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Pregnancy after a mmc. Positive stories! !

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ljjeffro · 30/09/2015 17:55

I had a mmc back in February which i found out about at my 12wk scan. It turned out that I had mc'd at 7wks. I am now 5wks+5 and i have convinced myself that this pregnancy will end up the same way. I have no particular reason for thinking this, although i have had no really noticeable symptoms as of yet, which i know isn't necessarily a bad thing. Ive got it in my head that I'm never going to get passed 12wks into a pregnancy, which I know is dramatic.
Has anyone else had the same experience as me and gone on to have perfectly normal pregnancies? I need some reassurance!

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Reebok · 30/09/2015 18:39

I'm sorry for your loss but congrats on the new pregnancy. I had a mmc back in 2012. I mc at 6/7 weeks but found out at 9 weeks. Anyway we waited 3 months before ttc again as I had the erpc and I got pregnant on the first try. My daughter is now 2 years old. I mc once again this summer naturally and am pregnant again...coming up to 10 weeks and so far so good aside from hyperemesis (which I had with dd as well). It's easy to say don't worry but it's something that never really goes once you have mc. All I can say is take each day as it comes and remember, today you are pregnant.

pickleandflux · 30/09/2015 18:53

Sorry for your loss, but congratulations on being pregnant. I had a mmc in Jan, and then a chemical pg in march but am now 28 weeks pg. I won't pretend that it has been easy.....only just sinking in that it is real! All the best to you xxx

MyNameIsSuz · 30/09/2015 18:56

Congratulations both! I had a mmc in March picked up at the scan at 13 weeks, ending in surgery a full two weeks later. I'm now 17 weeks and after a bit of a bumpy start (bleeding for 3 days before my bfp, implantation I guess, and another little bleed around 7+4), everything since has been plain sailing and I'm finally starting to relax. Growing out of my clothes and actually excited about my next scan! It's so hard expecting something to go wrong, and I still look at the toilet paper every time, but as time goes on it does get easier to relax about it.

Metalhead · 30/09/2015 19:12

I had a mmc last year and am currently 30+2 with DD2. I won't lie, the first trimester was petrifying and I had two early reassurance scans (one private and one NHS) at 7 and 10 weeks because I needed to know that everything was still ok.

Just take it one day at a time, that's all you can do. And although those first 12 weeks will probably feel like 12 months, you will get through it, and the odds of everything being just fine this time round are hugely in your favour! Good luck.

Wolfiefan · 30/09/2015 19:19

I have a positive story! My first pg ended in a mmc. I thought I'd never be able to have a baby.
I now have two healthy kids!
How you feel is not dramatic. It is understandable. I believe having one mc does not mean you will have problems in the future.
Think positive and good luck. x

Marmitelover55 · 30/09/2015 19:19

I had 2 mms followed by two normal pregnancies and have 2 lovely DC, both teenagers now.

I was so worried through my pregnancy with DD1 but I was very lucky to be offered weekly reassurance scans on the nhs. These stopped at 12 weeks and then of course I worried again. I had a but of bleeding at 18 weeks but everything was normal at the 29 week scan. It was easier after that as I could feel the baby's kicks and DH could hear the heartbeat.

Good luck and hope everything turns out well.

Marmitelover55 · 30/09/2015 19:21

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cookielove · 30/09/2015 19:29

Congratulations :)

I had a mmc in Sept 2013, like you I found out at 12 weeks the baby had died at 8 weeks :(

Due to genetic reasons we were meant to not ttc till a genetic counseling session (in April 2014) however we had a little accident and DS was conceived in Jan 2014 Shock

I was a bag of nerves leading up till the 12 week scan, and then absolutely amazing seeing him bouncing around. He is now 13 and bit months old and absolutely delightful :)

BumbleBee0 · 30/09/2015 19:35

I had a MMC in Sep last year, I fell pg again in Dec but sadly mc that in Jan (although it never got going). I had a break to have some tests done and fell pg again in June, I'm now 18+5 and so far so good. The first trimester was hell though. I had fortnightly reassurance scans which were frightening to begin with but did help.
Any symptoms you have (however slight) are a good sign, I didn't have any with mc2. It is normal to feel lik it's going to go wrong but there is every reason, and it is more likely than not, that everything will be ok this time. xxx

iliketeaalot · 30/09/2015 19:40

I had a mmc in 2012 - same story as most, I found out at 12 week scan that the baby had died at 8 weeks. Then got pregnant with ds 6 months later - he'll be 2 next month! Then had another mc earlier this year - had an early scan at 8 wks as no longer in UK and its standard practice here, to find the baby had died the week before. Then fell pregnant pretty much straight away after and am now almost 19 weeks with dc2. Ds is convinced it's a baby sister. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

LaceyLee · 30/09/2015 19:40

I had an mmc in October 2013. I did then have another very early mmc but my dd was born in December 2014 and I had a completely normal pregnancy and a good delivery. Dd is healthy and happy and fat ?? Don't worry, you have every chance of a healthy pregnancy. One thing that I found helpful was having early scans. Mine were 7 and 9 weeks. Before 7 weeks there's a chance of not seeing a heartbeat even with a perfectly healthy pregnancy so I wanted to leave it til then as I felt I would have a little more security if I did see that strong heartbeat. Best of luck

