Does pregnancy anxiety ever really go?

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I'm 29+1 and at that point where I can feel a lot of movement, I'm showing and I do enjoy being pregnant.
I've noticed over the past few days my pregnancy anxiety has came back, after feeling reassured for a while that everything is going well.
I had a 4D scan a couple of days ago and loved it. It showed everything was fine (touch wood)and I was very pleased.

I'm a constant worrier, and I'm still terrified of things going wrong. I keep telling myself that if I were to go into labour early my baby would have a good chance of surviving at this stage, but then I feel worried that one day I won't feel my baby moved and fear the worst.

There has been a still birth in the family which is possibly where this anxiety stems from. I'm just so excited for my baby to be here it feels too good to be true, iyswim.

When I went for my 4D scan (Tuesday) with a private company, a lady went to have a sexing scan just before me, accompanied by her partner and her sister (I assume). They were so excited before going into the room, and it was just myself, my mum and exPs mum in the waiting room. Devsitatingly, the woman before me discovered her baby had died and I've never heard a more heartbreaking cry in my life. I've never been there when someone has experienced something so sad, and although I do not know this woman my heart still aches for her and I've thought about her every day since. I think this possibly set off a bit more anxiety on my part, as I realised pregnancy and babies are actually little miracles and if you do have a healthy child at the end of it you are really lucky.

Does anyone have any tips for just letting go and relaxing through pregnancy?
I've found myself spending days sitting in alone concentrating on baby movements because when I go out and walk a lot I don't tend to feel them, then I can't concentrate on anything.

Sorry if it seems silly, but if anyone feels the same and has any tips I'd love to hear

Hi OP. Congrats on the healthy pregnancy. I can totally empathise. I had a missed miscarriage with my 1st pregnancy and so have blamed most of my anxiety in my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies on that, but actually I think I'd have probably been the same regardless. We all hear the sad stories of others be it in real life or the Internet and can't help but worry for our own pregnancies.

I don't personally think you can make it go away, you can just try and reduce it to a manageable level. In some cases it's useful - eg it's good to think about whether your baby had kicked today, as you need to get checked over if he or she hasn't. But equally, it's not helpful if thinking about movements becomes an obsession and intrudes on your day to day life.

In my last pregnancy I did go in to be checked out for reduced movements once (all was fine, DS is nearly 3 now). It's good to arm yourself with the knowledge of what to think about but try and not let it take over. For instance, maybe have a couple of times a day to think about movements but not constantly every minute? Setting aside time to think about it gives you permission to think over your baby's patterns for the last half a day without checking every 10 mins, which isn't even helpful as there will be loads of small periods of the day a baby doesn't move, but very few half days with little activity.

Easier said than done but worth a try!

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I'm on my first baby but my 4th pregnancy as lost 3 babies before this one and I'm terrified. My anxiety levels are really high and every twinge scares me to death.

I've already been to triage because of not feeling baby when everyone else had. I've got an anterior placenta so apparently this is normal.

I'm actually having a c section due to my anxiety as I'm so frightened of something going wrong because in my head, it has before so why should now be any different?

I completely empathise with you so I'm just taking it a day at a time