Don't know what to do

[stepup2003]

Hello. So I'm 21 and whilst my partner and I aren't actively trying for a baby, we wouldn't mind becoming parents. We use the pull out method and have done for a year now. He hasn't finished inside me, however people have warned me about pre-cum (sorry tmi). So with all that in mind (sorry!) I am now 2 days late for my period, been rather nauseous and I haven't slept properly for a week or so, which makes me extremely exhausted. I've been wearing my pads just in case for the past 3 days, and today I've noticed a small brown bit of discharge and nothing else. I had my normal menstrual symptoms until today and now I feel nothing (which isn't normal). I don't know what to do because I'm not sure if I am pregnant, but this is very unusual for me. Anyone else experienced this?

I only mark the dates of my period in my calendar and calculate my next period from that. I don't really bother with ovulation tracking etc. But yeah I'm going to get a HPT today and I'll see what's going on. Thanks for your advice everyone

Okay, bit of an update. On my way to go and get a test when I felt something watery down below. When I went to the loo to check, on the paper there was a tiny amount of blood. It was extremely watery with hints of pink blood in it. After 2 days of absolutely nothing at all, I found this a bit weird. Still going to get a test, but I just wasn't sure if this is just some crazy period.

Okay so I've been trying to post messages but for some reason it hasn't been working. So since my last message, I had a bit of bleeding a couple of days ago that lasted 10 minutes. Literally. I went to the toilet when the bleeding came and I only had a tiny bit of pink blood. 10 minutes later I went to the toilet again to check and there was nothing. On Thursday, I had nothing again. Later on in the day though, I felt something wet so thinking it was my period, I went to the loo. There was nothing in my pad and I wiped and saw extremely watery blood. Like it was basically water with a drop of blood in it. I'll point out now I've had no clots at all. This again lasted less than an hour and I went back to nothing again. I did a HPT yesterday morning when I woke up and it was a BFN. I have one left that I may try at a later date, just in case. But I still feel quite sick throughout the day and my lower stomach feels so bloated. Not sure if that's because my body doesn't think I've had a proper period or what. But it's just so weird by being late, having one day of a normal period for it to suddenly stop completely and then days later, I get small amounts of blood for 10 minutes and then get that watery blood and then nothing for days. Has anyone had anything like this before?

It's been over a week since you started this thread.

Stop symptom spotting. Do a test.

Do a test. You can have periods like the one you are experiencing and still be pregnant.

Not had anything like that, no, but it's entirely possible that stress is having an effect. You've had one negative test, maybe wait another few days and do another one first thing in the morning. If that's negative too then I think you'd just have to accept that this was your period this cycle, even though it was a bit unusual for you.

Honestly OP, I think you need to do the following:

1. Do another test, but given you have gotten one BFN that might be your answer already

1. Have a frank discussion with your partner about whether you want to actively TTC or not. You seem all over the place about the possibility of being pregnant. If you want to be, talk to him and go for it if you agree. If you don't want to be, use a more reliable method of contraception.

Good luck.

Can I just say to everyone saying 'just do a test' and 'stop coming on here and telling people' etc. I have no female outside of here to discuss this with. Obviously I tell my partner everything, but he cant offer me any advice for obvious reasons. All my family are men and my friends are male too. The female friends I have I don't feel comfortable discussing this with. I've done a test and I accept I am probably not pregnant. I just didn't know if anyone else has had something like this before. Please stop making me feel stupid for commenting because I don't know what to do or what's happening to me. If I infuriate you, please don't comment.

For all those people who actually said positive and helpful things, thank you very much for your advice. I'll see how it goes and I'll do another test next week or so. I am more thinking it was just an extremely weird period, but I'll let you know.

stepup - we have all had situations like this before. When I went off BC I had crazy cycles for six months. I spent more money than I want to admit on pregnancy tests and would get BFNs even when my period wouldn't show up for another 2-3 weeks afterwards. It was annoying and stressful.

But that doesn't change the fact that no one else could have told me if I was pregnant or not!

So if you're asking for commiseration, the TTC board is amazing for that and lots of women can be your sounding board. But you were basically asking if you are pregnant or not and we can't answer that for you.

Sounds to me like a very early MC
Go doc .
Get checked out they'll want to make sure your not losing too much ...get an infection ect ect

Good luck

There really isn't anything to say other than 'keep testing' though.

