Concerned

[MummyToBe2016]

Hello everyone
I'm new to this forum!!!! I would like to say hi and everyone seems to be really supportive on here :))) which is good too see
I recently had a miscarriage which was devastating and took me a while to come to terms with..... It wasn't a burning desire of mine to have a baby but when I fell pregnant I just fell in love straight away!!!and was the best feeling to me
However, I found out that I'm pregnant again :) but just seem to have this emotional block and lack of connection.... I'm only just over six weeks and don't want to be to hard on myself but I feel until I see that heart beat I just can't picture it all to be real
The only real thing is the emotional
Roller coaster, extreme tieredess , fatigue, sickness and many more symptoms!
My boyfriend in my first pregnancy would kiss my tummy all the time and would be so loving and helpful and now he seems disconnected too
Is this is normal. I just want things to get better

Yes very normal. I've had 4 miscarriages and I'm now 31 weeks in my 5the pregnancy. At the start of this pregnancy I nearly lost this baby too due to a ruptured cyst. I didn't emotionally attach until around 15 weeks and my partner didn't emotionally involve himself until the 12 scan had been done. It is normal to be withdrawn after a miscarriage.

Good luck with your pregnancy

I'd say it's completely normal too. After a MMC in Sep last year, I didn't get attached to the next pg at all, sadly that ended in mc aswell but a bit earlier. I'm now 18+6 wks pg and only started feeling confident and excited about it at about 16wks. Up until then it was like an emotional block, like you say, and no matter how hard you try to be positive and excited, it's not possible. Can understand your bf being that way too, I'm sure he was very upset to lose the baby too and it must be his way of coping with this pg. Sounds like it's all going well so far though so there is every reason it will work out. Good luck xx

Same feelings here, and I think that it's perfectly normal. I only really started to believe it was real at about 20 weeks, and even now at 28 weeks I sometimes have a bit of a wobble. My hubby was the same - I think just trying to protect me. Wishing you all the best - congratulations!

Absolutely normal ... I am 5+3 after a mmc in April and am sat here expecting to start bleeding any minute, and feeling absolutely detached about it ... To the point that I told the GP that a HCG test or early scan are pointless since they can't stop it, if another mc were to happen. Dont think I will emotionally attach for quite some time, if this one sticks.

MCs are horrible. They take away the joy and innocence of a first pregnancy and you just cannot enjoy it anymore. Good luck MummyToBe ... Hope this is a super sticky one.

So normal! I'm 12 wks after 3 mcs. I've already had two early scans - all good and I sobbed at both because I just couldn't believe all was okay. I have my 12 wk in a few days. Again, I wont believe it until I see it again at that scan, cue sobbing! (I hope). A mc takes the wind right out of you. But I tell you what, when and if our pregnancies keep going, we will appreciate them so much, more than you thought possible. Good luck MummyToBe