Sickness

[OrchidLilly14]

Hello everyone,

I'm OrchidLilly14...I'm a newbie to the site and am looking forward to getting to know you all.

I am looking for some advice.

I found out that I'm pregnant ... which is very unexpected, but great news as I was told at 19 I'd never have children (and despite trying to conceive - I very much thought that this would be the case)

However, even though I am only 6 weeks pregnant, my sickness is absolutely aweful!!

I'm having to take my third day (not in a row) off work now because it is so bad. However, I've only just started a new job and have been there for 5 weeks now. I didn't know that I was pregnant when I started, otherwise I would have stayed where I was.

I've called in sick again this morning because I'm hogging the toilet seat again but I'm worried that my boss is going to fire me. Should I tell him that I'm pregnant or would that warrant me being sacked anyway?

I'm really worrying about what to do! Has anyone else been in this situation? Can anyone help?

OrchidLilly

Oh I'm sorry, hugs.

I've had hg three times, it really isn't funny.

Try the gp for medication and make sure if possible that you don't go hungry. I know it seems awful but try different things to see what stays down, generally carbs like plain pasta, toast, water biscuits etc. try very cold water through a straw in small sips too. I find iced fizzy water with a bit of fresh lime or lemon squeezed in helps. Some crunch ice chips. Some find that a bit of cordial in the water helps.
It's a bit of trial and error finding what works.
There is medication so contact the gp, don't get dehydrated as that is dangerous for you both

I'm not up on rights in pregnancy re work but know a lot of women get utterly shafted even by bosses they previously thought lovely.

I'm sure someone else will give better advice.

I would have thought that if you do tell them you should be signed off by doc so officially recorded that your boss knows you are pregnant. It means if your boss starts changing your role or tries something dodgy then you can prove they knew you were pregnant and their actions are discriminatory.
Sorry to sound so suspicious and negative but women can be put in terrible positions employment wise, no matter how much you trust your boss!

Signed off for morning sickness I mean, a letter from your doc to boss.

But what is your contract etc at work?

Hello ladies,

Thank you so very much for your advice ... I really appreciate it!

I've spoken with ACAS this morning who advised me that the best way to get protection over my job is to tell my boss I'm pregnant. I've done this now, eventually plucking up the courage (whilst barfing) and spoke with him this morning.

He seemed happier that he knew why I was, and had been, off sick and has agreed to be flexible with me regarding working from home, going to the office later during the day etc, but only for the next month.

I don't think he was very impressed that I am pregnant so early and appeared keen to find out whether I was going to remain in my employment with him. He expressed that my pregnancy meant he would have to reorganise a lot of things and kept asking me if I was going to stay working for him (I almost felt like a nusience, that it would be easier for him if I left the company - it probably would be but who is going to employ a vomiting pregnant girl now?)

I've wanted this baby for nearly 10 years and (he wishfull thinking) is finaly here...I just wish I could be a bit happier about the situation :(

As for the sickness, it's terrible, although I'm not actually being sick, just dry heaves, but that's enough!! I've managed water and dry crackers as mentioned today, thank you for that recommendation. I'm hoping they will stay down. Fingers crossed.

I hope you are both feeling well today and are having a great morning.
Thank you again for your advice.

OrchidLilly :)

P.S. The company is a new company and I am only one of two females working there. There is nothing in my contract about pregnancy or maternity pay (which I doubt I will be able to receive) so this should be interesting.

If the conversation was verbal then send an email confurming the conversation and everything that you both said, including his asking you if you will stay. He actually shouldn't ask as your job needs to be kept open until your return from maternity leave. You might have to return for a bit to keep your pay. Like I said I don't know much about it, I would start a new thread asking for advice

Hi there,

I got pregnant with my first child, literally the week I started a new job. Unfortunately, this meant I wasn't entitled to maternity pay from the company. The government provide something called Maternity Allowance, which you will qualify for if you work a certain number of weeks before your baby arrives. This meant I got £137 per week for a number of months after my daughter was born. It's definitely worth looking in to. I know it might not equate to anywhere near what maternity pay may have been but it's definitely better than nothing. Hope this helps x