Angry at everything!!

[weesmiles]

I am new to this site and was so very glad to read the posts on anger. Normally I am a very easy going person, very slow to anger, however since reaching 21 weeks i don't know what's happened to me! All a bit scarry!! I feel like I am irritated, angry and moody with everyone for the slightest thing. My dh told me last night he didn't know what was wrong with me! Feel like someones came in and stole my personality. Last week I had an incident with a neighbour and really felt like I wanted to kill her!! I mean what's going on her? Does it get better?

GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Only joking!

I TOTALLY went off sex for the whole 9 months both times, so tell your dh he's better off than some!

Errrr, I'm afraid not, no. Or at least not for me. I spent my entire pregnancy pissed off, sorry. DH had a lot to put up with, bless him. The people I mainly wanted to kill though were women who insisted on telling me what a beautiful experience pregnancy is. To repeat 40+ GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But at least DH didn't have to get a restraining order or hide the kitchen knives. All right, maybe once he did...

But I try to see it as a positive thing - I was never very good at expressing myself before and would always avoid an argument. I'm very good at it now!

However, the good news is after DS popped out I pretty much bounced back to normal, so if that helps, it's not a permanent personality transplant. The real Weesmiles is still in there, I promise and she will return.

How about what a beautiful experience BIRTH is?! Yeah, right. One of my friends actually said that she didn't feel she could have coped with having a baby without so much pain as her child was so wonderful that she needed to suffer to deserve her!!! Bloody mad woman - I would've been quite happy if mine had been left by the stork!
I think I stopped being angry when ds2 was about 5 and went to school...

I don't know if it helps any - and this may be complete cod-psychology and total bollocks, but I think with hindsight the main reason I was so angry was that I was the least maternal person I know. I'd never wanted children, and never particularly liked babies and all the rubbish surrounding the whole thing, so I was completely terrified that I would not be able to bond with this 'bump' that was going to pop out in 9 months times. Having said that DS was planned!!! But whilst pregnant I didn't experience a single maternal feeling. So that, combined with totally screwy hormones really made for a marvellous experience.

If you are feeling anything like that, you have my deepest sympathy, but the good news is that we bonded almost immediately and I love him to bits, and I wouldn't swap him for the world. So it really does get better. In the meantime, just lock up all sharp and blunt instruments and you should get through it!

God, YES!!! ds1 was planned but I remember dh driving me to hospital when I was in labour & looking down at my bump and wondering whether I was going to like this THING once it came out!

52 hours labour did nothing to make me feel warmer towards it, even when 'it' came out and a slimy, bloody purple object started to wail...

...but when they gave him to me and I looked into those slate grey pools of eyes, it was love at first sight!

Having said that, several of my friends have admitted over the years that they took weeks to bond with their babies, but they are all better mothers than me now!

I think it was when another expectant mother told me she "couldn't wait to meet the Little Person she'd been carrying around for 9 months" that I realised maybe I was a bit weird for not feeling the same way. Even the scan pictures failed to move me.

And I doubt you're a bad mother 40+, I think we all do our best in our own, individual ways. oops DS has just found the gin in the bottom cupboard, better go

Glad I'm not the only one who's moody - ds's are driving me up the wall with all the mischief they get up to. Some days I can cope with it all - like yesterday - ds1 (who is 5) was throwing an almighty strop and I calmly locked myself in the bathroom and told him if he didn't calm down and go away I wouldn't come out and help him. He banged on the door with one of my shoes till there were dents in the door, but I stuck to my guns and he went away, I came out and sorted out his problem.

Other days it all gets too much and I just break down in tears and want to crawl back to bed - like today, with ds2 (3yrs) throwing lego everywhere, blatantly ignoring me and climbing up and sitting on my laptop on the dining room table - WAAAH! Its lucky the thing is still working! I'm 29 weeks pregnant with db3 and on bad days like today, I wonder why the hell I'm having another one when I obviously can't control the two maniac nutters I already have! Don't remember being anywhere near as emotional with the other two!

How about this then...
A woman I know got so angry with her 2 daughters that she locked them in the garden and threw a bucket of water over them! Then she locked herself in the bathroom with the phone and a book.
That made me think that I was quite good at controlling my anger!

God, I LOVE angry pregnant me. I've spent my life being all 'I'm sorry, please push in front of me', and since about 12 weeks, have chased down and shouted obscenities at a very old shorts-wearing tw*t in Notting Hill, who came down the pavement on roller skates nearly bumping into me, and shouted 'GET OUT THE WAY', and scowled at everyone who makes 'hilarious' jokes in shops etc that normally I would have tittered politely at. If I'd known pre-pregnancy how good it felt to be mean, I would have tried harder before, but I just didn't have the hormones to back it up. My fear, though, is that it deserts you when the hormones stop. I just want it for as long as I need to witheringly silence the kind of men in cafés who always tut loudly when my friend with babies has the audacity to actually leave her house with them.

I'm 34 wks PG and I told my friend today that if DH asks me once more what wrong I'm going to stab him.

The same things are wrond today as they were yesterday, and the day before...and the day before that too...and so on and so on.

Why the f*ck people just can't listen to what I'm saying about my aches and pains I don't know, they haven't changed for weeks! I feel like compiing a list and just handing out to people everyday.....Grrrrr

I'm thinking a t-shirt saying 'Pregnant & Pissed Off' or maybe 'Loaded & Dangerous', with 'Want a Fight?' on the back. It would make a change from all those really nauseatingly smug ones like 'bump on board'. And don't get me started on those car signs, that's a whole different thread!

Another friend of mine has a fluorescent tabard she wears when she goes out on her horse...
it says 'CAUTION - lady rider with PMT'

Makes blokes pass wide & slow and gives women drivers a laugh!