3 losses, pregnant again and scared

[XXSOPHIEXX]

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone was in a similar situation to me or with any luck has come out the other side and has any success stories for me! I had a complete m/c 6 years ago it was natural and I wasn??t aware/ready for a baby at the time anyway, at the end of last year me and my fianc??e decided we wanted to try and I fell pretty quickly (in January) everything seems to be ok, we had a couple of early scans and saw the heartbeat, then when I was 12 weeks I just had this feeling that something had happened and I went for an emergency scan and was told I had lost the baby probably not long after I saw the HB at around 9 weeks. Devastated we went on holiday and when we came back I went for a scan and was told I had not passed the baby (I thought I had but turns out it was a LARGE piece of lining) so I then had surgery, that same month I fell again and had a chemical m/c. That was in June. I have had 2 cycles since and due to my previous history of falling quickly I was a little surprised it wasn??t happening (I know I am very lucky I fall quickly even if I do lose them) so this month I used ovulation kits and to my surprise it worked first time. I am now pregnant and I know to the exact day so I am only just over 2 weeks (or 4 weeks as the doctors would work it out) well after 3 losses I am petrified to say the least! I could do with some advice on how to cope or stories of success to ease my mind. I have had all tests and scans back clear but have been advised to take low dose aspirin which I am doing but I can??t help but feel hopeless. I feel like a walking time bomb! Thank you for reading!

I'm sorry to hear of your losses xxsophiexx. There is a thread on here for pregnancy after miscarriage, we've all had losses on there so completely identify with the anxiety that a new pregnancy brings. There's also plenty of success stories to provide reassurance.
The thread is on this board so pop over and say hi. Best of luck to you with this pregnancy, I know it won't mean much at this moment but it's a new chance and the odds are lookong good that all will be ok

Hi Sophie

I've had 3 losses in a row and am now 19+2 so do not give up hope!!!!

Definitely join the pregnancy after mc thread or the recurrent miscarriage thread - which was and still is a lifeline to me. I struggled a bit with the pregnancy after mc one as I'd had a few in a row

Are you on any treatment such as progesterone or clexane?

Don't give up and try and stay positive! I've had 3 losses at 23 weeks and 2 at 6 weeks. I then nearly lost ny 4th at 17 weeks but now have a healthy 17 month old and 18 weeks pregnant (all is well so far!)

I take everyday as it comes, try to stay busy to keep your mind off it. Sending you lots if sticky vibes

Hi Sophie

I too have had 3 losses and am now pregnant again (almost 9 weeks) and like you I am trying to stay calm, and hardest of all, patient. I was advised to take progesterone pessaries (cyclogest) as there is a potential link of low levels of progesterone linked to recurrent mc, although they can't be sure of this. But it's worth a shot. It's day by day and all that. Easier said than done I know. I hear all the time, like Sophie, that successful pregnancy is completely possible after multiple mc, the fact is you ARE pregnant and you have to go with this and most importantly take care of your self and do share how you are feeling, like you are here.

Stay in touch x

I had three losses in a row... Had my son. Pregnant again with number 3 :)

Hi everyone thank you sooo much for your messages! I am so pleased to hear that it is possible and brookeberry i totally understand. I am trying to stay as detached as possible at the moment just until a few weeks have passed. I want to be busy but im already sooooo exhausted i just want to lay down! I hate that having losses seems to take away the ability to be excited when pregnant! I am not telling anyone this time i cant stand people feeling sorry for me it only makes it worse if something goes wrong x