Lucidlady · 30/09/2015 19:48

I had a MMC in July 2013 and got pregnant again that December. DS is now 1 year old and currently rolling around on the floor giggling like mad Smile

Hugs. It's a very stressful, difficult time but theres no reason why it shouldn't work out just fine Flowers

TinyMonkey · 30/09/2015 20:10

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I had an mmc in July 2013, the baby would've been due in Feb 2014 a few weeks before my 40th birthday. I was very upset afterwards as, due to my age, I thought my chances of conceiving again were slim.

However, I conceived on my 40th birthday, and the beautiful 10 month old result is fast asleep upstairs!

The entire pregnancy was incident free, I had absolutely no symptoms in the first trimester which was a bit disconcerting. I did have a reassurance scan at 7.5 weeks, but tbh it only reassured me for about a day, so I tried to be a bit more zen about it after that. I knew that really there was very little I could do to ensure a successful outcome. Not easy though, and I wish you all the best.

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ljjeffro · 30/09/2015 21:00

Thank you ladies for all your lovely stories, I feel a lot better! I have a private scan booked for next Saturday when I'll be 7+1,. Like you LaceyLee I wanted to make sure that I'd be far enough to see a heartbeat. Fingers crossed everything will be fine.

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Baffers100 · 30/09/2015 21:21

Sorry to hear of your experience. I had a MMC in April. I was on holiday in Thailand at the time and ended up having a D&C before they would give me the all clear to fly home. That was my first pregnancy, I was 12 weeks but baby stopped growing at 8.5

Following the D&C my period arrives exactly 28 days later and I fell pregnant the following month. I'm now 21 weeks and all tests have come back pointing to a healthy baby.

For the first trimester I took each day as it came and didn't really feel invested in the pregnancy. It's awful that the MMC robs you of that experience, but I've felt amazing in my second trimester. It is amazing feeling your baby move inside you. I know it's hard not to do, but each pregnancy is different. Just because you miscarried last time does not mean that you wil again. Try not to worry and dwell on the boast experience because feeling stressed about it isn't going to help you. Fingers crossed for you x

Gwlondon · 30/09/2015 21:27

Yes my next pregnancy after my mmc was fine. I think was stressed for a large chunk of it worrying what might happen.
At my 12 week scan I was practically crying because it had been such a worry. I had extra scans but to me they didn't mean anything. I didn't get much reassurance from them. Things after a mmc suck.
There is a really lovely thread that I got loads of support from. I will link.

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ljjeffro · 30/09/2015 21:42

Thanks everyone. I will take a look at the link Gwlondon

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ljjeffro · 30/09/2015 21:44

Congratulations and good luck to all those currently pregnant. I can't wait to get past these first 12 weeks!

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Singsongsungagain · 30/09/2015 21:46

I had the same experience as you OP. I utterly dreaded the first scan second time round. That second scan is now an amazingly brilliant 9 year old. I've since had a second baby two. Good luck and congratulationsFlowers

Kickedinthetits · 30/09/2015 21:55

Pregnancy after mc is so scary. I had a mmc in December discovered at 11 weeks. Found out I was pregnant again in March. Spent the first few weeks waiting to see blood or comparing to the pregnancy which didn't work out. Everything was fine and I'm now 34 weeks with twins!
What you're feeling is totally normal and really hard to rationalise away. You will know that one mc doesn't make you any more likely to have another but you are still going to feel terrified I'm afraid.
It will get better though and you will start to believe in your body again.

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cremedecacao · 30/09/2015 22:43

Congratulations! MMC in December (found out at 9 1/2 weeks). Am now 19 weeks and everything is going swimmingly. Had an early scan at 7 weeks to check viability which was really reassuring. Cried tears of relief when I heard the heartbeat! Definitely worth doing.

Nousername2015 · 01/10/2015 05:53

Congratulations on your pg OP and aorry to hear of your mmc. I had one in March (baby measured 9 weeks, started spotting at 11+5) and am now 24 weeks with my second pregnancy. This pg has been a tough experience, like others have said it's difficult not to live under a cloud of impending doom but I have made it this far and there has been no complications. Support on here has definitely helped, lots of hands to hold. Best of luck to you!

Perugia · 01/10/2015 06:04

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP! I know how nerve wracking it is. I miscarried my first and was an absolute wreck afterwards. Fell pregnant quite soon afterwards and went on to have a very healthy DS born at 42 weeks.

Take it one day at a time. Make a promise to yourself that you won't sit around waiting for death but will celebrate life. If you can afford it, book an esrly reassurance scan. Its costly but seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks, my 13 week scan, midwife appointments and a 4D scan booked at 28 weeks got me through.

Work towards every scan, every appointment.

Your lovely baby will be here before you know it Flowers

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