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WombOfOnesOwn · 22/09/2015 23:04

Hello, all. My DH and I eloped months ago after I got a new job (we're in the US, so health insurance matters a lot here for marriage stuff). But we didn't tell anyone, because his family still wanted us to have the big wedding event--he's the first of his parents' children/grandparents' grandchildren to marry.

Well, four days after our elopement, I had a BFP--a long-awaited one after several miscarriages with my ex husband. This pregnancy looks like it's sticking, as I'm now nearly 19 weeks on.

I'm a big woman, so I'm not sure how much I'll be showing at the wedding, but we're definitely not keeping our son's existence secret or hidden. Mostly, I'm worried right now that people will make rude comments or try to needle me about having done things in the "wrong order," so to speak.

Has anyone else been in this situation? I have a friend who was nearly as far gone as I'll be at her wedding, but it was kept totally hush-hush, which of course brings its own set of stressors. Am I worried over nothing, are people more open-minded than all that nowadays?? We've been engaged for well over a year, so maybe that makes a difference? I never thought I'd be in the "pregnant bride" situation--we were sure, after spending a very long time TTC, that we wouldn't have anything happen until doing IVF post-wedding!

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WishfulThinker23 · 22/09/2015 23:38

Who cares what people think if youre happy right? God knows what you need and when you need it. If you've been engaged for a year now you are obviously committed to each other and planning on being married anyways so I don't see that being an issue. Best of luck to you and congratulations on the bfp and the wedding!!!

newbian · 23/09/2015 06:23

I'm amazed anyone can keep a 25 week pregnancy secret when planning a wedding! Who needs the stress?

Don't keep it a secret. Tell the family A) you're already married and B) you're pregnant. Honestly unless you have the most uptight family ever, they will be happy for you. The wedding that you're planning is just the big party for them to enjoy, you've already done things in the "right order" and even if you hadn't, you were already committed to each other. Anyone who has negative comments - tell them they don't need to come to the wedding!

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