Is it self pity or depression?

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4 weeks till my due date and I'm miserable. I can barely walk, and I am aware that I'm horrible to be around. I'm a horrible shouty mother to my kids.

It wasn't like this with my other pregnancies. When I spoke to the midwife about this she basically put all my problems down to the fact I already have kids who are tiring me out and Its not my first pregnancy.

I feel so down, that it's like a weight. But then maybe that's the 12kg I've put on? My belly is so heavy I can barely carry it.

Today I went to a birthing class with four other mothers to be. They all looked half as pregnant as I do, they were actually wearing make up and had done their hair at some point in the last two months. Then it turned out they were all due before me.

Am I being a self indulgent arse or could I actually have depression?

you're not being self indulgent - the last few weeks can be pretty shit. I hobbled to my antenatal classes with my pelvis held together with Velcro/string, and still smelling of the epic vomiting session I'd had that morning. I was in there with six other Swedish mums to be, all of whom looked like catalogue models and from the chat had breezed through their pregnancies. Frankly, I cried on the way home.

So give yourself a break - I'm barely managing and I don't have any other kids to look after. Anyone who does this and manages to look after other kids is superwoman, in my opinion.

(On a more serious note, if you do think you have antenatal depression then talk to your mw. )

Skipton, I wish you'd been in my class today. We could have hobbled and been smelly together. Your post made me smile, thanks, I appreciate that.

I will speak to the midwife about this again. I just can't tell if I really need a couple of days in bed resting, or if I actually have a problem.

I have an antenatal class tomorrow... I'm sure I'll be the "you" of the group.

I'm vomiting every night. I've put on a whopping 4+1/2 stone (yes really) and my back is now killing me so I have adopted a slow waddle. My bump is humongous... I have excess fluid (hoping that's where the weight is, not my arse... but you know, arse is bigger too) and my baby has a giant head so delivery is going to be difficult.

I am hating being pregnant. Told my husband last night that this is it - we're just having the one! (Though I may look adopting so this little bean has a sibling and I always said I'd like to adopt as there are so many unwanted babies in the world)

Like skipton, I have to say, anyone who does this with dc already is a superwoman!

I "only" have nine days to go until I'm induced... it can't come soon enough, but I have a feeling they'll be the longest nine days of my life!

Oh, yes, as skipton also says (she's so wise) you should see your midwife if you think you have antenatal depression.

ARV - maybe we should start a birthing class for those of us who don't find this so easy. We can just roll around being miserable.
My DS2 had a massive head- it wasn't fun, but they got him out and ?e were both ok, so don't worry too much about it. 9 days till you are induced sounds heavenly.

I woke up feeling like myself today, so it's probably not depression - just having a down period.

Thanks so much for cheering me up and reminding me that I'm not the only pregnant woman who isn't finding this a breeze.

I feel like you op. i just feel down in the dumps, have done for a few weeks. No real reason why but I can't get cheerful for any length of time. I shouted at my 3yo today because she was just being so defiant and annoying - I never normally shout at her.

So that has made me cry too.
And still 9 weeks to go

I'll join the sofa, I'm 39 weeks and have a 2 yr old as well. Sciatic pain making me hobble like a weirdo, just want to lie down on the sofa all day rather than playing trains and discussing how thomas the tank engine got stuck in the snow for the 5826592nd time, so ready to be done!

ihateigglepiggle I feel your pain. I have 6 more weeks of what feels like hell. I'm suffering with PPGP/SPD, am anaemic, can't sleep for either pissing every half hour, unable to breathe or pain in my shoulder, the bastard all day sickness has returned and I feel like a pin cushion with all the repeat blood tests as my platelets are low!! On top of that I feel extra guilty for not being able to play with my 2yo DD who knows there's a baba in mamas tummy but doesn't quite understand that this means getting on the floor to plat 'choo choo's' means that mummy won't be able to get back up.

I'm never ever ever doing this again!!

As other posters have said, discuss with your midwife if you are feeling very low and see what she suggests.

I had a breakdown in the kitchen this morning because I feel I can't go on anymore - keep bumping into everything and just feel exhausted! And I've still got 5 more weeks of bastard work to get through!

We all know it'll be worth it in the end though.......right

Pregnancy is hard work! Don't feel bad for feeling a bit sorry for yourself. Today I am 30 weeks pregnant with a teething 1 year old and explosive diarrhoea =/ Do speak to your midwife though. Last time I said I was feeling pretty tired ahe was so reassuring and made me feel like Superwoman =)