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So confused and worried

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Win15 · 30/09/2015 10:41

Hello mumsnet'ers

Very recently found out I'm pregnant with my second baby....my daughter is 7 months so still feel like I'm getting used to being a Mummy!

When I thought about having another I always wanted them close together because myself and my sisters are all similar ages and I loved growing up with them.

Now it's happened I'm suddenly really depressed- I'm worried about my capabilities as a mum. Like I said my daughter is only 7 months and I still nap in the day when she goes down but I know so many mums who are so active which makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. Im worried I won't be able to cope with two and that I'm going to let people down. Not only that but my partner and I don't have a lot of money and having two will be a massive financial struggle for us. Overall I've just been feeling worse and worse and have been thinking about abortion.

Not sure if any mumsnet'ers out there have been through something similar?
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Torfhinn · 30/09/2015 11:04

I'm afraid I haven't been through similar but I didn't want to read and run. I recently found out I am pregnant with no 2, but there will be a 2 year age gap. When the reality sank in that I was pregnant (very much wanted), I found myself getting quite frightened, anxious about pregnancy, birth and coping with 2 children. I think these feelings are normal and show you are a sensible and caring mother. Please don't compare yourself to other mothers - everyone does it differently and you are doing great.

I know it's hard for you at this moment, but people always say things have a way of working out for the best. I would urge you not to make any quick decisions, but allow yourself to think things through to make sure you make the right decision for you and your family (whatever that may be). Use any support you have, including mumsnet to help work through your feelings.

I do hope you feel better soon Flowers

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Win15 · 30/09/2015 17:02

Thanks Torfhinn I really appreciate the advice

I'm going to think about it for a little longer!

I've booked a doctors appointment for next week in the meantime xx

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