thank you very much for all your responces, I've been worrying about this for ages, why didn't I just ask mumsnet in the first place!!!?!
RockerMummy (and anyone else!):
the money is for home renovations as the builder has gone even more over budget than I allowed for. My mortgage company won't let me add a 2nd lot of further lending to my mortgage until Dec, because their credit assessment system is so crap it ignores the fact that I could afford it (see below) and only takes into account the fact that I've had my 1st lot of further lending recently, so I have to wait til Dec to get anymore.
Here's the breakdown:
my mortgage+further lending is less than I thought, £125 p/m
net pay is £1085
The overspend is £5,000 (assuming they don't find anything untoward once they start taking the house apart......)
I have an unused overdraft and credit card (£2,500+£500)
Luckily for me, there are people that would bail me out if I got into problems with the payments, but I really don't want to use that option as it has it's own complications. At the moment I'm thinking of either going back to work for the minimum 3 months once mat leave is over, or not going back at all and paying back the excess.....I really don't want to be under pressure to NOT do what's best for me and my daughter just because of some short-term financial nonsense....I know having a child is expensive but I think overall I've kept my outgoings low enough to be able to not go back to work much til she's at school??? Sorry, that's a separate and less pressing question than how I deal with current building costs!
thanks again, I really, really appreciate it, I do use MSE but it really helps to talk it over like this xxxx