please give me advice to what has happened!!

[kahex]

Advice Please! What's happened!
I missed my period 6 weeks ago so only 4th day of missing my period I took a pregnancy test which came up positive, I took another a few days later and came up positive! I've had morning sickness, sore breasts around the 5/6 week mark I went to the doctors and they gave me a pack and was sent on my way! After 2 weeks I noticed very light pink bleeding I rang the doctor and she said it was normal but if it was to increase and if the blood became red to come back to the doctor. On Monday morning I started bleeding heavily like I was having a period, I was clotting and got worried so went back to the doctor that day, they got me a scan for today, so today I went and had a scan they couldn't find any sign of pregnancy the nurse had said usually in pregnancy the womb thickens but mine seems quite thin, she did a pregnancy test and it has come up negative?? I'm so confused to what has happened they haven't really told me I just got told you have lost the pregnancy but it's happened to quickly for a miscarriage apparently? They were quite rude and got sent on my way! I'm now sat at home like what!!! Has anyone else experienced this or can anyone else help me come to terms with what's happened!!? ??

So sorry hon.

I don't understand what they mean by 'it happened too early for a miscarriage' though if they also confirmed you lost the pregnancy.

It sounds like you were pregnant but for some reason (usually due to missing chromosome information) the body has ended the pregnancy. It's most common due to missing genetic information but it can also be down to other reasons like not high enough progesterone or blood clotting issues etc.

I've had two but went on to have two healthy little girls. I know it's devastating and you need to take time to grieve for this baby and the future you had planned. It doesn't mean it will happen again though so take comfort from that if you can.

There are many charities which you can contact for support or co tact your GP if you're struggling emotionally xx

sorry if the message was unclear she meant since I'd only been bleeding for two days the miscarriage wouldn't have happened that quickly and would still show something I think that's what she meant xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. Our bodies are so different, I guess yours just did everything very quickly. Please take care of yourself

Thankyou for your kindness x

I'm really sorry that they haven't explained it.

I don't know but wonder if the embryo didn't implant/didn't implant properly. I believe there can be a time lag between your hormone levels dropping back down which means you can get positive pregnancy tests when you are no longer pregnant.

So sorry Kahex. There is no way they should have been so unsympathetic and mean to you - how awful.

You were pregnant because you had a positive pregnancy test - you can't get a false positive. You may have had a chemical pregnancy - which is basically a very early miscarriage. You will be in shock right now and you need to be kind to yourself

As an aside - it's best to take with a pinch of salt anything the hospital tells you about early pregnancy. I was once told I had a miscarriage but I hadn't and I knew I hadn't! It's impossible for them to know what actually happened.

Sounds like a chemical pregnancy. Early miscarriage like this is quite common and you xan bleed and miscarry quickly at this early stage, I have done twice so I don't know why the nurse said that to you.

Thankyou everyone! Xx

I found the majority of medical staff quite cold and unsympathetic. They see it every day and become desensitised and I think many forget how devastating it is and how it's not just a physical thing.

I understand what you mean now.
Just a heads up though. I started bleeding at 7 weeks and went for a scan two days later and they couldn't find anything. The next day I suffered terrible pains and passed what must have been the 'products' as they call it. I was very scared and didn't realise this was normal and it was normal to have quite a bit of pain as no one explained it to me from the hospital.
When I miscarried at 5.5 weeks I just had what was a normal period and didn't notice anything more.

Not trying to scare you so sorry if this is upsetting. I just wanted you to be prepared in case they've maybe missed something at the scan and you experience similar to what happened to me and didn't know what wS happening. Hopefully everything has already passed now and you won't have any more physical pain or discomfort.

I am truly sorry this has happened and even more sorry you didn't get more sympathetic care at the hospital. Be good to yourself and give yourself time.

Xx

Thankyou this information is really helping me get my head round it all! I never expected anything positive when I went! Just thankyou for taking the time to respond really appreciate it x

Today I passed a fully intact foetus! I was so shocked! Thank goodness for your warnings! Which means I've obviously miscarried not a chemical pregnancy as the foetus had begun to form! I'm so disgusted! how I was treated they made me feel like I was lying about being pregnant and made me feel I was wasting there time! So upset! Should I complain or just leave it!?
I'm only 20 and this is my first pregnancy I thought I'd have a bit of support instead I got a if I was you i would go to the gp and get on contraception so this doesn't happen again! Just because it wasn't planned doesn't mean I wasn't going to abort I would expect that if I was!! So mad!

Kahex - I'm so sorry for your loss and the way you were treated. If I were you I would certainly complain.

I feel like complaining because I'm so angry with them but then I think what will it achieve.. X

So sorry this happened OP.

I think you're perfectly within your rights to complain if that's what you decide to do.