Anxious day

[Nousername2015]

Feeling super anxious today, been struggling with it all pregnancy with definite peaks and troughs. Not too sure what I'm lookong to get out of this thread but advice and coping mechanisms would certainly be welcome!
25+2 today, baby decided to be very quiet at his usual time last night so ended up doing the whole cold drink, lie down, poke him thing. Took 90 mins to get him moving, just as I picked up my phone to call triage I got 3 big kicks. Was gone midnight at this point.
Woke up again at 4 for the loo and again poked him to get a few thuds which worked. Couldn't really get back to sleep, alarm goes off at 6, guess I should get used to the sleepless nights.
Baby has been more active (without encouragement) this morning but when I went to the loo about an hour ago I had very thick, jelly like discharge on the paper when wiped. There was no blood but it took me by surprise. Called the mw who said it sounds like common discharge but to keep an eye on movements and watch out for any water loss.
Logical part of me says baby is moving, there's no blood or cramping, all is well and this is just another pregnancy thing. The rest of me (which usually wins) has all sorts running through my head and just cannot calm down.
I know we all get like this from time to time but how can I move on and calm down? I need to concentrate on my work which is just not happening. I can feel my heart racing when I get like this and cannot calm down. Any advice out there?

Hello,

I certainly had quiet days from the baby at 25 weeks where I'd feel almost nothing (often after a day of going mental and knackering himself out). It is still really early for a really clear observable pattern of movements so try not to worry too much. I think as long as you are feeling him moving a couple of times in the morning and then in the evening its ok. It's only been from about 28 weeks that I've really found I expect movements basically all day.

As for the anxiety, remember that actually statistically nothing is wrong and you and your baby will be fine. These sorts of forums (because they do allow a place for mums who have had horrible experiences) can give you the impression that you/your baby are in more danger than you really are.

I have to admit I still get terrified if my wee man is quiet (even though I know he does this from time to time). But I just try and step back and think to myself 'well he was pummelling me 2 hours ago, what's the likelihood something has gone wrong in that time' and wait it out. Inevitably he's back on form later.

Having said that I am also sure if there was something wrong I would know it. So if you really have a concern and think there is something wrong, don't hesitate to get help.

I'm 29 weeks today and share the exact same fear - if baby has a bit of a quiet day it sends me into a bit of a panic.

I am really, really worried about stillbirth (and the internet does not help at all in calming my fears!) - no idea how to switch this panic off though.

If its any comfort I'm in the discharge brigade and have been since BFP. It's really common. Feels like you've wet yourself sometimes there's so much of it. Now at the point where I want to wear panty liners pretty much every day.

So glamorous!

cth, I hear you. I feel like I'm walking under an anvil and at any point it's going to fall and the worst will happen. Today's freak out is the latest in a long line, even though I feel very grateful that everything has been relatively straightforward was this pregnancy. Just can't shake that feeling though.

clarabellski It's hideous isn't it? I was in triage at 18 weeks due to 'watery loss' which was discharge and then today's change has been another curveball thrown at me.

Work going a bit better but am shattered. Did download a kick counting app though just to track today's activity and I think that has provided some reassurance (for now).