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Terrified of miscarriage

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JaneS16 · 06/09/2015 20:19

I don't no if I'm being over sensitive or other people feel this way too. But I'm absolutely terrified of losing my baby. I'm currently 8+3 days pregnant. I've already had an early scan at 6 weeks where I saw my baby's heartbeat but I'm still scared. I've had the on & off cramps with morning sickness. Which I've read are all good signs. But I'm so worried that I'll go to my 12 week scan and the baby would have gone.
I'm driving myself insane and my partner too.
Any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated.

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mummyneedinganswers · 06/09/2015 20:24

Ive had 4 miscarriages and I'm 28 weeks tomorrow with my fifth pregnancy and the worry doesn't stop I'm afraid but it's all part of being a mum. Try have faith that everything is fine

VaviaVive · 06/09/2015 20:24

I felt that way at first. I guess it's get better when you can actually start to feel them kicking. Just try to relax if you've seen a heart beat and been told there's nothing wrong then I don't believe you'll have much to worry about. Take care of yourself!

WorzelsCornyBrows · 06/09/2015 20:27

Of course it's a natural worry for all parents, but you need to try to keep this under control, unless you know you're high risk) or you risk wasting what should be a joyous pregnancy, by worrying over something that might never happen.

When baby is born you will continue to worry about bad things happening to them, that's how we care for them and keep them happy and safe, but again, you risk ruining a magical stage in your life if you allow those fears to override your ability to enjoy the moment.

Anxiety in pregnancy is very common, but if you're struggling to keep a lid on it I would mention it to your midwife, they can help you. Have you thought about pregnancy yoga?

Brummiegirl15 · 06/09/2015 20:30

I've had 3 miscarriages in a row and I'm 19 weeks tomorrow on my 4th pregnancy.

I'm afraid this worry is very much part of being pregnant and sadly there is nothing you can do about miscarriage. Yes, it's quite common at 1 in 4 pregnancies - but that means you have a 3 in 4 chance of a healthy happy boring pregnancy.

Please don't stress yourself by worrying - just take each day at a time and say to yourself " today I am pregnant"

Flowers congratulations!

VaviaVive · 06/09/2015 20:31

I thought my baby would have limbs missing, brain problems, I thought she'd never come out and just die in there taking me with her (she was 2 weeks overdue). I thought I'd killed her by eating cheese and flying on a plane. The list is endless! She turned put perfect though with all limbs intact

sparechange · 06/09/2015 20:43

One day at a time. Tell yourself 'today I am pregnant'
Anxiety is normal but reassure yourself with statistics of you need to. By seeing the heartbeat at 6 weeks, you have a 98% chance of bringing home a healthy baby. Those are great odds...

Amanda1994 · 07/09/2015 16:39

I know the feeling, I went through a miscarriage 3 year ago and then fell pregnant last year and went through my whole pregnancy thinking my baby would dissapear and they would tell me I had lost another baby, I wouldn't stop thinking it untill I had my baby in my arms, I now have gorgeous healthy 10 week old baby girl. Worrying is no good enjoy being pregnant once your past 6 weeks and everything's fine the chance of miscarriage goes right down. I understand how your feeling it's only natural! Congratulations and good luck x

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JaneS16 · 07/09/2015 18:59

Thank you so much for all your comments.
If I weren't already paranoid I've woken up today and not once have a felt nauseous (which I have done for the last 4 weeks). My boobs aren't as painful and I've been able to eat food. I'm thinking what's going on ????
I'm really freaking out now ????

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3littlebadgers · 07/09/2015 19:07

You will feel anxious, worrying is part of being a parent and it won't stop once your little one is in your arms. This feeling is heightened if you have had a previous loss as you know what you have to lose. Try to find ways to help yourself relax. Music is good at changing moods, a smell that reminds you of a happy time, just getting a bit of fresh air will sometimes take the edge of. As others have said appreciate being pregnant today and focus on one day at a time, they will pass, even if at the time it feels so slow.

sleepy11 · 07/09/2015 19:07

I am nearly 6 weeks and I am abnormally worried about it too! This is my 3rd and all was fine first 2 times so am trying to stay positive.
I am trying to think more about the 3 in 4 chance that it won't happen, rather than the 1 in 4 that it will Smile
Least you have had your scan - I cannot wait another 6 weeks!!

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