Mother and MIL driving me insane - AIBU?

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My mother and MIL in law are very excited about my pregnancy, however their incessant baby chatter is driving me insane. I must have heard each of their birth stories 20 times over, as well as their (strong) opinions on everything from breastfeeding to dummies, co-sleeping to names. I see them both together as they work for my business one day a week, and I often have to leave the room to get 10 minutes peace and quiet.

Yesterday it got particularly bad, after I was doubled over with stabbing pain and panicking that something was wrong. “Oh this happened to me, it’s probably blah blah blah…” Then MIL proceeded to tell me a story about her sister’s baby being born at 21 weeks (I’m 19+3) and she almost dying. The sister and her baby were fine in the end thankfully. But why on earth would she tell me this when I’m clearly already anxious?

I know there’s not really a solution, I guess I just needed to vent as I can see it getting worse once the baby arrives. Everything I’m going through always has to relate to them and their experiences, which I find infuriating for some reason. I find myself getting short and snappy, or just trying to keep quiet and bear it through gritted teeth.

AIBU? Anyone else having issues with their mother/MIL?

My mother's the same. It's usually about ideal pregnancy weight gain (anything more than 1 stone 1lb is excessive in her opinion and will forever remain on my thighs/arse as punishment for eating chips).
She also loves to tell me how amazing she looked and felt during pregnancy whilst I've been a spotty, bloated, insomniac mess. It's not personal- she's just as inappropriate in conversations with my DSis. Can't really offer advice as I find it very irritating. I sometimes find it helps to tell DH, friends, DSis all of the insane things she says so we can have a good laugh about it.

My MIL on the other hand is an absolute darling so I'm sorry that you've got double trouble

My mother was a bit like this, very forceful on the kind of cot I'd want. MiL knew better and was an absolute love.

I'd just throw it right back at them by emphasising how old and out of date all their baby raising knowledge is. If they persist ask them when it was that they trained as a midwife/ health visitor.

Wow, survived at 21 weeks. That's amazing because there have only been about 5 babies in the world who have survived at 21 weeks so either your mum is a bit of an idiot who talks through her ass or she knows a very very special baby.

I'd tell them there is a ban on baby talk till you are 3 weeks and keep repeating that every time they kick off.

Was about to say what Cherry blossom said - she must know a world famous baby.

I was going to say that about a 21 weeker too. They're talking bollocks. Ignore them and / or tell them to wind their necks in.

Yeah, a 21 weeker? If your aunt was a 21 weeker, you'd know itshe'd be severely disabled, for one thing. Probably, given how much progress has been made in preemie care, she meant a THIRTY-one weekerthe prognosis was touch-and-go for them at the time when your aunt would be likely to have been born.