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12 week scan - may be a weird question

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sepa · 02/09/2015 14:53

This is my first pregnancy. I have my 12 week scan tomorrow on what I have calculated as me being 12 weeks. Apart from the crazy idea that I will turn up tomorrow and they either won't find anything in my womb or will find a missed miscarriage. I'm a bit confused as to if they say that I'm not 12 weeks but only say 10 weeks, do you still tell people that your expecting? Or would you wait another 2 weeks to tell people?

Seriously, I must sound like a crazy lady right now

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WiIdfire · 02/09/2015 14:59

The wait until 12 weeks to tell people is really a wait until the scan, to make sure everything is healthy. So unless you are so far out on dates that they offer another scan in a couple of weeks, then I'd tell away. :-)

shoopshoopsong · 02/09/2015 15:01

There's no rules! If you have calculated you're 12 weeks by your last period, chances are you're pretty accurate give or take half a week.

My first pregnancy I told close people after 12 week scan (and was confirmed my dates were pretty accurate) but told not so close people as and when I saw them and put it on Facebook after 20week scan.

This pregnancy (my 2nd) I've been given a scan date for this Monday, which by my dates I'll only be 10 and s half weeks, but they just for it in when they can as near to 12 weeks as poss. If all is healthy I'll tell family, and just friends as and when I see them

FrancoisLaPrune · 02/09/2015 15:08

I had my dating scan last Tuesday everything was fine - I saw the heart beat but that showed I wasn't as far along as I had thought so I was given another appointment for tomorrow when it will be exactly 12wks based on the measurements they did last week.

I told my immediate family and a couple of friends almost as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I told my boss after my scan last week, I figured I saw the heartbeat and everything appeared ok at that point and I wanted my boss to know because of issues with my last pregnancy.

I won't be telling anyone else until well after my 20 wk scan or maybe until baby arrives next March! I lost my son at 23 weeks in my last pregnancy and having to tell everyone what had happened was too hard. I think I am being superstitious this time but don't want to tell too many people.

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sepa · 02/09/2015 15:13

Thanks ladies. That's helpful as not sure I can keep my mouth shut any longer as I keep nearly accidentally saying stuff as I have known for about 8.5 weeks now

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sepa · 02/09/2015 15:18

FrancoisLaPrune I'm so sorry to hear that. It must have been horrid for you and your DP. We are due around the same time. I am sure that what happened with your son was just a very sad one of them things and won't be the same this time. I really hope that everything this time goes smoothly for you

To be honest, if I could get away with only telling my family and close friends I would but this is due to having family rifts (being my dad) who I don't want to try and get back into my life knowing that he will 'technically' be a granddad

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FrancoisLaPrune · 02/09/2015 16:16

Thank you Sepa. We had all the tests done when we lost my son and they couldn't find any medical reason at all and said it was just nature at its cruelest and just one of those things. Whilst that was little comfort back then, it does make me feel better now. The odds of it happening again aren't high so I'm hopeful.

Sorry to hear you have some family problems - there is no reason why you have to actively tell anyone other than your close family and friends. The news will probably filter out to others eventually but at least that would give you some breathing space before the news gets as are as your Dad! x

FrancoisLaPrune · 02/09/2015 16:17

far as your Dad not 'are' as your Dad!

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sepa · 02/09/2015 16:30

That's good (I suppose) that they couldn't find any reason for it. The chances of it happening are slim anyway so having 2 should be even smaller.

Yeah, I don't think I will be telling that many people. Problem is, is that my auntie will be told who will naturally tell her kids who are friends with my brother (who I also don't talk to) who will tell my dad. We are having scan tomorrow and all being well all brothers/sister and grandparents will be told by end of weekend then we will just see. My DP would post it everywhere if he could which he isn't as I have asked him not to. I'm not deluded, I know my dad will find out in the space of 2 weeks. I just don't want anything putting a dampener on this for me and I know he will....

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FrancoisLaPrune · 02/09/2015 16:38

He will try but don't let him - this is your time, your happy news and your own little family. Just focus on the good stuff and block him from your mind. The best way to get to him is to show him whatever he says or does has no impact. Good luck for tomorrow, come back and share your scan pic!

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sepa · 02/09/2015 16:58

I will try to share it. Will need to get on the computer to do it (as I use my mobile currently) you will have to share yours as well!
It will be good to see how close our due dates are

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FrancoisLaPrune · 09/09/2015 14:30

Hi Sepa How did you get on with your scan? I've not had a chance to log in for ages!

Mine was all good but I didn't get any decent pictures as the little one was practicing aerobics and wouldn't sit still for long enough. The sonographer manager to do all of the visual checks though and everything is where it should be, heart beat is nice and strong and EDD is 18th March.

I'm under consultant care and have been booked in for another reassurance scan on 24th September so hopefully I'll get some proper pics then!

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sepa · 09/09/2015 14:42

Hi FrancoisLaPrune, I haven't managed to log onto the computer to upload anything. I think my pictures are pretty rubbish to be honest. My EDD is 11 March.
It's a shame they didn't get s pic of my bubs at the start as it was in a good position to begin with. The sonogrpher said that everything was fine my end also.

Good luck at your next scan. That is my 16 week midwife appointment where I believe I get to hear the heart beat better.

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