how to deal when someone is talking utter pregnancy bullshit

[mayaknew]

I hang about with a group of girls at uni one of whom is pregnant, as am I. But she is constantly saying things that I just think wtf but if I agree I look as daft but if I disagree I look like a bitch.

For example, when I was 20 weeks and she was 11 weeks she asked me if I had felt any movement yet. I said yeah I've been feeling the odd flutter since about 15 weeks and a few definite kicks but nothing regular yet. She said yeah me too I'm feeling little flutters as well.

I had my 20 week scan a couple days before her 12 week. She asked me if we found out the sex. I said we asked and they couldn't tell us (lie we did find out we are just keeping it to ourselves)
She said yeah me too they couldn't tell me either I mean I know sometimes they can't at the 12 week but they told me with my son at my 12 week. I know about nubs theory but I'm struggling to imagine a sonographer willing to commit at that stage.

I think it's all annoying me because she emailed me for advice about mat leave from uni told me not to tell anyone then when we went back to uni she proceeded to talk to me about it and when I tried to cover for her she was like oh no I'm pregnant too. I felt like she put me in a bit of an awkward position.

I'm not really one for talking about myself a lot anyway but it's made me not want to mention pregnancy incase she says something ridiculous and I have to just sit nodding along like a dafty

Both points aren't ridiculous: I felt flutters at 11 weeks, definitely- with my second I didn't as had an awkward placenta, but my first I 100% felt that fluttering feeling and as they got stronger, I knew that's what I had felt.

I have also heard of boys being identified at the 12 week scan- sometimes if the person is slim and the equipment is good you get lucky with a good position and you can see.

Sorry, but not everyone's experience with pregnancy is the same.

I was feeling flutter movement at 11 weeks with my second. My third I had a front low lying placenta so didn't. Iv heard of people asking at 12 weeks and being old what the nub indicates.

You sound a bit childish, IMO. It's not inconceivable that she's telling the truth - or at least believes she is, in the case of the flutters.
Why not just let her be? Sounds like she's trying to make conversation, not necessarily being ridiculous.

I know I think I'm becoming unreasonably intolerant recently. She's a lovely girl just some of the things she says makes me cringe not just pregnancy related . I know I'm being such a bitch . I really did think bullshit with the flutters though but I 'm happy to be told I'm wrong . I didn't even thing the baby moved that much at that stage

Does it really matter? She may or may not be telling the truth (and BTW it is perfectly possible for some women to feel movement very early on) but it's not worth getting het up about either way. Nod and smile.

I felt flutters that early with my second and probably did with my first only I wouldn't have recognised what they were. And who's to say she didn't ask at her 12 week scan and get told that they couldn't tell her the sex - that's much more likely than he saying that she knew the sex after her 12 week scan.

I'm not really sure how she put you in an awkward position either - she didn't want you to tell people she was pregnant, but she was happy to tell people herself? That sounds perfectly normal! And there's nothing awkward about it. Your experience of pregnancy and hers can be completely different without her being a liar - it sounds like you just don't like her, which is fine, but there's nothing in your post that seems inherently annoying on her part.

I just thought about it there and I think I know what it is . It's necessarily that I think she's talking rubbish it's more that she's talking at all. I don't really want to talk about my pregnancy at all. Uni is hard enough without everyone else having to listen to (in her words) how much harder it's going to be for us. Everyone her their own shit to deal with and I'd rather just get on with things but she brings it up constantly and it's making me a bit uncomfortable. I take back what I said earlier that was really unfair.

And who's to say she didn't ask at her 12 week scan and get told that they couldn't tell her the sex - that's much more likely than he saying that she knew the sex after her 12 week scan.

Just realised that you aren't doubting that, but are doubting that she knew with her son after the 12 week scan - either way, I can't see why it matters, and I do know people who have been given an inkling at their 12 week scan which has gone on to be correct - there are only 2 options after all!

Fair enough - I can see how you wouldn't want to get caught up in her doom and gloom about dealing with pregnancy and a uni course, but I think that you need to just detach quietly from her in that case and try to avoid pregnancy talk at all. I'm sure you will cope - plenty of people do. Perhaps you could remind her that having a positive attitude is half the battle and see if that takes the wind out of her sails a little before she gets into a full-on moan!

Dojo I don't particularly dislike her although I wouldn't say we are friends either iyswim? This is why I live mumsnet it's like counselling I thought she was annoying me cos I thought she was lying turns out I'm uncomfortable talking about my pregnancy in uni . Who knew

So really the advice I'm really looking for is what to do when someone constantly wants to talk about pregnancy when I don't want to.

We were told sex at 12 week scan (sonographer said 80% sure) confirmed at 20 weeks as a girl. Felt movement early-ish too despite anterior placebta.

I was told I was having a boy at 12 week scan

I'm going to start another thread because having admitted I was wrong and realising the real issue the OP is getting in the way of that . Thanks everyone for the comments they have all helped