Emotional day!!!

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blondiejess1982 · 04/09/2015 20:14

It's been one of those days today. We can't get a mortgage together, he doesn't want to rent, I don't want to live with his mum. Plus I am type one diabetic and had a hypo. I am so so fat and its actual fat not pregnancy as I am only 10 weeks. I have put on loads of weight and look massive (usually a fit size ten). I am nervous about my first scan in two weeks and generally could do with a nice crisp glass of wine right now!!!!
Obviously I wouldn't change being pregnant as so so pleased about that does anyone else feel they have to say that when they have a moan? Hehe

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ThePug · 04/09/2015 20:43

blondie as a fellow T1 I know some of where you are coming from. I've put on 4kg since January when we decided to TTC, mainly due to all the extra biscuits I ended up eating as was trying to keep my BM so tight I kept going low. How low did you go today? Have you not had any scans yet? Are you seeing a diabetes antenatal consultant?

Where are you living now? With your DP's mum? I can see why you don't want to stay there long term. What are DP's reasons to stay (I'm guessing financial!)?

Junosmum · 04/09/2015 20:45

Ok. Pause. Why can't you get a mortgage? I totally understand not wanting to live with his mum.

Feeling fat is inevitable in pregnancy it's all lumps and bumps! But when you see your baby on that screen and start to feel it move it's fantastic.

Things will get better. And have that glass of wine if you want!

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blondiejess1982 · 04/09/2015 22:16

Hey well we can't get a mortgage because of a few credit issues. I can get one on my own but not enough to buy a place. I would rather rent somewhere until all that is sorted. I rent on my own at the moment, I use to live with OH but his mum lived there too and as nice as she is I couldn't handle not having my own space. Now I am pregnant he has suggested I move back in so we can save and pay things off etc ready to get a mortgage. But I was stressed living there before (hence why I moved out) so I can't imagine being there pregnant ! Pug - I have been finding it so so hard with the diabetes. I normally run quite high and then was too low, so like you all the scoffing from hypos has turned me rather podgy.. I see the diabetic midwife every two weeks. They are really good actually, are they where you are?

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fastdaytears · 04/09/2015 22:18

Yes I would not be living with his mum in your position either. Surely he can see that's not right?

Junosmum · 05/09/2015 08:57

Stand your ground, don't move in with his mum. You've done it once so you know what it's like, he must respect that. Would you live sepereately once the baby comes if you had too?

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blondiejess1982 · 05/09/2015 10:00

I have already told him I won't be able to do it. I want to enjoy my pregnancy not feel stressed out. We aim to live together asap really and stay living together. It is just how and where! He is a decent guy though so I don't think he is going to leave me living on my own because I won't move in with his mum. But saying that when I gave him the choice a few years ago about asking his Mum to move or I would move out.. Well I ended up moving out!! We have been together 6 years so it's not like it's a new thing. We are going to make some definite decisions after the first scan, which is 18th September.

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