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I think I'm having a miscarriage

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Love2014 · 04/10/2015 01:29

Found out I was pregnant yesterday, haven't told my partner yet.. Was waiting for the right time. I had previously been pregnant but had a miscarriage 18 months ago and how I'm feeling cramping and constant ache feels the same. Feel so sad... I just praying I'm not having a miscarriage... Haven't even had chance to tell anyone and he/she are already leaving me.. Feel really upset.. But trying to hold on to the hope that everything will be okay. Has anyone else experienced pain but gone on to have a healthy baby ?

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pippistrelle · 04/10/2015 01:35

Yes. She's 11 now.

I hope things work out for you. But tell your partner. Let him help you with your worry.

mummyneedinganswers · 04/10/2015 01:38

Sorry your going through this
Are you bleeding ?
How far gone would u be ?
Some pain is normal it could be implantation pain or pain from your body adjusting
Try testing again tomorrow

Hoping it's not a miscarriage as had 4 myself and they're devestating

mummyneedinganswers · 04/10/2015 01:39

And yes I had a lot of pain at the start of my pregnancy currently 31 weeks I had a ruptured ovarian cyst and awful stretching pains x

mikado1 · 04/10/2015 01:40

It's very normal to have some cramping-I did and I had an mc-it could be implantation pains. Unfortunately I think once you've had a mc the innocence and thrill is taken from you and hopefully that's all this is. . You know you have done nothing to cause it if it's happening so put your feet up and if you can at all, sleep. Hopefully things will be ok in the morning. Hugs, know the feeling and it's horrible.

mikado1 · 04/10/2015 01:45

I meant I did have cramping and all was fine and I had a mc on another occasion-bleeding, , no cramping. Everything crossed for you.

Oysterbabe · 04/10/2015 08:46

Unless you're bleeding I wouldn't worry. Cramping is normal at this stage of the game.

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Love2014 · 04/10/2015 08:47

Thanks ladies for the support..
think it will be a bit of a 'oh shit' moment for my partner if I'm honest. Think that's why I'm putting it off, as he likes us being just 'us' and having freedom to do whatever.. We did plan it, started trying 3 weeks ago and it looks like I got pregnant straight away. Since we started trying though we have had a few arguments, think it's because he's worrying about the whole thing. He says he does want a baby with me, but I don't think we expected to get pregnant this quick as I'm a couple of weeks off 36. Really don't want to go through another miscarriage, it took me a while to get over the last as I lost it at 11weeks. The digi test said I'm 2-3weeks this time which is about right given when we started trying. Still don't feel well got a bad headache and feel a bit fuzzy but the cramps have stopped and Haven't had any blood. Last time I started bleeding not long after the cramps started, so that's hopefully a good sign.. Will do another test today and find out.. I went in tescos last night to buy a test, but couldn't see them, think they were behind the counter.. Couldn't face asking for one, as felt so sure I was losing it... Thank you ladies so much xxx

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YouBastardSockBalls · 04/10/2015 08:50

I had lower right side cramps with both of mine, like period pains. They're 1 and 2 now.

Hope everything goes well for you Flowers

rainbowstardrops · 04/10/2015 08:50

Oh bless you Sad
Hope you can re-test today and everything settles Flowers

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 04/10/2015 08:54

Cramping on its own is not necessarily bad news - there is a lot of stretching going on in early pg. I had it with all of my pregnancies.

Hope everything is OK Flowers

MrsPCR · 04/10/2015 09:02

I had pretty much permenant cramping and dull aches, sometimes really painful for the first 2 weeks so from weeks 4-6 of pregnancy. At times they were worse than period pains but as long as there is no blood it's normal. I'm now 15 weeks.

Good luck getting through the next 7 weeks until your scan. Remember this baby is completely different and the other one was just unfortunately not strong enough for this world. This is not the same baby.

humlebee7 · 04/10/2015 09:05

I hope you are ok and fingers crossed it doesn't come to a mc. Remember that even if you do miscarry it'll still show as a positive pregnancy test for weeks after as it takes a while for your hormones to go back to normal.

Junosmum · 04/10/2015 09:13

Yes, I had horrible pulling/ stretching sensations for a couple of weeks. 25 weeks now. Don't bother keep testing, it'll show as positive for days, possibly weeks after a miscarriage. As long it's not really painful and there isn't any blood I'd say your pregnancy is good.

