I am GRUMPY today (and also very sweary and self indulgent)

[OhBigHairyBollocks]

Before anyone says it; I know, I'm extremely lucky to be pregnant by choice, for the second time. This was my choice.

BUT.
I am so, so FUCKING uncomfortable. I'm 26 weeks and I don't know how I'm going to manage another 13

People ask me with that well-meaning look and accompanied fucking headtilt how I am feeling.
"Well I'm feeling like this. My pelvis is quite literally falling apart and I am likely to end up on crutches or even a wheelchair because I have a rather vile condition called SPD. No, I can't take it easy because I hAve a very active toddler who I already have oodles of guilt about because I am being a right shit parent right now as I can only manage two hours upright at a time. No, there is no-one else to help me, everyone works full time. Yes, it will back to normal after the baby is out. If my pelvis hasn't broken before then.
I'm fighting off my depression because I don't want to take the ADs while I'm pregnant. I can't breathe because the baby is compressing my lungs. Im so tired I want to sleep all day and all night but I can't because I'm in so much pain and then I have to get up and wee a thousand times an hour and I want to eat chocolate 24/7. I am positively dreading the next 13 weeks until my blessed C-section and it feels like it's never going to end."

"oh well.. I'm sure it will be worth it in the end"

If you want to know how I am at least give me some sympathy and ACKNOWLEDGE THIS IS SHIT. DO not start with the patronising head tilt either and accompanied "aww hun"

And.. Breathe. Sorry. Very self indulgent I know but I'm feeling really bad today

Why are you off the ADs? There is absolutely no need to martyr yourself in this way when research shows that certain ADs are safe in pregnancy (in on an 'unsafec' one - Seroxat - but am coming off them by 36 wks so I can birth at a midwife-led unit. I did the same thing last year when I gave birth).

I am currently 24 wks pregnant with SPD and also inflammation of the bursas (the sacs of fluid beneath the buttocks). I'm on dihydrocodeine and paracetamol four times a day plus use the Tens machine whi h provides temporary bliss.

You have my sympathy, obvs, but if you're not prepared to take perfectly safe painkilling drugs and safer ADs then you I think you're being a bit of a martyr.

Are you having any physio? Can you afford a babysitter to come take the toddlers out while you rest?

Think it's totally reasonable not to want to take medication when pregnant, we all make different choices when it comes to this kind of thing.

Very happy to offer my full sympathy and say- yes, that sounds really shit and I would feel just as despondent. I really hope you have a better day tomorrow. Eat as much chocolate as you can force into the gap between your stomach and your lungs (which I know isn't very big)

Who said I wasn't taking any painkillers? doesn't mean they are working.. But thanks for that.
I came off the ADs before I got pregnant, I felt I was "back to normal" if you like. I wasn't on them for very long, it was only mild dose.
I don't really want to start them again now. Would rather wait until the baby is here and my hormones have settled down, just to be sure it isn't them making me feel crap!

Sorry for my curt and unsympathetic response, OP. I'm in pain and I'm deflecting all over Mumsnet I was really shocked when my gp prescribed dihydrocodeine but he told me he has been treating pregnant women in pain for forty years (he's also the paed consultant in our surgery) and the up-to-date studies in this drug for pregnancy remain firm in their conclusions that it is safe to take.

Last week he prescribed seven days worth of diazepam to be taken at night (2 x 2mg) just before bed to break the cycle of pain by stopping the spasming in my buttocks. Due to them being such a sedative my dh had to see to my 18 month old if she woke in the night. It was a very temporary treatment though, and the gp made it clear he would not have prescribed diazepam had I been anywhere near my due date.

Do try a Tens machine - they work. I wear mine when standing cooking which is when my pain becomes unbearable.

Being in constant pain is exhausting and depressing. I hope you get some real - if only occasional - relief. I do apologise again for my previous stinky reply

I give you all the sympathy in the world. I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant and SPD has raised it's ugly head again. Every step feels like a knife in my crotch and I struggle to sleep with the pain. A pillow between my knees helps a lot but God help me if I need to roll over.

So I feel for you. Between the sickness, fatigue, and the pain being pregnant can be a shit experience. I try to focus on the cool little kicks I'm feeling now. Plus I'm distracting myself by diligently searching for the perfect name.

theswallowing I also apologise for my curt response. You were trying to help. Let's call it a grumpy day for us both
I think I'll go to the doc and ask for dihydrocodiene. The problem is I am practically immune to some types of painkiller and other ones I have really bad reactions too. It sucks.

smash also trying to focus on the kicks. I'm not doing this again so I'm trying to remember every minute. I remember so little of being pregnant with DD. The kicks are lovely but not to my hips.. Those ones hurt!!

Whinge whinge whinge. Only 13 weeks to go.

Oh OP I feel your pain

I have SPD too currently waiting on an appointment at physio. Also have a very active toddler and I'm a student nurse. I also chose this and feel like I can't moan because I knew it would.be hard studying/placement dcs etc but sometimes I just want to spend the day in bed feeling sorry for myself

I also have the worst heartburn that is waking me at night and my stomach muscles feel like the are about to snap. I'm only 23 weeks

Could you get your dp to take the toddler for the day and just have a day in bed ? My DH works weekends but is changing to a mon-fri soon and his first Saturday off I am spending the whole day in bed

Are we allowed DHC? I'm off my ADs too and to be fair they wouldn't touch the sides anyway ?? feel you pain lovely xx

That's very gracious of you Hairy. So you had SPD last time too? I gave birth for the first time last year when I was 42 and it was the easiest and most pain-free, textbook pregnancy. What the heck happened this time around?!

Good luck, love!

Thorshammer, I'm on Omeprazole (prescription only) for heartburn and it is brilliant.

Yes. I thought it was bad last time I had a very textbook labour last time but the aftermath of delivery was absolutely hideous, hence the section booked since well, I found out I was pregnant
Must go to bed. Restless legs starting up again

Thorshammer, I had my physio appointment and it was really good. I'm doin my best with the exercises but I think I'm going to have to go back.

DH has been utterly fantastic and so very supportive and is not stupid enough to not give me sympathy and o just feel like a massive burden at the mo. Poor DD has been such an angel. Bless her.

I know I really need something stronger than the peptac I have but it's fitting in a gp appointment with all the other shit I have to do

What exercises did they give you ? I had it mildly with ds but it didn't kick in until about 26-27 weeks . The band helped until the last few weeks but I never bothered going back wish I had now might have helped with this one.

We should all pick a day and all lie in bed all day MNing about our amazing day of rest

Now ie got a sodding UTI.