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50/50 chance my pregnancy will survive.. no.

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sjd114 · 28/08/2015 10:36

Some of you may have seen another thread of mine, after going for a scan on a Monday for them to tell me it was a miscarriage, to go back on Wednesday for another scan, for them to tell me they could see the sac had grown & had a 50/50 chance of it surviving. . I've had the pains and the period bleeding (sorry tmi) very red, clots, all the signs of mc. Have to go back in this afternoon (a week later) and I know that today will be the day they finally confirm what I already knew. :( I'm scared, although I know it's coming. I'm scared, so scared . I don't know what of, just know I don't know if I'm strong enough to deal with it. They left me with nothing, then gave me hope & now it's going to be the end. :(

Sorry for the emotional rant. I'm sat here in years & I don't know who else to turn to. :(

Xx

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Junosmum · 28/08/2015 10:43

So sorry this is happening to you. I don't have any advice, just to say take care of yourself. Take time off if you need and don't push yourself.

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sjd114 · 28/08/2015 10:52

junosmum I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm ok when I'm around people. But when I'm alone, it's the worst. :( thank you xxx

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Reebok · 28/08/2015 11:06

I'm sorry you are going through this. I went through this at the end of July...it was horrible. They saw a sac and gave me hope but I ended up mc the next day. I am now pregnant again and hoping for the best. Please know that you are not alone. You have support here on mumsnet. Sending you lots of hugs. X

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sjd114 · 28/08/2015 11:09

Reebok I'm so sorry you went through this too, it's awful isn't it? I'm so scared about my appointment today :( although I know what the outcome will be. :( Best of luck for this pregnancy & congratulations!!
I've found a lot of support on here, it's incredible, complete strangers giving you some of the best advice.

Thank you x

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scarednoob · 28/08/2015 11:38

I just wanted to say how desperately sorry I am that you're having to go through this. if it is a mc, it is very cruel indeed for nature to toy with your emotions like this. of course the hospital has to be sure, and the only way to do that is to wait, but it's utterly tortuous. thinking of you.

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sjd114 · 28/08/2015 11:49

scarednoob thank you so much . Xx

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cloudjumper · 28/08/2015 14:19

So sorry that this is happening to you, what a rollercoaster. I had something similar happen to me with my first mc, first scan - no heartbeat found, second scan - heartbeat (and all back on track), third scan - heartbeat gone. It is horrible, and there is nothing you can do... Wishing you lots of strength, look after yourself.

Sezramum · 28/08/2015 14:54

I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is a worry enough anyway but what you have been going through must be so awful.

I don't have have great advice but do look after yourself, and I hope you have some support at home to help you get through this.

Cheshirehello79 · 28/08/2015 15:04

I just wish you all the best Sjd and keep us posted. We are all here for support

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sjd114 · 28/08/2015 16:06

Not great news at all. :( had to take the tablet.. then 4 more on Sunday, the sac was very low.. so they think it will be soon.. so now got to go home & wait for it to happen. They packed me with a lot of strong painkillers.. and told me to go right home and wait by a toilet. :( expect pain and a lot of blood. I'm so scared :( xx

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ThePug · 28/08/2015 16:21

sjd I'm sorry to hear it wasn't the outcome you had hoped so hard for. I've been lurking on the March a/n thread so saw your original posts there. I had a mc in April so have been too nervous to join in on an a/n thread yet as it was heartbreaking having to leave the December babies thread.

I wanted to let you know not to be scared about what is to come. It sounds like you have already bled a fair bit so it may not be the horror show you are expecting. My scan that confirmed mc also showed the sac to be very low, so much so they wouldn't give me the first dose of tablets in hospital in case it started on the way home! I too waited by the toilet, too scared to leave the house for days. Nothing happened, even after the second dose of tablets and the sac starting off so low, so the following week I ended up having ERPC surgery which I was actually quite glad of.

Just wanted to offer hand-holding, an understanding ear and reassurance that the physical side may not be as bad as expected. Definitely take it easy over the next few days though and hope your partner will help you through this

Cheshirehello79 · 28/08/2015 16:25

Sjd really sorry about the news - I know no words can make anything better but look after yourself and here for support xx

MyNameIsSuz · 28/08/2015 16:37

So sorry to hear this sjd Flowers

I had a similar headwrecking experience in March, the confirmation scan a week later showed the sac had grown and I had to wait another week to find out what I already knew. It's such a horrible experience, I really feel for you.

sepa · 28/08/2015 20:38

I'm really sorry that this was the outcome. I hope that the pain isn't too bad and passes quickly so the healing process can begin xx

GoooRooo · 28/08/2015 22:04

Flowers I'm so so sorry. It's shit and totally unfair.

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sjd114 · 29/08/2015 11:47

I took the tablet to bring it on yesterday afternoon & nothing so far :( got to take the other 4 on Sunday. :( then if it hasn't happened by then they will call me on Monday and take a different route. It's just frustrating because it's so low and they told me that the one tablet would probably do it. But I've had no pain or anything :( sounds so selfish, but I want it over so I can start again! :(

Thank you for all your kind words. X

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Reebok · 29/08/2015 12:55

I'm so sorry to hear what's happened. Will they not allow it to happen naturally? I've had a natural mc (the one that was 6 weeks ago) and first one was a missed mc...ended up having an erpc which was literally painless and I bled very little...found that route easier as I felt like I had control over it in a way. Be kind to yourself. Hoping it happens quickly for you. Lots of support for you on here if you need it and whenever you do feel ready to ttc again, join the ttc after mc thread. Lovely women who have really helped me through my mc.

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sjd114 · 31/08/2015 12:22

Just had the hospital on the phone, the tablets haven't worked!!!! Has this happened to anyone else? I have to go back in on Wednesday , any advice?! X

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ThePug · 31/08/2015 12:27

sjd as I said up-thread, exactly the same happened to me. Tablets did nothing, despite having been told the sac was very low down before I took the first dose. I was booked in to have erpc the following week and would do it again if I had to; meant there was no more waiting and I could get closure that it was over and start moving on. As an aside, my hospital don't usually offer the tablets due; they only gave them to me because I was meant to be going away the following week and this was the only chance I may have had of being able to make it (I didn't).

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sjd114 · 31/08/2015 12:48

I just want it to be over if I'm honest. :( it hurts so much knowing I can't move on yet. :( will speak to them and see if they can do something as I don't want to take the tablets again . X

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MyNameIsSuz · 31/08/2015 13:06

So sorry this is dragging out, I get that feeling of just wanting to move on. When you speak to them, if they make you an appointment to talk through your options, it might be worth asking them to put you on the list for erpc later that day. They can always take you off if you decide it's not what you want, but if it is then you won't have any longer to wait. My hospital did that for me.

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