Ahhhcantthinkofagoodname · 04/10/2015 10:18

Sorry you're going through this, it's v stressful I know. It is a good sign you are not bleeding. I had loads of twingy cramps feelings in the early weeks and also some back pain. I am now 18 weeks. I would not worry about doing extra tests, they will not give you the answer one way or another and will stress you out more (speaking from experience). Only time will tell and the longer you go on with no bleeding the better the outlook. Good luck

Ahhhcantthinkofagoodname · 04/10/2015 10:23

Ps even if there is some bleeding it's not necessarily over, I had some spotting in this pregnancy which combined with the cramps made me sure I was miscarrying. I got referral to the EPU on the third attempt of begging the GP and saw the heart beating at 7 weeks. It is a horrible stressful time especially if you have previously had a miscarriage (as I have) but really only time gives you the answer. 7 weeks is apparently a good time to get a scan as your chances of a successful pregnancy are pretty high if you see a heartbeat then. Hope you have a nice GP if you need to try to get a referral....

Dogsmom · 04/10/2015 17:34

How are you today?
I found the early weeks with both my daughters quite uncomfortable with all the cramps and pains, with dd2 I knew I was pregnant before i took the test because of the familiar ache.

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Love2014 · 05/10/2015 01:59

Hi everyone, still suffering cramp like pains.. They seem to be worse at night, hard to sleep. Havent been for another pregnancy test yet.. Going to nip out on my lunch and grab one. Everytime I go to the loo I'm panicking in case I start to see blood but haven't had any yet. I feel worried but I'm okay.. I think I might tell my boyfriend tomorrow night....don't know whether I would try again for a baby if I do miscarry. Last time it was at 11 weeks, had cramps and blood for nearly 5 days.. Awful experience.. Iam lucky that I'm getting pregnant, I know a lot of women struggle with that. But also makes me blame myself or my body a little if I keep miss carrying.. Think positive.. Think positive.. Keep telling myself that.. Maybe if I tell my partner I might start to feel better about everything, gives me someone else to worry about xxx thanks guys for all the words of advice.. You really are great!

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Baconyum · 05/10/2015 02:12

I've lost 3. Pregnancy 1 cramps and bleeding. Pregnancy 2 twins one tiny spot of blood no cramps no other symptoms. Pregnancy 3 dd now 14 and snoring away, cramps, monthly bleeds till month 4, plus numerous other faff! But that Inc a 27 hour birth! So you can't know yet. As pp have said cramping can happen in healthy pregnancies too. Good luck Flowers

Justgetknitting · 05/10/2015 02:21

Tell him - you decided to start trying and he can support you. I think mostly they feel so helpless in these situations I just told mine when it happens you can help "fix" things just by listening to me talk (they love to fix IMO - and giving instructions on how to help fix / make it easier for us made mine feel better) And please don't blame yourself as its not your fault, it's just not x

I'm sending virtual hugs to you and hoping your ok x

MrsPCR · 05/10/2015 18:35

Tell your boyfriend. I was very anxious about miscarrying and DH was brilliant at helping to stop me worrying.

Today you ARE pregnant. Try to relax. Celebrate with your boyfriend that today you are pregnant and nothing you can do or control will change that. It has already been decided if this baby will be strong enough for this world or not

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Love2014 · 06/10/2015 20:20

Thanks guys for all your words of wisdom! Told my boyfriend and he has been good about it all.. Think it was a shock to hear I was pregnant, but he accepted it and said he was happy. I'm still pregnant, haven't miscarried.. Thankfully, started to feel better yesterday and feel even better today no pains. So hopefully that's all a good sign! Smile told one of my friends as well who I can trust.. So got a bit more support now! But I have contacted mumsnet a few times over the years when different things have happened and always found it a great source of support at the worst of times, when you find it hard to talk to those closest to you. Thanks for being there everyone, it really helped. Cross fingers and toes it all works out and we have a healthy baby.. Not bothered boy or girl.. Just as long as there healthy and here with us! Would be literally a dream come true xxxxx

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YouBastardSockBalls · 07/10/2015 06:55

Best of luck OP Flowers

Justgetknitting · 16/10/2015 23:19

That's lovely news X I'm so happy for you and pleased, wishing you well with everything!!

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