This is because sometimes the levels of PG hormones rise slowly. But a BFN, a week or more after the time your period was due, is likely to be accurate. And other than testing, there is simply no way to know.

Yes, there can be changes in menses, possibly caused by stress or illness, or just your body throwing you a weird one (which occasionally and inexplicably happens).

If you want to be PG, then you need to talk to your partner again about TTC. Withdrawal is a better method than it's sometimes given credit for, but a bit of wrong timing means you may as well have used nothing. And the act of withdrawal can make a difference to the enjoyment of PIV sex. Either you want a baby, and you're both genuinely up for it, and you go for it. Or you sort a more reliable, less performance-based, contraception.

This sort of halfway house is likely to be a stressor in itself.

If you want a baby, stop using the withdrawal method and have a lot more fun for both of you during sex :-)
Do another test in a few days and see how it goes from there. Buy a bulk load of Internet cheapies for the future, like 50 for a fiver, then you can test to your hearts content each month if you want as that's the only thing that will tell you if you are pregnant or not

Just to clear this up once more, I am not asking if I am pregnant or not. I never asked if I was pregnant. I simply asked if anyone else has experienced this before because I've never had anything like it. Obviously the first thought was pregnancy, however I wasn't sure if I was being hasty as I did start to bleed normally so that's when I doubted whether to do a test or not. I have done a test and it came back negative. I said I will do another one at a later date, as some people pointed out it could still be too early to tell. I'm more worried about it being something else. As stated in my original post, I don't know what's going on and I don't like going to my GP straight away because they treat me quite badly whenever I go there for anything. I wanted to know if it was worth going to my GP or not. I have no one else to ask or turn to about these problems so I don't know what's normal or not really. I've tried googling, but nothing comes up.

Again, to those who have helped, it is very much appreciated. I didn't come here to be lectured/ to argue/ etc. I came here to see if anyone else has experienced similar and what I should do.

My partner and I are also fine with the way we do things. I've discussed it with him lengthily before as I wasn't sure if he understood what would happen if bad timing did occur. He said he understood and if it were to happen, then he'll be over the moon with it. As I said before, we are emotionally, financially etc. ready for a baby. We don't want to pressurise anything as lots of people I've read/ spoken to and so on have said they struggled to conceive when they actively try and plan. The way we do things works for us.

No need to visit your GP - just buy some cheap tests, and use when you think it is end of your cycle. That way you will not feel how you felt last time perhaps. Worth having tests in as you are not using contraception as such - or at least it has caused you to think you may be pregnant twice. Cheap tests are useful.

Sorry ahould add if you are concerned about your cycle changing worth monitoring it maybe for a few months and then seeing if there are significant changes? I am not a medical person but over the last 25 years my cycles have not always been the same and I guess I worry less about them now if different one month, but several months of bleeding mid cycle or very heavy sudden bleeding when I do not have that as normal I would get a fresh smear test and see a GP. if you do not want to go via Gp then clinics such as sexual health/women's health type may be worth going to?

There was one time years ago when my periods weren't quite right and I requested a smear just in case, and I was refused because I was 'too young' despite not having the cervical cancer vaccine. Apparently I have to wait until I am 25 because 'young people don't get cervical cancer'. How useless my GP is really, making ridiculous statements like that. But yeah, I went to someone else and it was because I was coming off the pill and it was my body reacting to it. I was told it takes around 6 months/a year to fully get rid of the pill from your body (this was about 2/3 years ago). I've been told before if things like this happen, to write everything down in a sort of diary so I can take it to the GP so they know I'm not exaggerating etc. I've kept notes of what's happened and I'll keep an eye on it in the future. Thanks for your advice

So I am 2 weeks later for my period. I usually suffer with bad cramps I've had nothing but a few tiny twinges here and there nothing unbearable. I've taken about 4 tests in these 2 weeks but all have been negative. Having found the balls to tell my mum she is surprisingly supportive but she said that when she was pregnant with my brother she took countless tests all negative until she went to the doctors.. I've been breaking down in tears over STUPID thing, but no sore breasts or morning sickness or anything like that. Can someone help me or give me some advice. Clueless

amylou, what would you like help with? I'm not sure what you're asking for.

In terms of advice, a period being 2 weeks late is not that unusual, and if you've done a recent test, first thing in the morning, that's been negative then it would be very unlikely that you're pregnant. The only way a doctor would be able to tell anything different would be to do a blood test which I think they'd be unlikely to offer straightaway.