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Feeling like a right twat for going triage....

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MisterPip · 21/09/2015 12:31

Back history, two late preterm births, never had proper contractions.

Last night, just turned 35 weeks, I went to triage. Last week lost mucus plug, bloody discharge for a week. Period cramps on off, got quite intense. Cracked and decided to go to triage. Waited two hours, on monitor six minutes , told not actively bleeding, not contracting, sent out with a bit of a flea in my ear ( what, you thought you were in labour?). I knew I wasn't but was worried it was close, ignored it with dd when it was so similar, turned out to be infection and she now has special needs. I felt a bit like crying out of embarrassment, I wasn't out to time waste but I'll admit I'm scared of a repeat. With neither birth did I have regular contractions, worse and worse cramps until very very forceful irregular contractions at 10cm.

Just want to hear I'm not the only one who would have gone. Sleep deprivation from cramping probably adds to my worry

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poocatcherchampion · 21/09/2015 12:34

I'd probably have moved in by now.

I hope the next few weeks work out well op

WelliesAndPyjamas · 21/09/2015 12:36

All your midwife for reassurance and advice. Better safe than sorry :)

WelliesAndPyjamas · 21/09/2015 12:36

Call, not all!

Penfold007 · 21/09/2015 12:37

You were right to go and checked out, they shouldn't have been unsupportive. Hope the next few weeks go smoothly

ovenchips · 21/09/2015 12:39

Totally agree with poocatcher I'd probably be camping outside.

FWIW I think you did absolutely the right thing in your circumstances and I'm sorry you were made to feel in some way to be a timewaster. You did what anyone in your place would do.

Best of luck for you and your new baby.

vvviola · 21/09/2015 12:41

Like the previous poster I'd probably have moved in my now!

DD1 was (technically) prem (36 weeks). Other than a few issues with jaundice and blood sugars, it was a text book labour.

On DD2, I was a wreck from about 34 weeks. Jumped at every twinge. Was all set to go in to hospital with contractions at 35 weeks turned out it was cramps due to constipation

Staff (in a country known for its medicalised birth and a fair helping of "mother knows nothing") were utterly lovely.

All of which wittering is my way of saying, they should have been a lot more understanding, you did exactly what I would imaging 90% of people would do.

Have you a midwife you can call to discuss your concerns with? Maybe get some extra reassurance/visits?

EatSleepWorkRepeat · 21/09/2015 12:41

The thing is, they're just as likely to have a go at you for not going in when you should have done, so you really can't win! Did they rule out infection while you were there?

ShootTheMoon · 21/09/2015 12:41

Gosh, I would have gone in, definitely! If it is any consolation, DC2 was born at early term two weeks ago, and I wasn't believed when I said my waters had broken (until they gushed again) and despite regular contractions I wasn't examined or admitted until I was contracting strongly every two minutes, and demanded it. By that point I was 10cm.

Unless your labours follow a textbook progression, many MWs don't believe you, especially if not making a fuss. You know what your labours have been like - it is the responsible thing to get checked out just as you did. Good luck!

YouBastardSockBalls · 21/09/2015 12:41

Get checked out every time you're worried. If the midwives are snippy with you just ignore it. But in my experience they're usually more than happy to check out ten healthy women if it avoids one poorly one.

Good luck.

AmberLav · 21/09/2015 13:00

And I would much rather be told off for coming in too often, than risk damage to my baby... Just look them in the eye and tell them what happened to your daughter because you weren't sure what to do last time... Midwives and other health professionals are not infallible, so why on earth they expect us to be... Hope all goes well over the next few weeks...

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MisterPip · 21/09/2015 13:54

Thank you, I knew I'd find a confidence boost here!

They didn't so much as check bp or urine, literally six minutes ctg and a quick moan. Showed pad which was cleanish as showered before leaving so disbelieved.

Forgot say before, I also have a history of significant pph, so slightly blood adverse

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TenForward82 · 21/09/2015 14:01

Bloody discharge for a WEEK? I also would have moved in. I hate unsympathetic nursing staff - yes, love, you might have seen it all before but I haven't.

I don't want to worry you but I can't help but be concerned for you that they didn't do a "proper" check. Forgive my ignorance, was it like A&E you went to or the Midwifery Centre? I'm not sure what triage is exactly

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MisterPip · 21/09/2015 14:04

Maternity triage, where anybody goes for anything not prebooked.

Yes a week, heavy discharge with blood streaks on every wipe, preceded by a huge blob of brown jelly...

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TenForward82 · 21/09/2015 14:06

Ah, I see. Was hoping it was A&E so there was someone else you could go to. Have you talked to your midwife about it?

3littlebadgers · 21/09/2015 14:14

You did exactly the right thing, sod the grumpy arsed midwife, your baby and your peace of mind is more important. Too many babies are lost in this country everyday because the bare minimum is done in terms of antenatal care. Next time you might get a more understanding midwife. I went in last week (19 weeks) because I thought something had happened to the baby (my daughter was stillborn in March) the midwife who saw me was an absolute angel. She found the baby's heartbeat for me and held the doppler there for ages just to let me hear the heart. At nonpointbdid she make me feel like I was wasting her time although I am sure she prob had a million other things she needed to do.

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MisterPip · 21/09/2015 14:15

I don't have a midwife as such, they are a team to contact rheough the hospital. In fact I don't even have any further appointments booked!

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WoodleyPixie · 21/09/2015 14:16

Wow, they didn't ask for a urine sample at all? Did you produce one and they might have tested away from the room, all clear on stick so no comment to you (unhelpful but at least would have been tested)

How are your pains now? still having discharge? I would go back and ask for testing. A ctg is only helpful for heart beat and contractions, it doesn't tell them anything about infections.

Good luck getting a more helpful answer.

Skiptonlass · 22/09/2015 07:19

Ye gods. I'd have gone. And I'd go back again if I was worried.

The risk/benefit balance is such that you don't mess around - if you think there's an issue, you go in. It's better for them to check a hundred women who are ok than to miss one who needs urgent attention.
Poor show by the mw - please don't let this put you off going in again if you feel it's warranted.

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