Would you say a natural instinct is often right?

[Miffymoos]

Hiya,

I'm 6+1 and ever since I've found out I was pregnant, I don't FEEL pregnant one bit, when I talk about my my pregnancy with my partner or Mum, it's as if I'm telling a huge fib.

I'm almost certain that it's just a blighted ovum or a missed miscarriage. I have a dating scan coming up (which I've yet to be sent the details of), and I know in my heart to expect the worst.

How accurate is my hunch? The only bloody symptom I have is sore breasts constantly, but I've got these ongoing period pains (sharp), that come and go, so I'm really wondering if that's yet another reason for alarm. Although they aren't constant.

Thank you, sorry I sound a little bit silly

Miffy you're feelings (IME anyway) are totally normal.

I'm in my second pregnancy now - first time around I cried in the waiting room in anticipation of my dating scan because I knew it was going to be MMC. That baby is now 18mo .

It's a scary time - particularly if you're a person who's normally very capable and in control, because you have to simply put your faith in your body that it knows what to do and will do it well. For me it was the frustration that there was nothing I could do - except standard not drinking, taking my folic etc. - to ensure a happy ending, it's hard.

In the end I made a decision to enjoy being pregnant as much as possible and if I did miscarry, then whatever time I had with my baby, it had been enjoyable, rather than living in anticipation if the worst IYKWIM? Although I appreciate it's easy to say and that wouldn't suit everyone.

Good luck with your pregnancy

I felt exactly like this, and I'm now 31 weeks pregnant! I didn't have morning sickness, just intermittent sore boobs and the stabby uterus pains, which are completely normal.

You don't sound silly at all, I think it is very common for women to feel like this, I didn't really feel very pregnant for ages. It didn't matter, I definitely was!

Of course, there is always a chance of the things you are worrying about, but there is nothing about what you describe that would make me think it more likely.

Good luck, and congratulations!

Thank you LastOneDancing, you're so very right there. I fell for this pregnancy straight after a miscarriage at 10+ weeks so it's a huge worry.

I didn't know I was 10 weeks pregnant because I took numerous pregnancy tests during that time and all came out negative (yes, they're all idiot proof lol). I hadn't had periods for a year either, due to an unknown reason (I'm young). The only reason I knew was because of the intense pain and bleeding I took myself into A&E for.

j0j080, congratulations on your pregnancy! And thank you of course.

Miffy my friend when she was pregnant had none of the usual symptoms at all, and only really had an adversion to fizzy drinks. When she had her 12 week scan she said to the sonographer that she didn't think there was a baby, the sonographer was like well let's just see. And my friend was pregnant with triplets :)

cookielover, that must've come as a shock!

It's just so difficult when all the pregnancy articles for this trimester bang on about morning sickness etc, it makes you feel like the odd one out.

Ah cookie what a great story!

Miffy there's nothing more understandable than your feelings after the trauma of losing a baby at 10 weeks. I can't imagine. There is a thread for pregnancy after miscarriage - have you had a look? It might be reassuring?

LastOneDancing, I haven't come across it, no. Will have to have a look! Thank you for letting me know

And I haven't been sick with either of my pregnancies btw. Not once.
I didn't even have sore boobs or the terrible tiredness this time.

Honestly you're not alone in your lack of symptoms.

I think what makes it worse is the fact that all these pregnancy pages etc bang on about morning sickness etc

No, I don't think instinct is worth much because look at all the anxiety-driven posts on MN which turn out after investigation to have 'nothing' to substantiate health concerns. Sorry for your difficulties.

They do! But every woman is different - some people pop out a whole baby at term and claim they 'didn't know'.

Absoultely true story - a very sensible guy I work with only found out his wife was pregnant at 24 weeks when a full-on leg poked out of her belly - she thought it was terrible indigestion.

Sore boobs, twingy uterus and no periods are all symptoms though. All good signs!

At the start I only really felt the sore boobs. Then the sickness started.

But I'd say the sore boobs are quite definitely a symptom. :)

Hoping all goes well with your pregnancy.

I'm not surprised you don't feel pregnant it's such early days. Be glad it's not affecting you yet

So no instinct is not right. It's natural to worry about your baby but that worry can come out as feeling that they won't survive. I still worry about ds2(1) and ds1(5) occasionally. It's just worst fears. Try not to think about it.

This is exactly what I had and he's now 4 months old and say in front of me laughing with his daddy. Be pleased that you aren't puking your face off! congrats.

I don't think you can trust your instincts at all following a loss

I had a first trimester loss about two years ago, now 33 weeks pregnant after IVF. I was a MESS during the first 12 weeks - woke up several times a night to POAS just to compare the lines (), and days were full of dread. Also - why does nobody tell you that symptoms fluctuate and come and go? It would have saved me a lot of panic...

I had scans at 5, 6, 8, 10, 12, 16 and 20 weeks because I couldn't get my head round everything being ok.

It made me a bit cross too that I couldn't trust my instincts or my body or my feelings.

It got better though after I started feeling kicks and wriggling. It's hard to let go of the previous trauma of loss.

I felt the same as you, had the same symptoms. Now I'm 23 weeks and have regular reassuring kicks to keep me sane.

Thank you for all the lovely feedback and responses with experience, I'm really so much more at ease and I'm glad I posted this thread!

Take care