Comments on third of same gender

[Lou280]

I am 30 weeks pregnant with my third boy. If you have read any of my other posts, you know that I have had the unplanned pregnancy from hell, severe antenatal depression, and still feel most of the time like keeping this baby was a mistake and really struggling mentally. To make matters worse, everyone is completely appalled that this is another boy, and frankly all the "oh no!!!" And "I'm SO sorry!!" comments are really not helping my fragile and emotional state. Why do people feel the need to make such stupid comments? I did not choose the gender of this baby. I didn't want a baby at all (though of course don't say that)! Would it have been lovely to have a girl this time? Yes! But acting like boys are the worst thing in the world and being so negative right in front of my older boys is so rude. I don't even know what to say when people make their "oh you poor thing" types of comments. Anyone have any advice? I am depressed and hormonal and about to snap!

Yes I assume people think I'm lying when I say I'm hoping for a healthy baby and not bothered about the gender. One woman I don't even know at work went on to say "but you are though aren't you. You really want a girl" arseholes.

My friend had her third dd and people actually commiserated her on fb saying she must be dissapointed and would she be trying for a boy next. She'd only just given birth to s beautiful healthy baby ffs.

Thanks for all the support - seems I'm not the only one and people's comments are equally ignorant regarding all boys vs. all girls. I don't understand the obsession with gender - we are creating human beings, not just boys or girls. My two boys have very different personalities, they are different people! This pregnancy has been horrible enough for me, and the comments are really pushing me over the edge. I have not even announced the pregnancy on Facebook because I don't want the stupid comments. I know I'll still get them when he's born. Ugh! Thanks for the commiseration.

I haven't announced on Facebook either. Sadly I know too many morons and it will piss me off too much when I get the inevitable gender comments.

Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy. X

I've just had my harmony test results back (all good) along with confirmation of a third boy, entirely as expected.

Let the daft comments commence...

Congratulations Kung fu panda!

Don't tell them the sex of the baby?

Just fix them with a and say 'I was hoping for another boy, I think having one or the other is easier'

I think it's jealousy from people who have a mixture personally .

People are SO bloody weird! Telling someone you're 'so sorry' they are having another child of the same gender? WTAF?!

I've got one of each and equally as bizarre (although not quite as downright rude, I suppose) were the comments I got when I had my second. I was told 'well done' by many, many people. Well done? For what? Some random thing that happened at conception?

Nowt strange as folk. Congrats on your pregnancy, anyway .