Another thread about finding out gender and dp does not want to know. Has anyone found out and not let their dp know?

[Piffle]

I have a growth scan (extra one dp does not know about) at 32 wks (am 24 wks now)
He has repeatedly stressed he does not wish to know
However I really really do.
I already think it's a boy. Preg identical to when I had ds. Dp says to have courage of conviction on instincts (I guessed right with dd and ds btw) and just buy boys stuff if I truly believe it.
I know it's petty, but I am thinking about fiding out and not telling him I know, if it isas I suspect, a boy, then nothing will change
If it turned out to be a girl I have enough stuff from dd to kit a girl out in storage.

i'd find out, but am incorrigably (sp?) nosy. luckily dp is too so we just asked in both pregnancies. also, i had soooo many growth scans it would have been impossible not to see at some point.

i think you should find out but not tell. dunno how easy that would be though!

Ohh piffle I went through this at 20 weeks.

As you know in the end I found out. I thought I'd be able to keep it secret whatever sex I was having but my reaction instantly gave the game away.
DH didn't want to know but I just had to know. I can't even wait 10 minutes in a queue for shopping so there no way I would ahve waited another 20 weeks.
I'm so relieved I found out now.

I wouldn't find out.

My DH would have been upset if I'd given it away to him (and I would've done because I'm a dope).

It's nice to have a surprise, I think.

Hi Piffle. I was in the same situation as you. I wanted to know, DP didnt't

DP won (he tends to do that a lot grrrr.)

BUT, as I am due in the next few days, i can absolutely say that I'm glad we did it this way. It is so, so so exciting thinking and debating what our little baby could be and imagining our future!

But it's not for everyone, all my other babied-up friends have found out in advance and they say it is no less exciting whenever you find out.

I reckon that if you did find out.... it would be a real struggle not to let something like that slip. (once again - that could just be me - I blab everything to dp).

See how you feel come 32 weeks I say. ANd in the meantime, have courage in your instincts!! If it means dressing a little girl in blue... well, they're still a little girl and who cares what some random passer by thinks!

(I have one grandma convinced it is a boy nad the other that it is a girl - so luckily a pretty even spread of pink and blue stuff!)

This is a tricky one piffle. I don't think it's a petty point at all. However, I am in the same situation, we are pg with no.3. we have a ds and dd already so the sex of this one doesn't really matter to us. I would like to know and my dh doesn't he is very against finding out before. There is no way I could keep it a secret from him if I knew and he didn't, the whole point of finding out is to be able to prepare things, clothes etc....... You couldn't do that if you were trying to keep it from someone. Soooo is there any point in finding out, IYKWIM?

My other point and please don't batter me for saying this as it could upset a few people, it's just my opinion but is worth thinking about is I wanted to try to keep our pg'cys as joint with dh as possible, men find it hard enough to be involved with something that is not actually happening to them, therefore I have decided that as he is so strongly against finding out the sex I have to respect that and go with him. After all I know it is a wait but we will all know in good time.
Good luck in your decision, it will be right for you and dh whatever you choose, I'm sure.

I'd find out. And stuff dh, it's not his body! You are the one growing the baby, going through labour etc. etc. I do think the wishes of the pregnant woman outweigh anyone else's tbh.

I found out because I couldn't bear the idea of anyone else knowing (sonographer) and not me. Turned out dh had already spotted the signficant details on the scan anyway.

I could keep it a secret I am very underhand and a spectacularly good liar
I am already acting as if it is a boy so presuming I'm right (how could I not be ) nothing would change
If it were girl then it could be harder.
I could say I saw it during the scan as at 32 weeks it might be fairly obv...

im not sure how obvious it would be to know it it was a girl. just cos you cant see any boy bits doesnt mean they arent hiding!