Hi, long time reader, lurker, poster etc
A friend of a friend is pregnant and due in 3 weeks. Let's call her Bev. I am her friend by association, we all chat and meet up etc etc There are times when she's a lovely girl and other times when her incessant attention-seeking behaviour and attitude wears me down because she wants constant attention and it always gets in the way of offering our other friends support and advice.
Anyway, she had a gender reveal party after her 20 week scan (can't remember if that's right but nm) which was a huge big fuss, full party, cards(?) presents etc she then announced she was having a baby shower after 3 of our other friends had baby showers organised for them as a surprise.
Myself and 6 other people were sat down by this friend and told that we were to organise a baby shower for her, she wanted an afternoon tea type of affair with decorations, food, drink and a 'naiice' hotel or some such to have it in. Is this normal? I thought baby showers were organised in secret for the mum-to-be-again, I didn't think they told people to organise them?
I don't earn much money due to recent redundancy and there are now only 4 of us organising this shower because others have opted out, it's been massively expensive with the cost of the food, location and decorations. I literally haven't been able to buy her a gift. I'm so stressed because I want her to have a nice time but she is so heavily critical about people and talks about us behind each others backs.
Someone tell me this is actually normal and I'm being mean please?
Thanks.