33 week wobbles!

[Zamaz]

Morning all,

Sorry, this is a bit of a tedious post. I just need a bit of a vent (and to know if anyone is feeling similar!)!

I am 33 weeks at the moment with baby number 1. I suddenly feel heavily pregnant and knackered; what I am sure are usual symptoms / niggles at this stage have me convinced I'm in pre-term labour; I feel like I'm thinking through fog; maternity leave feels an AGE away (last day 30th Oct) and meanwhile I feel like I am struggling to manage work + long commute; I have lots of baby prep and house move prep things to do (we move a few weeks after little 'un is due) and no time (until mat leave) to do it; I have finally realised I need to slow down a bit, which is an alien concept though I am trying; plus my head is filled with all the usual jitters about baby arriving / the uncertainty.

All in all I would just like to give in to the feeling sorry for myself, hide under the duvet and have a good cry! I am aware this is unlikely to be helpful though... Normally telling myself to man up and be rational about things work for me, but my usual approach is not working! I know how lucky I am in so many respects, so also feel bad about feeling bad!

There. Vent over. Thanks for reading. And breathe...

It is tough. I have a 17 day old and I'm less tired now than when I was pregnant!

Can you finish up earlier?

My only advise is we moved when dd1 was a few days old and it was very difficult! Can you move before or a couple of months later?

Been there, got the t shirt currently typing this with a two week old sleeping on my chest. Would making some lists and prioritising tasks for you/your partner help? I know when I had pregnancy wobbles my husband responded by taking more on and getting things sorted to reassure me. Make sure you treat yourself, be it something nice to eat or pedicure at the weekend- I found the latter a big boost. Reflexology was also quite relaxing and helped me sleep.

Listen to your body and maybe find out if you could do a few days from home rather than commuting in every day - this helped me lots.

Good luck- all these feelings are totally normal and very soon you'll be cuddling your gorgeous baby

Agree on working from home if possible. I did this for the last 4 week's which meant l could work up to 39 weeks.

Take it easy! I really wish I had written your post and someone had said that to me. Now I'm 38 weeks, stopped work yesterday, just moved house, everything hurts, struggling with the chaos and I feel awful. I really wish I had known how hard it would be and that I didn't have to be superwoman. Everything I promised myself I would do - watch a film, go for a swim, pregnancy yoga - I did none of it and didn't take care of myself at all so please do, you will feel so much better for a few hours to yourself and not a never ending to do list (because it is never ending!!!)

Thank you all for your wise words and kindness :)

You are absolutely right about taking it easy. I am sure most of the things I've listed are signs that I should be, much as I hate to admit it... I know when I get stressed / worried I tend to get more frantic to try and try to get stuff sorted, which is a way of coping - but also generates more stress! Note to self: resist above-mentioned viscious cycle!

I really need to prioritise and start saying no to some stuff I think. My hubsand is being great with taking stuff on, which I really appreciate. And I spoke with my boss earlier this week about working from home and have identified a few days over the coming weeks where I can do so which I think will make a big difference.

Re: the house move, sadly it is Army-enforced (rather than our choice) so the date is fixed. I am v grateful that they pay for a removals company to do most of it, and I have roped my sister and brother in law in to help us unpack. So hopefully it should be as smooth as moving with a newborn can ever be! And I feel positive about it which helps, in that we are moving to a nice new area and to house which looks good from the plans (in true Army style, I will see it for the first time when we turn up with our stuff!).

Thanks to those of you who posted as new mums - I have to keep sight of the outcome of this, which (all being well, fingers crossed) will be a new, healthy, happy baby in around 7 weeks! (Then the hard work really begins ).

Thank you. You have restored some positivity and given me a much-needed boost, which I really appreciate :)

Ladypug: you may be 38 weeks but it's not too late to take your own (very good) advce and take it easy! Sounds like you've got an awful lot on, please take care of yourself.

Thanks Zamaz, so true. I'm surrounded by boxes and chaos and still haven't bought half the things needed for the baby but I might try and relax a bit more whilst I still can!

Zamaz I am a week ahead of you and I am finishing work on the same date. I feel exactly the same, although I am slowly working my way through my lists of things that need sorting, but finding a childminder is my main stress at the mo. Your not alone in finding it harder to keep going. I have had a kind offer from a colleague at work to take on some of my hours so I can do shorter days (just need to convince my husband now), but if you can arrange to work from home, or reduce your hours then go for it. Good luck with your move x

Could have written this post!! 33 weeks, had some horrible pain yesterday in my back which I panicked was the start :-/ Been off work today and not going in tomorrow as I need to listen to my body being exhausted! Glad there are a few days you can work from home, I'm a teacher so no such luck. We are also moving house soon but we are hoping to complete in the next few weeks and get moved before baby comes. Take it easy and hopefully the next 7 weeks will fly by for us :)

I'm 34 weeks and just ommy first day of ML. I brought it forward as I was feeling dreadful. I definitely feel heavily pregnant now. I want to go to bed at 9pm as I am so uncomfortable but am uncomfy in bed from about 3am.

The blessing is that the 3yo has taken up napping again so many days both preschooler's are sleeping and I can too.

Oh I'm lying in bed at the moment feeling dreadful at 33+2. 2nd baby and have a few medical things that are making life & working & toddler very hard work and I want to curl up and sleep forever.
Feel like I have no REAL problems but very little problems don't seem manageable.
Birth seems yonks away yet at the same time I don't feel I've enough time to get prepared.
Feeling like I don't want to/can't cope with being pregnant anymore but knowing this is (likely) to be our last I feel I should be enjoying and making the most of it.
I'm so messy!!!!
33 week wobbles are annoying!

32 weeks and feeling the same. I'm going on mat leave in four weeks but I am using annual leave to take a day off midweek for the last three weeks, could you do that? We already have a toddler and dp is busy trying to finish off some diy before the baby is born so I am shattered!

I am 34 weeks tomorrow and I am so done with being pregnant! Spd means I can't walk at more than a snail's pace for more than 10 mins without being in pain, I can't turn over in bed without my pelvis cracking, the baby now feels so big he is booting me in the ribs at the same time as poking me down near my hips. Can't wait to go on leave in 2 weeks time. Oh and I cry a lot, too!

On the one hand I am sorry to hear that so many others of you are suffering the 30-something week woes too - but on the other I am pleased I am not alone
I guess one way of looking at it is like we're nearing the end of the marathon, the bit where runners hit 'the wall' and usually falter a bit. We know the end is in not very far at all, just round the corner, but it's not quite visible yet - the only thing is to keep going and we'll get there!
I think you're right Mrs Lobster, when you feel as we all do, the small things (and worries) feel like huge obstacles, when if we had more energy (and fewer hormones) we would just take them in our stride.
I reckon the way forward it to give up the idea of being Superwoman, cut ourselves some (a lot of, acually) slack, eat some chocolate, and remind ourselves that we're doing great, things will fall in to place, and one day (when we are wrestling toddlers or arguing with teenagers) we will look back on this time fondly!
Sending big hugs to everyone in the same boat!

I do keep trying to remind myself how broody I was and how much u wanted to be pregnant again! I absolutely can't wait to meet little in and add to the family but the pregnancy is so hard.
Nearly collapsed in the supermarket before due to spd and just wanted to give up there and then in the fruit and veg!
Pregnancy is beautiful and lovely and I know how lucky I am. I love the metaphor of the marathon wall...definitely how I feel. Never helps when I have the question "how long now?" about a million times a day! Going to pack hospital bag this weekend to make myself feel better and more prepared!