We'd always said we'd try after our wedding but I was do shocked. I still am if truth be told!

Keep us posted! Xxx

cashewnutty · 14/10/2015 20:56

Good luck OP. I hope it works out well for you.

Hotpotpie · 14/10/2015 21:33

Digital tests are less sensitive, if you are going to retest try either another frer or a super drug cheapy rather than waste your money, and wait for your first wee of the morning. Best of luck I hope you get the outcome that you want

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NewParent2015 · 15/10/2015 09:01

Dear everyone - thank you for being so kind to read and reply to my somewaht flaky message!

Will get blood test results today. I had all other possible tests to try and get to the bottom of the crashing fatigue last week, and all my results are normal - you know, thyroid, ferritin, haemoglobin etc etc.

If I'm not pregnant, then all of this is a mystery...

Still not sure how I feel, to be honest. It all feels unreal. Like I said before, to get to 45 and suddenly be thinking about possible pregnancy is somewhat of a shock! If I'd met my man earlier in life, then this possibility wouldn't be so much of an OMG type feeling.

Champagneformyrealfriends - I know this feeling!!

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Number3cometome · 15/10/2015 09:02

Good luck OP! I hope you get the result you want - keep us posted.

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NewParent2015 · 15/10/2015 09:27

Yes, I'll let you know, thank you all.

It could all just be a storm in a teacup, I know, but it has helped being able to share with you all.

It still holds, if it's -ve, that like my username says, I am kind of a new parent. My OH has 2 teenage (almost adult) sons and whilst they don't live with us, I do feel a strange kind of responsibility towards them. They are fab. I never planned to meet anyone with children - it just goes to show that life has a habit of throwing the unexpected at you!

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Ledkr · 15/10/2015 09:32

How exciting.

I had my 5th at 44. She has just started school. She is amazing and I still get my age guessed as 40 which I suspect is more to do with having her than my good looks but hey?

redannie118 · 15/10/2015 09:38

This reply has been withdrawn

The OP has privacy concerns, and so we've agreed to take this down now.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 15/10/2015 22:45

Hope you got some good news today! Xx

MissSmiley · 15/10/2015 22:54

Any news? How did you get on?

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NewParent2015 · 16/10/2015 06:54

Hi all - so I'm not pregnant, after all that. It could be a mix of the side effects of Cerelle (which I've never had before) and
peri-menopause.

I'm fine with that. To be honest, being a sort of step-mum to my OH's teenage boys is a new journey and a joy already, so I don't need any more at this point in my life.

Thank you all for your comments and support. I shall hop on over to the step-parent board over the weekend and see what's going on there. I'm sure I'll learn something!

Good luck to all of you who are hoping for baby news soon x

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Number3cometome · 16/10/2015 09:24

Glad you are ok with the news OP x

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